Friends’ ‘night time’ noises in holiday cottage!

[Slimlampshady]

We’re on holiday with another family. We’ve been on a couple of holidays with them before - long weekends in a cottage etc. All very lovely and this is no different, except…

…on both of the nights I have heard them at it, and last night my DD(8) did too!

Their family have the two bedrooms upstairs. My family have the two downstairs. They have kids in one room and adults in the other which is directly above the room I am sharing with DD (DH and DS are in the other room next door).

Our friends aren’t being unreasonably loud. It is completely silent in the cottage at night. You can almost hear the spiders breathing, it’s so quiet. If they were screaming the house down it would be different. But I have heard them briefly at the, er, crucial moments both last night (just her) and the first night we were here (both of them). Last night DD asked ‘Did Katie just shout?’ when actually she’d just heard Katie do something very different!

Would it be unreasonable to say something? I have known them a long time and we are very close friends so I can make a joke out of it. I just wouldn’t want to embarrass or upset them.

I'd probably make a comment like "the walls are so paper thin here .. I can hear DD sneeze in the next room"
Just letting them know the soundproof is not there.

White noise app on phone and play loudly.

Why purposed misquote me too… like I said a couple having sex in a quiet house especially where there are children NOT having sex quietly.

my neighbours occassionally have loud sex with the window open which I find rude because we are very close to them house wise. However in my old flat my neighbour had normal volume sex and clearly wasn’t trying to be inconsiderate so I didn’t find it rude. It’s all context.

edited to add that as my loud neighbours don’t do it regularly, I haven’t commented to them as they are in their own home. However if you’re sharing a house with someone for a couple of days it is rude.

Totally giggling stupidly at' it was an owl', lol. Sorry, maybe soft music / tire the kids out during the day so they sleep through anything? Even 'owls'??

The thing is the op has experienced a snapshot of how loud this couple are whilst fucking. If they can be heard downstairs even in a quiet house <which most are during the night>, they are too loud.

Their kids are subjected to this all the to time at home. Kids being exposed to obvious sexual activity even if it's their own parents can be unpleasant for them and in some cases be classed as sa.

The op should tell them to keep their shouting down for the sake for everyone within earshot, it isn't ok.

Have you read my posts? It wasn’t ‘shouting’. They weren’t ‘loud’. And it was absolutely quiet in the cottage.

The issue was that despite their quietness, the even-more-quiet cottage meant that their single gasps could be heard.

'Last night DD asked ‘Did Katie just shout?’

You said shout.

All houses are quiet on a night. You need to tell your pals to be quieter for their kids sakes.

As you said, you can make a joke of it- so why not joke about how poor the sound attenuation is in the cottage and how quiet is is at night. The problem isn’t them- you shouldn’t be able to have reasonable sounds carry like that. Everyone deserves privacy.

I honestly thought I’d read it all on Mumsnet. Are you genuinely asking why children shouldn’t be exposed to sex noises? Honestly, the mind boggles.

But they don't know what it is!

We're not talking about sitting them down and going at it in front of them, but if they hear one random noise that does over their heads then what's the problem?

It's like how there are sometimes jokes for adults in kids films that fly right over their heads and you don't realise what they are until you're an adult. It's fine.

As they don't know what the noises signify, no it doesn't matter if they overhear.

I'm not suggesting letting them watch people having sex, you know.

Just pointing out that for them to overhear noises which they don't understand is really not a problem..

Oh come on, they'll soon work it out and if their parents can't show some common sense and discretion now I very much doubt that they'll think 'oh shouting in a very quiet house may be overheard by the kids and be excruciating for them' at anytime in the future.

They need telling they could be heard on holiday, they'll be able to be heard at home. Those poor kids.

I think, kindly, you need to be an owl.