To be furious about inevitable menopause

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I don't have it yet, 43, feel on top of the flipping world professionally and emotionally (that hollow dragging anxiety of youth is all gone).

But I know that any bloody moment now the brain fog and anxiety and insomnia and prolapse will come for me and ruin it.

I'm so damn angry.

Also, does anyone know if I could just start taking the contraceptive pill now and maybe stay on it for a decade and come out the other side without any of the symptoms?

I have had no menopausal symptoms really - it doesn't have to be that bad.

Not everyone experiences negative or severe symptoms. No point worrying or getting angry – but be aware and get on with your life.

They’ll be ovarian renewal in pipeline prob not in time for us though. Glad to hear you feel great :)

I started taking HRT as a preventative/protective measure last year when I turned 50. I had no signs of menopause and definitely none of the symptoms you mention. I feel great and hope that the HRT keeps me feeling this way.

I took the pill from age 40 to age 50 because a dr told me I would be through the menopause by then, so have no menopause issues.
What actually happened was I stopped taking the pill and my hormones fell off a cliff. Started hrt 6 months later.
In hindsight it would have been better to have a gradual decline I think.

I hate to say this, but that anger and fury you're feeling might be the start of it.

Seriously, it might not be too bad at all, and if it is then assuming you have no contraindications, HRT is the way to go. It's wonderful stuff.

I’m a similar age and I’m the youngest of my friendship group; nobody is struggling particularly. At work, I’m surrounded by inspiring women in their 40s/50s/60s who are doing really fantastic things. Apart from having irregular periods, my mum sailed through the menopause (and did her PhD during the same time). It’s not inevitable!

You're furious about something you're not experiencing and may not even experience? That's a bit bonkers really isn't it?

Being angry (or scared) will only make it worse for you because your mind will amplify every possible twinge as a sign. Be accepting of the natural cycle and curious about the next chapter of your life and you might well have an easier time of it.

Oh, and think of the savings on your heating bills 😉

The contraceptive pill isn't HRT so not sure why you would do that? Unless you need it for contraception, you want HRT as it's lower doses and more bio identical to natural hormones.

Furious about getting old? That sounds good for your health. And the menopause is the cessation of menstruation, it doesn't mean you are ill or disabled any more than starting your periods did. You managed that when you were about 12, so I think you will be okay with this.

I already have this and have since my late 30s.😥

But I know that any bloody moment now the brain fog and anxiety and insomnia and prolapse will come for me and ruin it.

I started experiencing the horrendous tiredness and my periods started getting shorter and lighter, so I started on HRT patches about three years ago. The tiredness sorted itself out and I haven't really had any other symptoms.
It's not necessarily going to be terrible for every woman.

I've had no symptoms at all. No night sweat, no hot flashes, no brain fog. Just the end of periods which was very welcome.

I’m delighted to not have periods every month anymore. I have Endometriosis, and trust me, the Menopause has been a cake-walk compared to heavy bleeding, flooding, pain so bad I thought I would pass out.. as well as the horrible effect on my bowel.

HRT … I feel fine

YABVU to waste your time being angry in advance about symptoms you may not even get.

well, its coming for you wether you like it or not! (maybe you will get lucky though and sail through).

I started HRT a few years ago now for insomnia, brain fog and joint pain mostly. I also lost over 7st in weight, started exercising regularly, eating healthy, developed a 'I couldnt give a shit' attitude about the opinions of other people.

Even with some annoying symptoms Im still living my best life right now. It doesnt have to automatically be bad!

I can’t wait for my periods to finally stop completely.

not everyone has negative side effects. I would gladly trade a few more for the cessation of my horrific menstruation. Peri is dragging on forever.

Why are you furious about something that you have no idea how it will affect you or if it will affect you at all?

Maybe stop reading all the articles spouting doom and gloom and see what happens. 🤷‍♀️

I’m not sure if being on the pill will make a huge difference if you get symptoms. It is true that some women get very few or very mild symptoms.

But for the majority, the peri menopause will have an impact. So you are wise to think about it now and perhaps start looking at complimentary products (vitamins, collagen etc) to get a head start.

The good news is that we have much more available to us than any other generation of women before us. Both in terms of information and medication.

YANBU to be angry about the prospect. Looking back now, I can see that my mood/feelings of anger were probably one of the first symptoms that things were kicking off. Along with sleep disturbances. I was about 43/44 at the time.

Oh and this is another thing. Every single emotion, physical sensation or bloody food preference is now met with "oh that will be peri!"

I'm less angry than I've ever been in my life. I'm still entitled to be intellectually angry that my brain and professional standing and peaceful relationships will all be taken away from me for no reason. I didn't have kids cos I don't like them why do I have to do this ovary related nonsense!

Again why are you jumping to those conclusions?

Loss of oestrogen means loss of youth & ageing. Thank goodness for HRT.

Honestly what a load of petulant nonsense.

Im 51. My professional standing and peaceful relationships haven't gone anywhere.

Not everyone gets these symptoms.