To dump dog in one of my husbands offices he works from

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I will preface this with he is a lovely dog, well trained and behaved.
but I never wanted a dog, and said it, but got overruled.

Fast forward 8 years.

Husband has left me, children have left home , and I am tied to him.

I love him, but want the freedom that the rest of family have

Haven’t been on holiday for 3 years - husband was away just for example for 79 days last year.

I had a dog share - me and an ex boyfriend - for a few years. It worked surprisingly well. Obviously, your ex should in principle be your sharing partner. But if he won’t is there another friend or family member who would be interested? (and do you think the dog would take to this?)

Sign up for Borrow My Doggy. I did it before I got my own dog. There will be someone nearby who wants to walk and hang out with your dog. If you want to go on holiday you could also look at rover.com and pawshake.co.uk, I’ve used both of those. It doesn’t solve you being the sole person in charge of the dog, but if you don’t want to rehome then these woils
give you some options.

just rehome the poor bloody dog

So now you have a dog problem and if dog went to your ex maybe it would suffer with separation anxiety at his too?

I would say to ex-husband - can you please have dog when I am on holiday or I will need to rehome him? Let your children know. He needs to step up if he wanted a dog. Dogs are a lifetime commitment.

Get someone to come and house sit him in your own homes worked wonders with my rescue dog who has separation anxiety, get your exdh to pay

Well then you can’t go on holiday.
Your ex isn’t going to help.
Dogs are a tie.
or what about a holiday with your dog?
Not sure what you want from this thread as you’ve dismissed every suggestion given.

If you don’t want the dog then rehome him properly.

If you do want the dog, but want a break then find a suitable dog sitter. By just dumping the dog at one of your husbands offices then you have no guarantee that husband will care for the dog or that you’ll ever see the dog again. He might just dump the dog at a rescue centre himself.

Knew there was a reason I don’t post regularly on here.

I have been here since the very beginning of Mumsnet.

I didn’t want a dog..

I love him dearly.

He is VERY well trained,

He loves going to offices as everyone fusses him because he is adorable.

dumpmhim was definitely the wrong word to use, but Injust mean Inhave had enough, can’t pin anyone down and want to go away.

He does not need rehoming, I love him even though I didn’t want a dog.

Look at home boarding if kennels is a no go. Some people will even come and stay overnight in your home. We’ve used a home boarder for DDog before.

Ex husband claims to be too busy. Not is, just claims. If you say you are going to leave him at his office, you must 100% be prepared to go through with it. Having checked his company will fetch your DH and support you.

He wouldn’t, but he also doesn’t step up - but if I left him in an office(safe environment and everyone loves him), then husband would have to take him home as he couldn’t look like the uncaring arsehole he is

What about a dog sitter, where he'd stay in their home like part of the family? We'd never put our dog in kennels but she stays with a dog sitter a few times a year so we can have a holiday/long weekend away. She also takes our dog out for a walk once a week (we do the other days!), just to keep the familiarity there.

Wouldn't the dog have separation anxiety tho if you left him?

Get a dog sitter like every other person. You let the dog stay when ex left, so now you just have to pay someone to look after him.

It’s not rocket science.

If you just need holiday care then find someone that looks after dogs in their own home for money.

I looked after my friends dog recently (not for money). He has separation anxiety to her apparently. Yet the minute she walked away he swapped his affection to me. Dogs are way more adaptable than we think.

He doesn't need rehoming, you love the dog! but you're willing to drop him in an office, you think H will all of a sudden care what happens to him. Haven't you got a friend or family member that can stay at yours or pop in a couple of times a day or take the dog with you

Probably, but not if he was with another family member.

'My son can apparently take him for 3 days at end of month so I can go away with daughter, but now she can’t do those dates.'

Surely just rearrange for when both are free and able?

Forget the ex. You seem to want him to have the dog out of a fairness issus but it won't be fair on the poor dog who will be with someone who doesnt want it. Or, as others have said use home boarding.

OP can you afford a decent kennels or house/dog sitter while you’re away?

The dog has probably become attached to you but if you don’t / can’t love the dog , perhaps he can be rehomed with someone who wants him.

I am already sad at the thought of this dog lonely in a shelter until someone chooses him

. Be super careful about rehoming him. Either someone you trust or a LEGIT shelter. You don’t want him ending up as bait in dog fighting ring. Sadly does happen. 😢

Please DONT dump him at your exes work or anywhere. It’s a being worthy of respect & trusts you & loves you - even if you don’t love it .

tell DH you are “dumping” dog in one if his offices unless he pays you £X per month for its up keep and to pay for someone to walk and kennel it while you get on with your life

Do you have any friends that would love a dog for a week? I know a few people who would.

He used to take him regularly in the offices and he is happy there and everyone loves him.
husband would have to step up then and be accountable and not the arsehole he is really. So would all be fine as he wouldn’t show his colleagues the true him.
which has also given me a kick up the arse that he is a co pretend arsehole and on,y worried about his image with his work colleagues!