Friends’ ‘night time’ noises in holiday cottage!

[Slimlampshady]

We’re on holiday with another family. We’ve been on a couple of holidays with them before - long weekends in a cottage etc. All very lovely and this is no different, except…

…on both of the nights I have heard them at it, and last night my DD(8) did too!

Their family have the two bedrooms upstairs. My family have the two downstairs. They have kids in one room and adults in the other which is directly above the room I am sharing with DD (DH and DS are in the other room next door).

Our friends aren’t being unreasonably loud. It is completely silent in the cottage at night. You can almost hear the spiders breathing, it’s so quiet. If they were screaming the house down it would be different. But I have heard them briefly at the, er, crucial moments both last night (just her) and the first night we were here (both of them). Last night DD asked ‘Did Katie just shout?’ when actually she’d just heard Katie do something very different!

Would it be unreasonable to say something? I have known them a long time and we are very close friends so I can make a joke out of it. I just wouldn’t want to embarrass or upset them.

But most houses are silent on a night. Do you have your telly on full blast 24/7?

Kids shouldn't be subjected to adults shouting having sex.

Could you ask innocently if everything was all right as DD "thought she heard you shouting at one stage"? That might let them know they can be heard without it becoming embarrassing.

Can you expand on that?

I think I would let it go if it didn't bother your daughter. She probably hasn't thought about it since and it doesn't sound like they are being loud or inappropriate.
If your daughter was worried/ scared then have a quiet word if they can try to keep it down as it's waking your daughter up. I don't think you need to be clear it was sex you heard.

I would likely have sex on a weekend away with my husband if my kids were asleep in the other room. Can your daughter not share with your son so they’re beneath the children’s roo
and then you can have sex with your husband too!

Do the British thing and start coughing loudly and thump on the ceiling with a broom!

Is anyone else wondering why people think their kids would be scarred for life by hearing their parents have sex?

Surely most people have heard their parents at some point. I know I certainly did, and no, they weren't being performative, but beds squeak, and sometimes people make noises.

Hell, it's only been the last couple of hundred years that families weren't all living in the same room, and I'm pretty sure humanity managed to get from the dawn of time to the 1800s without every single person being scarred for life by the sound of their parents going at it.

They aren't the only ones on holiday though and should be considerate of that.

Thanks for the replies everyone. I have concluded that there is such a degree of Boss Level madness on here that I think I might have to ignore all of you and go with my gut. Sorry to the sensible ones.

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Maybe Katie is on mumsnet and reading this thread right now...

Why though? It’s a holiday!

I hope so. She’s just gone up to bed so in about twenty minutes I’m expecting to hear her come. Hopefully she’ll dick about in here for long enough for me to be asleep.

Laughed so much with some of the replies on this post!
Let's us know if they go for the hat trick OP and I think your response should be based on their performance. Breakfast could be interesting 😄

In about 20 minutes after heading to bed, for the third night in the row!!! That lucky duck!

This one made me proper laugh out loud 😂

No! I’m not prudish at all! I could genuinely never be counted as prudish in any way. I just think it’s inappropriate to have sex when there are other people in the house that can hear you. Especially children. I truly just think it’s bad manners (and actually for children it subjects them to something they should not be hearing!)

Right?! in fact THIS is one of the weirdest things I’ve read on mumsnet.

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i was expecting this to be a spooky thread!

Me too. Kinda glad it’s not now though because I can’t sleep and …….

If your kid didn't realise what was going on, I wouldnt mention it.

I couldn’t be bothered about this- like you said, they don’t seem to be exhibitionists about it. I’ve stayed in plenty of hotels on holiday where I’ve heard total strangers going at it- let them have their holiday! Your child didn’t even know what they were doing.

If you were away in an hotel, and could hear strangers next door being 'vocal', would you ignore it all week, or go to reception to complain?

If nothing else, I think you should make your friends aware that they 'can' be heard, in case it gets worse and explanations are required by the children.

I’d honestly just leave it.

you said yourself, it’s a very quiet cottage so I’m sure they’re trying to be as quiet as possible.
as someone said, your dd doesn’t know what she heard so just play it off.