To ask when your looks started to fade?

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Feeling a bit depressed, I split up with my ex a year ago (I’m 35 now) and worrying that he had all my best years and I will never find anybody because I am old.

I chanced upon a comment written on a wall in a classroom. It said "Mrs ZippyStork needs a facelift".

Reader, I was 35.

Depends on what way!

I'm late 40s and with the help mounjaro I look lovely and slim now :) I've also had braces so my teeth look a bit nicer and I can smile!!

I've definitely noticed this year though, that the wrinkles are appearing :( the neck is going :( so I am looking older definitely ! But in some ways I look better than I did late 30s!

46 and look the best I have in years. Mainly due to lifting weights 5 times a week and not drinking alcohol

I'm 41 and feel in my absolute prime.

I've just hit 50 and I look better now than I did in my 30s.

I'm 47 and have yet to reach my prime 😁

Why are you worried about it? Just accept yourself for who you are. Good friends and family are the most important.

I’m not being rude im 35 and have two small children ( so am tired )
There is no way I look as good as I did at 25! I rolled out of bed and washed my face and I always looked fine. Now I can see when I am tired . My skin isn’t as bright. My body isn’t as toned and I’m never walking around trying to compete with a 25 year old !
But I think I loom alright ! Definitely tired after children but I have nice hair and nails and skin and dress nicely . Had some Botox on th frown and I am happy ! But I will never look like I did at 25. I think that is the sort of peak. But I hope I have 5/8 more years of looking as I do now!
I am sure you look fab. It’s all about confidence. I was so unhappy in my 20s I would hate to go back to that point.

45 for me. I’m now 50 and look vastly different to a decade ago. Am starting to feel old now too with joints beginning to creak!

This is actually bang on, I hated my twenties and would not go back.

This thread makes me sad. Most of the older women I know are far more lovely for their scars, their laughter lines, their mellow wisdom, their ruffled hair, soft bodies, kind eyes and flushed faces from contented dog walks and gardening.

Not so far (64). Bumped into an old old friend from the 1980s - so my eldest is same age now as I was then. He said I just hadn't aged like he had. He's balding, bit of a beer belly and grey, so yes he did look his age, but is still an amazingly interested and very kind person.

I also went into a big outdoor bar, it was a beer festival, I was wearing my leathers as I'd arrived by motorbike. It was a real flash back to the 80s, as I know the leathers suit me and make me look taller, slimmer and younger and I can still charm with my dimples according to DH - but about 3 of the male bar tenders rushed to serve me despite a queue, just as would have happened to me 40+ years ago. DH found it hilarious, but appreciated not queuing.

(OK I so do dye my hair about twice a year - I'd been to a posh do about a month previously so had far less grey hairs, but I'm a good 2 stone heavier than I was back then. I stay out of the sun, don't do beach or foreign hot country holidays, cover up/ slap suncream on and wear a hat, and avoid frowning so less wrinkles than many of my friends, but I think the key is smile lots and be pleased to see people, interested in them, and above all be kind and those are winning qualities)

Edited to add I agree about the confidence. In my 20-40s I was mega confident.
I've had to work on it since.

I was a model in my twenties, looked very much of that time. Ate very little, thought I was overweight, but actually borderline anorexia. Did a lot of catwalk work, met famous models who starved and took drugs. Hated it. Looked like Princess Di, so always had work.
Fast forward forty years, much happier with my looks, eat healthy, would never have Botox or any work, happy to grow old naturally. I actually think I’m in my prime now, because life has taught me that it’s people and experiences that matter. Every wrinkle is a wrinkle earned. But I have more laughter lines than wrinkles, so it’s a win for me.

43..
poof covid, surgery, peri menopause, weight gain and now I look like my mum. I’m on a bit of a mission to get this all back.. but the last 2 years I’ve been a bit miserable about my looks.

Im 39 and my partner told me yesterday that even though I look more mature than when we met 11 years ago… he prefers my looks now, I’ve grown to like myself more despite the fading looks, and gained a lot more confidence.
it made me tear up (blaming the hormones though) 🙈

45 onwards

Mid 40’s 😭

55 and utterly fabulous :)

I would say mid 50s during the menopause. I also put on a lot of weight then and looked awful. I've since lost it and look much better but at 63 need some work on my face.

I’m 54 & bloody amazing! I look confident & healthy, trendy and happy. I am smart, resilient, self assured and a fucking catch. (My partner thinks so too and has known me since my 20s) :D

Start lifting heavy weights, and eating a high protein diet, if you have the means and inclination. It's transformative.

LOVE this! ❤️

At 49 I feel the best I've looked since 29, plus I'm a lot more confident.

🥰 I’m on it.. I used to weigh train for 8 years my body just fell apart after surgery for endometriosis that Covid flared. My pelvic area was screwed so I stopped training .
Praying my muscles remember my 30s and early 40s body!!

Good luck! 🙌