To dump dog in one of my husbands offices he works from

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I will preface this with he is a lovely dog, well trained and behaved.
but I never wanted a dog, and said it, but got overruled.

Fast forward 8 years.

Husband has left me, children have left home , and I am tied to him.

I love him, but want the freedom that the rest of family have

Haven’t been on holiday for 3 years - husband was away just for example for 79 days last year.

Would he not be willing to look after the dog while you went away?

Do it! Do it with knobs on.

He is too busy, and can only have him on rare occasions

option 1 - husband keeps dog, and takes full responsibility for care including arranging walker etc
option 2 - rehome dog and husband pays generous donation to local charity for the privilege

It’s not the dogs fault. Don’t “dump” him anywhere. If you don’t want to look after him anymore, go through the process of rehoming. There will be plenty of people who are in a position to look after a dog/want to.

I wouldn’t, if you don’t want it get it properly rehomed.

Get him to agree to have the dog for a couple of days and then refuse to have the dog back.

Why didn't he take HIS dog when he left?

Option 3 is there someone you know or know through a friend who would also like a dog on a part time basis and then you can share the dog and go away on holiday.

I'm totally with the OP. You said you didn't want it, and were overruled. His dog his responsibity.
If he asks you to take it back, tell him you know it's ruff, but he's barking up the wrong tree 😀🐕🌳

I don’t want to regime him!

i love him, but don’t see why I should have to be the full time caretaker.

Cos he's too busy.

I know you feel aggrieved but ultimately your suggestion would be taking it out on the dog really. So getting it rehomed would be the only solution. What else is there if you want freedom cos obviously your ex doesn't want the dog.

Drop ddog at a friend or relative of his..

But as you say your ex doesn't want the dog and dumped it on you so what alternative do you have? You can't make him want the dog.

I never actually asked him that!

Poor dog 😔

Sorry I should clarify more as just read my post back.

I don’t want to dump him forever, just want to go away for a bit as struggling which my family know.

But they are all to busy to commit to taking him.

My son can apparently take him for 3 days at end of month so I can go away with daughter, but now she can’t do those dates.

What is wrong with putting him in a kennels while you go on holiday. Obvious solution surely

If this is a temporary thing. You need to talk to him and check he will actually do this, but also if this is a couple of days or a week or two why not a friendly kennels?

If it’s just for a holiday, then put the dog in kennels or leave him with a home boarding or dog sitting business like most people do when they go on holiday.

Well really that's just the reality of having a dog, nothing to do with your husband ultimately as he doesn't want to know. I can understand the frustration but you have to remove him as a possible solution to your problem and then work from that.

Say this to ex and grown up kids. Point out you are looking after and paying for dog you didn't want so can they all please assist you to find a dog sitter or suitable kennels and assist with the cost, as it is not unreasonable for you to want to have a break too.

Rover.com is good - had two excellent dog sitters from them. Find someone who will either home stay or that the dog can go to. Suggest Ex pays bill. You get a break.

He went in kennels for a week and I now has separation anxiety

this.