My boyfriend is going back and forth with his ex fling.

[Jakielove]

My man of 6 months is going back and forth with his ex fling of a year ago. I found these messages on his phone because my gut was telling me to check. Messages were of him telling his ex how he doesn’t like how she acts, how she wasn’t special to him etc. Basically texts of them hitting low blows with each other. Keep In mind this relationship lasted on 3 months and ended a year ago. He was the first man she ever slept with, he claims that he doesn’t care for her. Yet why respond when she sends a text ? She sent her number over to him and told him to call her, and I seen the call log and he ended up calling her smh ……. I don’t know what do do ? He claims no feeling are involved

How old are you both?

Run.

leave them to it and find someone else

I would walk away from this one ,leave them to it.

He's not "your man".

25

dump him tonight - do it now. There's no point trying to figure out why he's still going after her - just dump him and move on.

Find someone who wants to be just with you. This guy isn't into you he still loves his ex. Huge red flag.

Walk away, they are still interested in each other and you’re going to get hurt.

She's not his EX and he's NOT your man!

Don't waste your time with shit like this. It doesn't matter why they do anything- leave them to it and move on. You don't want to be in the middle of this

Why are you wasting your time with a man who is messaging (for whatever reason) his ex fling?

OP you deserve better, seriously. There is no question to answer here. He's a dick - go and look in the mirror and repeat many times over 'I deserve better'.

He's not your boyfriend. Don't waste your time. Chalk it up to experience and don't get fooled again.

Get dressed up, gather some friends, go out and meet someone else immediately. Raise your bar. Ask relevant questions on first and second dates. Then listen.

You are presumably looking for a serious long term partner, not a lifetime of misery.

Just leave, this isnt going to end well for you.

His attention is on her but you provide the sex I assume.

Dump him. No good will come of this for you.

Are you that desperate to be with someone rather than no one? Because that’s the only reason I can think of as to why you haven’t dumped him. You deserve better than him, get rid.

She posted her feet on social media and he replied to it saying “long feet”

I’m not but I don’t want to make a mistake. Do you think feelings are involved.

What mistake are you afraid of making exactly?

He's obviously still feeling something for her or he wouldn't bother engaging at all. Gather your pride and self respect and leave them to it. He's not worth your time or attention.

What would you tell your best friend if she came to you with the same scenario?

You aren't making a mistake by refusing to have a boyfriend who wants to be with someone else. You don't even have to say anything, just silently quit and see what he does. In the meantime, meet someone else. Tell yourself and him if you prefer, ' I deserve better'

You're even stalking her social media! I can guarantee you he is not stalking yours and worrying you might prefer someone else.

If I were you I'd run. I was the girlfriend and I tried so hard to save a relationship where ultimately he went to the fling. It was confusing for a while who was the fling and who was the girlfriend, I assumed I was due to how long we'd been together and she thought I was a colleague. He's enjoying the ego boost and probably telling you both sorts.
He will ultimately choose the easiest option. Get rid now and save months of heartache while he dithers.

Do you think he has feelings for her though or is it just an ego thing ?

I personally think he isn’t really into her … I think he’s just trying to get an ego boost