To ask when your looks started to fade?

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Feeling a bit depressed, I split up with my ex a year ago (I’m 35 now) and worrying that he had all my best years and I will never find anybody because I am old.

She is 33 so I doubt that makes much difference.
im just being daft.

It does actually, it’s replacing the hormones and its the loss of hormones they can age people quicker.
It also makes women feel better and therefore have the motivation to look after themselves better.

I have aged of course but a bit of Botox and good hair means I still get a lot of attention for my looks. I’m 50.

51 almost to the day. Before then I looked older obviously but still pretty good in an older way. 51st birthday just starting to look old 😳

It definitely made me look fresher when I started using HRT age about 47, noticeably so. I had quite a few people ask if I’d had stuff done which I hadn’t.

Last year when I got six rounds of chemo. I now look like a different person.

https://www.theguardian.com/science/article/2024/aug/14/scientists-find-humans-age-dramatically-in-two-bursts-at-44-then-60-aging-not-slow-and-steady

I am about to turn 45 and I can confirm that 44 has felt like a dramatic shift. I can’t pretend I’m young anymore! I put on weight more easily, my face has aged, my skin looks older all over, eye bags are suddenly even worse.

I don’t look awful (yet) as I am still just about avoiding being overweight and I exercise and make an effort but I feel like it takes 10 times more effort just to stay afloat as looking ok-ish.

The day I was born.

My looks took one swatch at the mirror and said "I am going outside. I may be some time". 🤷‍♀️

Love that. I'm just shy of a week in on HRT and I think just being able to sleep again will make me look better!

50, with menopause. But I didn't care by then.

Don't be hard on yourself you're still young! I'm 43 and though I was past it but still get the glad eye sometimes

I was never a beauty, so no "looks" to fade really. However, I did start noticing my skin was losing it's elasticity when I was in my late 50s.
I think the changes are usually quite slow and gradual, so you have time to get used to them.

Same. To quote Deirdre O’Kane, my face has fallen into the sea.
Someone sent me a random snap the other day - we were both 35 - and I can remember at the time thinking I looked awful!
Obviously, time moves on but I really noticed the difference from about 53.
Thinning hair, baldly lashes, a beard and a double chin to grow it from.
I did used to have Botox now and again but stopped as it didn’t make me look younger and it gave me terrible headaches.
Saw a pic of my mum at age and thought she looked so much older, but realised she looks the same as me. It’s just the Blanche from Corrie hairdo, the blouse and the huge glasses that added years.

Past it at 43! Who made you feel like that? I can get more creeps and catcalling now than I ever did when younger, it doesn’t end

@Disturbia81 I can guarantee you it will end.
I stupidly Tweeted that I missed the wolf whistles a few years ago on Twitter. I saved the reply as it was historic:
If becoming an old woman means becoming an old woman like you, I hope I never get to be an old woman at all.
I was 49.
To be fair amongst the abuse I received, I did get info from younger women that they didn’t just get whistled at. It was the leers, language, physical blocks, gestures, threats and worse which I’m glad I’ve never encountered.

Met my OH 4 years ago when we were both 50. He’s very handsome.

We can’t be 19 forever, nor would I want to be. I’m not a believer in looks ‘fading’. I don’t see that in people. Especially people I know and love. I notice a lot of people in their 80’s and 90’s who still look incredible. And they’re more interesting because of their life experience.

This is so wonderful!

I will be glad when it ends!
I get men shouting things at me from vans, creepy things whispered to me walking along the road, bus drivers stroking my hand etc. I hate feeling like a prey item when I’m a human being with a personality and life
It started at 12 🤮 and I’m sick of men being pigs to women.
I look forward to not being seen as a sexual object by the pervs of this world. My mum was getting propositioned in her 70s though but the abuse stopped

A couple of years after surgical menopause, so 45. My skin texture seemingly changed overnight and wrinkles suddenly hit.
It’s depressing. I’m slim, active, take care of myself but, when I look in the mirror, all I see is ‘old’.
I see some strikingly attractive older (& even ‘old’) women, but I’m not going to be one of them.

61 and feeling great just lost 1.5 stone, buying sexy underwear, in my mind I'm a goddess 🤩

You go girl!

I’ve grown into my looks, mainly from confidence. I look my age I think (56) though I make attempts not to (dying my hair, weight loss injections). I’m lucky with my health and on the whole with my partners. Not everyone is going to like the way I look but I’m good enough and I don’t worry about it much.

I wish I’d have appreciated my youth a little more in my 20’s and 30’s. Now in my 50’s and although I’m physically fitter there’s a strange old lady looking back at me in the mirror 🤦‍♀️
35 isn’t old though. Wear clothes that make you feel good and carry yourself with confidence

Post menopause a bit at 50, I’m mixed race and as they say Asian don’t raisin so been lucky with that.

Beauty isn’t just in youth, it’s in how you carry yourself, how you treat yourself, and how you show up in the world. You haven’t missed your moment. You’re still becoming, and there’s so much more ahead for you.