Friends’ ‘night time’ noises in holiday cottage!

[Slimlampshady]

We’re on holiday with another family. We’ve been on a couple of holidays with them before - long weekends in a cottage etc. All very lovely and this is no different, except…

…on both of the nights I have heard them at it, and last night my DD(8) did too!

Their family have the two bedrooms upstairs. My family have the two downstairs. They have kids in one room and adults in the other which is directly above the room I am sharing with DD (DH and DS are in the other room next door).

Our friends aren’t being unreasonably loud. It is completely silent in the cottage at night. You can almost hear the spiders breathing, it’s so quiet. If they were screaming the house down it would be different. But I have heard them briefly at the, er, crucial moments both last night (just her) and the first night we were here (both of them). Last night DD asked ‘Did Katie just shout?’ when actually she’d just heard Katie do something very different!

Would it be unreasonable to say something? I have known them a long time and we are very close friends so I can make a joke out of it. I just wouldn’t want to embarrass or upset them.

I know, I’m just jesting.

Ahhh sorry 😆
tone lost

OOh.. good for you.. would you like a medal? How about a nice gold star, or a little sunshine stuck by your name on the class board?

Defensive much?

Stick on some white noise and ignore!

Lol. I'm not defensive. I'm also not a prude.

I'd have said oh don't worry maybe she had a bad dream and leave it at that.

No point making a fuss over nothing,

Well, she had been told her sex life was shit because she said it was possible to keep the noise down. Seems like Elephants can't win.

A shit sex life AND I'm a prude.

I love a measured response like this on an insane Mumsnet thread. Everyone losing their minds over this and this is all it comes down to.

Your response has the bonus element of fun of OP’s daughter potentially asking Katie in the morning about her bad dream that had her shouting out 😅

Two birds, one stone.

you're the one that replied to my post.. if it didn't apply to you, why reply to me with the details of your sex life? What on earth made you think i want to know that about you?

Talk about uninvited oversharing.

You’re going to need some help with the cognitive dissonance this thread has caused.

Is there any way you can subtly mention how quiet it is at night, and hope they get the message? While having sex is a perfectly normal thing to do, it's a bit much for everyone else to have to listen to it every night.

Was It you who claimed anyone who objected to this scenario was a prude? If so, that's why I responded to you. Because I object and I'm not a prude, that's my point 🤨

no i said it was an exercise in spotting the prudes.

You clearly thought that applied to you.

I did not at ANY point, ask you to chronically overshare about your sex life with me. The fact you don't seem to understand what is SO wrong about that shows just how big of an issue you have.

Now THAT is vile behaviour.

Yuck. I’d find the thought of my kids or my friends (or even their kids) hearing us at it just the biggest turn off ever 🤢

I feel like you and some others are really telling on yourselves because it’s actually not possible for everyone to not make any sounds, but yes I’d expect them to try their best to be quiet but the odd noise - which OP has said it was, is completely normal and something to be politely ignored

I’m with you! Next time book 2 separate cottages.

Telling on myself? What?
if you can't have sex silently when other people are in earshot don't do it maybe 🤷🏼‍♀️

Apparently they have silent orgasms. Desperate to tell the world what a saucy minx they are otherwise though, dipping in and out of fetish clubs of a weekend.

Is it like a Charlie Chaplin movie where a black panel and the words “oh my god fuck me harder daddy!” come up on the screen?

Oh fgs just say to dd Katie was sleep talking and don't make a thing of it. They're on holiday!

But you’re making that up because OP has specifically said they’re not being really loud but the house is silent so they can hear more then what they would normally

I'd really hate hearing my friends having sex. Not sure what I'd do though. I'm sure they'd be mortified but doesn't that mean they should know?! Even a "just so you know it's very quiet here at night and you can hear EVERYTHING"

I don't get the big deal at all. I don't think sex should be this taboo.