Friends’ ‘night time’ noises in holiday cottage!

[Slimlampshady]

We’re on holiday with another family. We’ve been on a couple of holidays with them before - long weekends in a cottage etc. All very lovely and this is no different, except…

…on both of the nights I have heard them at it, and last night my DD(8) did too!

Their family have the two bedrooms upstairs. My family have the two downstairs. They have kids in one room and adults in the other which is directly above the room I am sharing with DD (DH and DS are in the other room next door).

Our friends aren’t being unreasonably loud. It is completely silent in the cottage at night. You can almost hear the spiders breathing, it’s so quiet. If they were screaming the house down it would be different. But I have heard them briefly at the, er, crucial moments both last night (just her) and the first night we were here (both of them). Last night DD asked ‘Did Katie just shout?’ when actually she’d just heard Katie do something very different!

Would it be unreasonable to say something? I have known them a long time and we are very close friends so I can make a joke out of it. I just wouldn’t want to embarrass or upset them.

A bit off point, but why are you not sharing a room with your DH?

They're not intentionally being noisy. They're just enjoying themselves. On holiday of all places!! Are you a bit jealous?

OP isn’t concerned by any of that though. The Q she actually has is should she let her bestie know that she can be heard as in would her friend would to know and if so, how to broach it. But people going off on a tangent as usual lol.

Sounds like they’re having the fun you should be having

Kids can hear. It isn't ok. If they're like that on holiday they'll be like it at home. Someone needs do tell them to fuck quietly, for their kids sakes.

Absolutely this. It’s not a big ask for people to abstain during g a short holiday with friends.

I don't know how long you are staying there for but if they're married with little kids they've probably had their weekly session now and won't bother you again !

Erm… I answered her question in my first sentence…? To leave them alone to enjoy their holiday.

Blimey. That stretch must have dislocated something.

Eh??
Wow. Where in the OP did you interpret that 'they must be getting off on it's? Have you ever made a noise during sex, or are you too busy clutching your pearls?

I hope I don't shock you when I say this, but <whispers> some of us actually enjoy sex.

I do often wonder about the ‘others’ who populate this realm.

It isn't just their holiday though, it is also OP's holiday and her DC's holiday. It isn't much to ask for some consideration and to keep it down even if they aren't intentionally doing it.

I'm sure they wouldn't want OP's DC hearing them at it.

Your description of “audible orgasm noises” is giving me the heave 😂

But it definitely is to do with how good a shag you’re getting. Easy to keep quiet when it’s lacklustre.

I’d be ramming my head in the pillow, screaming, and telling folk I’d stubbed my toe if it was an issue.

You: Did you hear two foxes shagging last night?
Friend: No?
You: Neither did I, but someone or something was making a similar racket 😀

Grow up

I wouldn't say anything on a adults' holiday, but with young children in the house who are asking questions I absolutely would. If they are close friends it doesn't have to be a big deal.

This is one of the weirder things I’ve read on Mn, which is saying something.

Can't quite believe some people are suggesting it's ok to ask friends to "abstain" on holiday because there are children in the house. If my friends said this I'd think they were mental and wouldn't go on a holiday with them again. In response to the question, no you can't say something! Your child had no idea what she heard, they're not being intentionally noisy (which I agree would be gross and inappropriate), it would be embarrassing for them and making a joke of it would be really juvenile of you. Just put on some music.

You really shouldn't fake it/shout so loud downstairs can hear it. There's no medals handed out.
Kids shouldn't be subjected to obvious and loud sexual activity. It can be viewed as abuse.

😂😂😂😂

Wtf does this even mean?

Holidays are great for having more sex than you might do at home. Put your kids in a room together and get it on too.

I would have shouted to them at the time your daughter heard them!

And this readers, is a prime example of where we miss the 😂 reaction .

Go and unclench somewhere else.

You think it's weird to expect people not to have sex audibly when they are sharing a house with you and your kids?

Talking about ramming your head in the pillow and screaming, insisting that you can only have sex if it's mind blowing pillow screaming sex, it's all fucking juvenile. I know what pillow screaming sex is, I know what being super quiet quickie when you get the chance sex is. You shouldn't be aiming for pillow screaming mind blowing sex when people you know, especially children, can hear you. If you don't grasp that you need to grow up!

Haha. Yeah someone's imagination is going into overdrive.