Friends’ ‘night time’ noises in holiday cottage!

[Slimlampshady]

We’re on holiday with another family. We’ve been on a couple of holidays with them before - long weekends in a cottage etc. All very lovely and this is no different, except…

…on both of the nights I have heard them at it, and last night my DD(8) did too!

Their family have the two bedrooms upstairs. My family have the two downstairs. They have kids in one room and adults in the other which is directly above the room I am sharing with DD (DH and DS are in the other room next door).

Our friends aren’t being unreasonably loud. It is completely silent in the cottage at night. You can almost hear the spiders breathing, it’s so quiet. If they were screaming the house down it would be different. But I have heard them briefly at the, er, crucial moments both last night (just her) and the first night we were here (both of them). Last night DD asked ‘Did Katie just shout?’ when actually she’d just heard Katie do something very different!

Would it be unreasonable to say something? I have known them a long time and we are very close friends so I can make a joke out of it. I just wouldn’t want to embarrass or upset them.

I'd say christ did you hear that screeching last night what a racket must've been wild animals while staring at her .

Let them enjoy their holiday! It doesn’t sound like they are swinging from the chandeliers or anything.
As for your daughter hearing, just be creative in what you say “maybe she stubbed her toe” “oh she’s sleep talking” “I think it was an animal outside”.
Honestly, hearing married adults have quiet sex on the odd occasion isn’t going to traumatise a child.

If youre close enough to holiday together, close enough to bring it up lightheartedly.

I’d be furious if my child heard that! It’s highly inappropriate and what about their own kids??? If the entire family is on the same floor! Sounds like they’re getting off on the fact that everyone (including kids) can hear them, that’s disturbing.

This. It’s not just their holiday! It’s everyone else’s as well so no, I jolly well would not just “let them enjoy themselves” at the expense and discomfort of everyone else

You could mention owls and say 'Gosh, did you hear those noisy owls in the night?!' Noises really carry in a quiet holiday spot, don't they?! I can even hear the spiders breathing. If they have any form of intelligence, they will twig.

Did Katie actually cry too wit too woo?

It is absolutely inappropriate when kids can hear.

Are they exhibitionists by nature op?

My DH can be very loud at a 'certain' moment. We make jokes about him becoming very religious praising the Lord saying 'OMG I'm coming!' & how, when staying an a hotel we would just say that he likes to pray loudly around 11pm or in the mornings😂

However in reality I put my hand over his mouth & he does his best to supress the urge to praise the Lord when we're away from home.

But there was the time when we were staying in the next hotel room to friends & we discovered that we had a rather wobbly headboard. We both sat on the bed bouncing around making love making noises in the middle of the night to wind our friends up.

I would discreetly mention how lovely & quiet it is & how sounds travel. I'm sure your friends would get the hint.

If not, your DP could nudge your friend's DP (in a lad's way over a beer) & mention that they obviously got it on last night. Nudge, nudge, wink, wink 'you lucky you' type of thing.

Dramatic rubbish.

Bash the ceiling with a broom handle once the groans start coming through.

Presumably they have sex at home & generally children are on the same floor as parents.

Wow you're very melodramatic.

Another vote for white noise.

Download an app and play it through your phone. The grey / brown noise ones work best for me and although it will seem annoying initially, you soon tune it out.

Just leave them to it.

So dramatic. OP said it was not over the top at all.

Yes, the child didn't know what was going on. However I'd rather children didn't hear my bedroom activities & would rather be told if we were too loud. But then, as my PP we'd take steps to make sure that they didn't hear.

We regularly have GC to stay, would be mortified if they heard us 'at it'.

I would just say « me and OH were pissing ourselves laughing - we heard you shagging last night »

Make it a joke!

this.

I would only say something now that your daughter has said something

Some bonkers responses here don't be doing the nudge nudge wink wink nonsense or say you've been pissing yourself laughing. All very immature. Either speak to them to don't but I doubt they are doing it to be performative or showing off that they're having sex.

No way would I keep my gob shut if my kids could here them and asking about it!

They need to know so they can STFU because if you can hear them, their own kids can too and, well, eeeewwwww!!!!!!

Surely mates should be able to give each other the heads up and just laugh it off? It doesn't have to be deep.

Just tell friend that DD asked you if Katie was shouting so you told her she was probably having a dream and raise your eyebrows- all you need to do and she’ll get the message hopefully

Taken alcohol where?

Someone shouting loudly enough that downstairs can hear is over the top.
They need telling, God knows what their poor kids have to endure at home and yes sex is very normal and healthy but shouting so kids can hear is not.