To be furious about inevitable menopause

[Fragmentedbrain]

I don't have it yet, 43, feel on top of the flipping world professionally and emotionally (that hollow dragging anxiety of youth is all gone).

But I know that any bloody moment now the brain fog and anxiety and insomnia and prolapse will come for me and ruin it.

I'm so damn angry.

Also, does anyone know if I could just start taking the contraceptive pill now and maybe stay on it for a decade and come out the other side without any of the symptoms?

It doesnt affect everyone the same way. Do t let fear of the future spoil the present.

I’m 58 and all my friendship group have had different experiences. I did spend a lot of my 40s being quite angry but there were reasons for that, the physical
symptoms didn’t start until I was in my 50s. HRT helps, but staying active and eating well also helps, as well as making time for self care (whatever that means for you). Menopause isn’t a thing to be dreaded, it’s just a part of life just as puberty, periods, childbirth etc are. I agree with @mynameiscalypsoI know lots of awesome women my age and older starts g businesses, travelling, having adventures …it’s not all bad!

I am probably in the relatively early stages of it but I have found shutting off periods with a mirena and taking a small amount of oestrogel each day has worked wonders.(I will start to up it if symptoms re-emerge) Before that I was getting terrible anxiety and horrific periods, that were fortunately very short but regular and rage/crazy behaviour the day or two before the fun began and real exhaustion. It didn’t actually feel much at the time but I feel much more on an even keel and energetic. Like a man might feel (!) It’s made me realise that even my quite mild symptoms were actually quite debilitating. So my advice is to shut down the menstruation, and that makes a huge difference.
it is annoying we have to even deal with any if this but at least there are now some treatment options

Op two days after this “furious” menopause thread, you post…

I was fine more or less except that I've had hormonal depression and anxiety for my entire adult life. Now in my forties I'm feeling the best I've felt emotionally since I was about 8 (in a good way, I was a chill 8 year old). While things could all go tits up I am not convinced everyone gets a bad menopause. I will get into hrt for osteoporosis prevention reasons in due course

so I’m confused. Are you “furious” or are you now pretty relaxed about it?

I'm still entitled to be intellectually angry that my brain and professional standing and peaceful relationships will all be taken away from me for no reason.

goodness, one for hyperbole aren’t you?!

Any particular reason you are posting baity replies to a two month old thread?

Researching hrt

This could make me very unpopular but I think thst although it is necessary to speak about menopause and acknowledge some women have a dreadful time, the discourse has slipped too far the other way into assuming all women will be in the horrors! I had a hysterectomy and life has been wonderful. A few backaches and pains and a bit of weight gain , all of which can be dealt with through medicine or exercise is nothing to the years of hell of my reproductive years. Loving my 50s tbh. You could be the same !

Like pretty much all the major things in your life- what parents you were born to, what sort of education you had, who the main relationships in your life are etc etc it's a lottery. menopause alike all major life things is not created equal- it could be hellish, or it could be fine. As a rational person i thought my menopause would likely be bad, because my female relatives (mother , maternal grandmother) had lots of symptoms such as hot flushes, night sweats etc. My menopause was bad but it was anxiety depression, insomnia and brain fog that got me-not one hot flush-so you can't tell.

That’s not a reason though, is it? You can read through the thread for useful stuff without posting snide replies to the OP two months out of date.

Contraception pill or injection does not stop menopause symptoms
You will still get
Hot sweats
Crawling skin
Insomnia
Forgetful
Anger

But it will stop you getting pregnant

What brought you to a menopause thread I wonder

I was doing a phd, submitted and went into psychosis from anxiety.

I hope you sail through menopause too, but don't count on it- all my female relatives sailed through with a few hot flushes.
I, however, had serious insomnia combined with one period of depression followed by a second period (4 years worth) of clinical depression , I never had a hot flush.
I conclude that looking at your female relatives menopause is not necessarily helpful.