Friends’ ‘night time’ noises in holiday cottage!

[Slimlampshady]

We’re on holiday with another family. We’ve been on a couple of holidays with them before - long weekends in a cottage etc. All very lovely and this is no different, except…

…on both of the nights I have heard them at it, and last night my DD(8) did too!

Their family have the two bedrooms upstairs. My family have the two downstairs. They have kids in one room and adults in the other which is directly above the room I am sharing with DD (DH and DS are in the other room next door).

Our friends aren’t being unreasonably loud. It is completely silent in the cottage at night. You can almost hear the spiders breathing, it’s so quiet. If they were screaming the house down it would be different. But I have heard them briefly at the, er, crucial moments both last night (just her) and the first night we were here (both of them). Last night DD asked ‘Did Katie just shout?’ when actually she’d just heard Katie do something very different!

Would it be unreasonable to say something? I have known them a long time and we are very close friends so I can make a joke out of it. I just wouldn’t want to embarrass or upset them.

I would as your daughter heard. They probably have no idea, as you say they're not being performative!
Also is there any way for your daughter to listen to an audiobook or story while she goes to sleep? An Alexa or even your phone out of reach

No, I don’t think it’s worth it.

I probably wouldn't bother, your DD doesn't know what the noises are and you've said they're not being over the top. It will just embarrass them.

I wouldn’t say anything. Maybe they are TTC

I’d let them enjoy their holiday.

I’d vote for some audio books or a radio playing quietly at night. Good on Katie!

I’d say nothing. You can’t expect them to abstain, and it doesn’t sound like they’re being noisy.

White noise?

You can expect them to abstain. It’s incredibly rude to be having sex in a quiet house where there are children and other people who do not want to hear you have sex. It’s entirely inappropriate and super disrespectful. I can’t even believe people are like oh well they’re on holiday blah blah ew no. They can go get a hotel room alone!

I probably wouldn't say anything. Quite normal to enjoy a bit of shagging on holiday and they're not being outrageous about it.
Maybe you and your dp should join them? Separate rooms doesn't sound much fun!

The probably don't know that everyone can hear them.

That’s nuts. A couple having sex quietly? It’s really not ‘incredibly rude’.

This is why we take white noise machines with us when we go away Covers all manner of sins!

Sounds like they’d be absolutely mortified if you told them you can hear, so I would just do as others have said and play music or white noise or something.

Maybe you should put both your kids in the room your DH and DS are in, get your DH in with you and stop being a teeny bit jealous

If you can hear them then they can hear you. I’d just talk a bit loudly to DD about something and hope they get the message.

Yeah I don’t think it’s rude. If they were being all ‘When Harry Met Sally’ about it then fine, but it wasn’t that at all. Just, like, one noise.

It was mainly because DD heard last night although I told her it might have been an owl! 😃

Good luck to them, I say. If our DCs weren’t likely to murder each other whilst sharing a room I might be in with DH and being an owl myself. But sadly not.

Even if they’re having sex quietly they can still be heard. Surely they’re aware of how quiet the house is. Have they taken alcohol OP?

I would say something like ‘did you hear something’ right after ‘those noises’ to at least let them, they’re audible 😅

But a big no for directly telling because that’s just one of the pitfalls you accept surely on such breaks!

Nooo! Holidays are FOR having sex - people are a bit more relaxed, maybe had a glass or two of wine with dinner - it’s the perfect time for a bit of horizontal romance. You already know they have sex, so a little bit of noise shouldn’t be surprising. Just tell your DD they’re probably having dreams or talking in their sleep if she asks.

Tell her it might have been a beaver 😂

They're not having sex quietly if downstairs can hear her shouting.

Tell her op. No one should have to listen to that.

I'd mind my own business, turn on some white noise for the kids and deploy headphones or earplugs myself. It's their holiday too.

Say something. If the cottage is as quiet as you say it, they know exactly what they’re doing.

Aren't their own kids in the room next door to them, then? So presumably they can hear at well if it's audible downstairs.