Friends’ ‘night time’ noises in holiday cottage!

[Slimlampshady]

We’re on holiday with another family. We’ve been on a couple of holidays with them before - long weekends in a cottage etc. All very lovely and this is no different, except…

…on both of the nights I have heard them at it, and last night my DD(8) did too!

Their family have the two bedrooms upstairs. My family have the two downstairs. They have kids in one room and adults in the other which is directly above the room I am sharing with DD (DH and DS are in the other room next door).

Our friends aren’t being unreasonably loud. It is completely silent in the cottage at night. You can almost hear the spiders breathing, it’s so quiet. If they were screaming the house down it would be different. But I have heard them briefly at the, er, crucial moments both last night (just her) and the first night we were here (both of them). Last night DD asked ‘Did Katie just shout?’ when actually she’d just heard Katie do something very different!

Would it be unreasonable to say something? I have known them a long time and we are very close friends so I can make a joke out of it. I just wouldn’t want to embarrass or upset them.

Which would lead to your daughter having more questions? And then you’d say “it’s them dirty bastards, shagging”.

What?

There's nothing rude about it!
Everyone has sex, especially on holiday.

Well, most people do. Are you always this prudish?

We've seen threads on here where people were subjected to their parents loud shouts during sex as kids and how it disturbed them.

Like it or not kds should not have to listen to it.

What and alerted her DD - and everyone else in the house - to something happening in their bedroom rather than the reason that was given?

Dear me. This thread is an eye opener, and certainly helps to explain the vast number of 'living in a sexless marriage' posts.

I remember hearing my then mother in law having a really excellent time very very loudly. I turned to my then husband and he just rolled his eyes.

The speed is irrelevant. If I’m lying there not making a sound, it’s not sex. Your “silent orgasms” have given me a laugh though. Do you let out a quiet “oh my that’s nice dear” at the very least?

I’d be mindful of the kids. That’s why the face would be in the pillow 👌🏻

Yeah the child didn't even know what it was and people are suggesting making a massive scene about it. Is bizzare the way people are projecting here. Quite unhealthy in fact.

Our kids must have been scarred for life then.

FFS there are some prudish killjoys on this thread.

This is the kinda reason I don’t like holidaying with others especially not in shared accommodation, I’d bloody die of embarrassment if someone overheard me and DH. We once went a city break and stayed in hotel room next to BIL and SIL and I was like not a chance do not even think of it !!!

I think it’s more weird that you and your husband have separate rooms and sleep with your kids.

Yeah they probably were if they heard you shagging on a regular basis 🤷🏼‍♀️

😆

Ditto

We all have sex. If people/kids downstairs can hear then your performance is absolutely inappropriate. Just stop trying so hard, it's not a competition and seriously no-one else wants to hear it.

Kids have indeed been scarred for life listening to their parents fucking loudly.

Just try and ignore it and don’t go on holiday with them again.

The best case scenario would be for Katie to say over breakfast, “Were you shouting about something last night? I heard funny noises!”

Katie is the shagger.

I’d have alerted them that we could hear them. Not shouted ‘stop having intercourse you dirty bastards’. They can shag if they want, I don’t want to hear it and I wouldn’t want my children to hear it. It’s just about being considerate.

this thread is such a 'spot the prudes' journey XD

OP, yes i would say something, but what depends on how close you are with them.

I'd either say something pointed about how thin the walls were and it being surprising how much sound carries at night when it's quiet.. with a pointed look and possibly a wink/smile at my friends.

Or

I'd flat out say "DD heard you last night.. glad you're making the most of the holiday, but just be aware how much we can hear downstairs" and leave it at that.

So you have gone from 'couple having sex quietly' to 'Tory sex perverts indirectly molesting young people!!!'
Do you write for The Daily Express?

I've had sex with 70+ people, men and women, had threesomes, foursomes and orgies, been to sex clubs and fetish clubs. I'm not a prude. I just know how to respect other people and not to impose my sex noises on children.

Ew. Abs fine for them to be going at it on hol, make as much noise as their etc BUT not when sharing a place with another family for crissakes. I'd be put off ever sharing with them again

You’re a right bragger is what you are.

I type as I speak, West Country accent.

I might sound prudish but there’s no frreakin way I’d be at it on a family holiday sharing a cottage. But prob wouldn’t say anything to them

Hardly. My sex life is the stuff of nightmares for most mumsnetters. But calling me a prude because I think it's shitty behaviour to have loud sex where your friends and your kids and other people's kids can hear you is laughable.