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Is Pride exempt from public indecency rules?

405 replies

Libre2 · 05/07/2025 20:29

DD (aged 14) went into London today with a friend she is staying with. I can only assume friend’s parents didn’t realise it was pride weekend and we don’t live anywhere near London so had no idea.

Aside from the fact that it was a complete ballache getting back out because tube stations were closed, DD said she was shocked at some of the things she saw in terms of arses on display with men just wearing “thongs”.

How is it OK to have such sexualised stuff going on in view of young kids?

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JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:44

WingingItSince1973 · 05/07/2025 22:39

You are so beyond deluded! Strawberry chocolate hasn’t the habit of using itself to dominate and abuse other people. As a child abuse survivor who was abused by a man using his sexual fetishes on me I don’t want to have to avoid looking and constantly anxious about seeing these perverts displaying their kinks to anyone around them. How about they keep it to themselves in their private homes or at some kink party where everyone has consented to see it. The world doesn’t revolve around men’s penises and arses and their right to shove them wherever they want! Oh wait it’s seems it does with people like you around to defend them!

When did kink and gay pride become synonymous? I'm sorry you had that experience that's horrible. Kink is not what pride is about.

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:46

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:44

When did kink and gay pride become synonymous? I'm sorry you had that experience that's horrible. Kink is not what pride is about.

Yet kink is the most obvious thing about these parades.

SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 22:47

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:42

You hit the nail on the head. You...are not accepting.

So how far does your acceptance go exactly? Do you have any boundaries for minority groups ? Because you seem to have a lot for the majority? Or does your tolerance and acceptance only work one way ?

BundleBoogie · 05/07/2025 22:47

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:22

Walk the other way if it offends you sooo much.

You sound just like the woman who said that the 9 yr old girl should ‘just look away’ when confronted by the erect penis of a trans identifying male (who turned out to be a convicted sex offender) in the naked women’s sauna.

ClarafromHR · 05/07/2025 22:48

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:42

You hit the nail on the head. You...are not accepting.

So you think that we all should see people’s fetish gear on the high street? How kind of you.

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:48

BundleBoogie · 05/07/2025 22:47

You sound just like the woman who said that the 9 yr old girl should ‘just look away’ when confronted by the erect penis of a trans identifying male (who turned out to be a convicted sex offender) in the naked women’s sauna.

Yes. That exactly the same thing. Christ. You're disgusting to even suggest that.

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:48

BundleBoogie · 05/07/2025 22:47

You sound just like the woman who said that the 9 yr old girl should ‘just look away’ when confronted by the erect penis of a trans identifying male (who turned out to be a convicted sex offender) in the naked women’s sauna.

That’s what women and children need to do. Look the other way, walk the other way. You’re a homophobe if you challenge this behaviour.

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:49

SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 22:47

So how far does your acceptance go exactly? Do you have any boundaries for minority groups ? Because you seem to have a lot for the majority? Or does your tolerance and acceptance only work one way ?

Gay people are the majority group? Since when?

lifeonmars100 · 05/07/2025 22:49

What are your thoughts about all the men who go around bare chested as soon as the sun comes out.

BundleBoogie · 05/07/2025 22:49

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:23

No way, these people should be in jail, if they’re not already.

Sadly, they are the special caste and apparently exempt from the normal rules.

IButtleSir · 05/07/2025 22:49

BloodandGlitter · 05/07/2025 22:16

And what hours that? In our local city it's not uncommon to be seeing it at 7pm on freshers night or other student celebrations. Parents don't have to voluntarily take their children to pride either.

But why shouldn't parents be able to take their children to Pride? It's a day-time event. Gay under-18s and children of same-sex parents should be just as welcome there as adults.

Fellontheground · 05/07/2025 22:49

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DaniO2 · 05/07/2025 22:49

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 20:41

Arses aren't inherently sexual

I think a gay man might disagree with you there... 😅

I think some people are either incredibly naive, or just want to be seen as totally cool and liberal and forget about safeguarding as long as no one can accuse them of being a bigot.

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:50

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:48

That’s what women and children need to do. Look the other way, walk the other way. You’re a homophobe if you challenge this behaviour.

Another ridiculous statement that has nothing to do with this discussion.

TempestTost · 05/07/2025 22:50

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 22:44

It's about men dressing how they want to dress....

Sexualised behaviour in public is not appropriate. Sex is great, but it belongs in private, not in public spaces in the middle of the day.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 22:50

1978

This is a photo from Pride in 1978

Leather and thongs have been part of Pride for as long as there's been Pride

Is Pride exempt from public indecency rules?
SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 22:52

WingingItSince1973 · 05/07/2025 22:39

You are so beyond deluded! Strawberry chocolate hasn’t the habit of using itself to dominate and abuse other people. As a child abuse survivor who was abused by a man using his sexual fetishes on me I don’t want to have to avoid looking and constantly anxious about seeing these perverts displaying their kinks to anyone around them. How about they keep it to themselves in their private homes or at some kink party where everyone has consented to see it. The world doesn’t revolve around men’s penises and arses and their right to shove them wherever they want! Oh wait it’s seems it does with people like you around to defend them!

Sorry you felt forced to share that story 😥. What a horrible experience for you. I hope life is treating you well.

People like that poster will only ever defend the loudest coolest cause. Everyone else becomes cannon fodder.

Let's hope we don't break out into a war. That poster will be cowering behind all her chap wearing blue haired non binaries whilst they'll be running over her to get away and suit themselves.

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:52

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 22:50

1978

This is a photo from Pride in 1978

Leather and thongs have been part of Pride for as long as there's been Pride

Making the argument that pride has always been about fetishes isn’t quite the flex you think it is.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 22:52

DaniO2 · 05/07/2025 22:49

I think a gay man might disagree with you there... 😅

I think some people are either incredibly naive, or just want to be seen as totally cool and liberal and forget about safeguarding as long as no one can accuse them of being a bigot.

Straight men like arses too

Doesn't make them sexual

DaniO2 · 05/07/2025 22:53

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 22:52

Straight men like arses too

Doesn't make them sexual

I mean if they are used in a sexual act, then yes, yes, it does.

Isittimeformynapyet · 05/07/2025 22:54

Colango · 05/07/2025 21:09

To be fair to what I said, your daughter could have walked out of Oxford st to far worse if some serious protest was going on, which it does from time to time in cities. I tend to not go on any big London match days either as can be intimidating with drunk football hooligans

What do you mean "to be fair to what I said"? I'm not sure that even makes sense, but OP wasn't being "unfair" to what you said.

There was no need to come back to defend/repeat yourself. You had your say and insulted the OP - just leave it there.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 22:54

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:52

Making the argument that pride has always been about fetishes isn’t quite the flex you think it is.

I'm just refuting the argument that it's something new

But it's also obvious there is an undercurrent of homophobia even if people are acting like there isn't

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:55

SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 22:52

Sorry you felt forced to share that story 😥. What a horrible experience for you. I hope life is treating you well.

People like that poster will only ever defend the loudest coolest cause. Everyone else becomes cannon fodder.

Let's hope we don't break out into a war. That poster will be cowering behind all her chap wearing blue haired non binaries whilst they'll be running over her to get away and suit themselves.

What the actual....so gay people are cowards now as well as everything else they've been accused of on this thread.?!? I despair.

Horseebooks · 05/07/2025 22:55

SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 21:57

So you think it's acceptable for arses to be out at an event that's public and not age censored?

Yup

SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 22:55

BundleBoogie · 05/07/2025 22:49

Sadly, they are the special caste and apparently exempt from the normal rules.

Two tier system as I said up thread.

More and more people now belong to the "special group". And it's straight white women behind them with their placards. It's all very clever really. And it's worked.

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