To ask when your looks started to fade?

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Feeling a bit depressed, I split up with my ex a year ago (I’m 35 now) and worrying that he had all my best years and I will never find anybody because I am old.

I'm 45 and still going strong.

I eat blueberries every morning as they collagen in, and I have excellent resting bitch face so not many wrinkles.

I am fucking fabulous really. You need to repeat that every morning in the mirror.

If you want to meet someone, date 5-8 years older. Men in their mid 30s are either still playing the field (yawn), or very career driven and don't want an independent woman.

I've always looked girlish (people never believed I was the age I was when I was younger and I've been told recently I don't look my age) and always been slight in figure. Not bad looking but not stunning, pretty on a good day. I didn't feel conscious of looking older till around mid 50s, feels it's escalated in recent years - mid 60s now.

30s is ridiculous, you're not old. Your skin quality is the biggest giveaway and in your 30s it's not going to be papery, grey and wrinkled.

46 now and look and feel better than when I was 18, slimmer and more toned as I pay more attention to nutrition and exercise along with better hairstyling and dress sense. Age is only a number!

I’m mid-40s and in the last couple of years, my mouth has started to look droopy - marionette lines. So I guess, maybe, 43/44.

How does one make themselves attracted to old(er) men? I only fancy the youngsters! 😭

Late 30s. No one looks at me now

Oh no 😂😂

I'm still a ride 😁😁

35 isn’t old FFS.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder anyway.

AND - why the hell would you want a man/partner who is only interested in looks? Would you not want to meet someone who loves you for your personality? Your soul? Your spirit? Your dreams? Your sense of self? Your sense of humour?

Even when you do get old, getting older is a privilege denied to so many. Don’t take life for granted.

Now go and work on your self-esteem before you get back into dating.

Looking at group pictures of my 20 odd woman local friendship group we are all pretty fresh faced until about 46…. there’s a clear change in everyone from then on

I was probably at my best from 40 - 50.

I’m 62 this year. I’m Spartacus … I mean gorgeous.

You’re 35! I can’t say this enough from the perspective of someone who’s nearly 52 but you’re fine. You’ve got years in front of you. According to my calculations, my looks will peak at 11.27pm tonight, rendering all men on the vicinity blinded by my beauty 💅🏻

Confidence is key here. Work on you, your wellbeing, heath and looks will flourish x

i sing with a woman in her early 70s, we sang at her 3rd wedding a couple of years ago, she runs marathons and radiates joy.
meanwhile I’m 46 and a bit knackered from the juggling life stress and don’t look slim and youthful but you know what if DH left me I’m sure I’d attract someone else.
So while I look a bit crap at the moment, it feels like there is still hope for the future and conventional beauty s not what attraction is based on for most people.

🤣
I do love the sense of humour on here!

You don’t have to go older at all!

Absolutely this!! It’s honestly the holy grail!!

I'm 34 and after nearly 2 years of sleeplessness due to DC, I can definitely say my best years are behind me. I was never attractive to begin with but I belong under a bridge now.

I’d love to be able to say that my looks improved, especially seeing as I look after myself, do yoga, eat well, use retinol, spf etc. but the reality is, I probably looked my best in my early 30s, and started to look very drained and exhausted by the time I was 40. I know it depends on skin tone, menopause etc etc. But in my experience it was downhill after 35.

I look quite ancient at present with health issues, stressful situation and lack of sleep.

I'm hoping once this has improved then I might look less haggard 😊

As someone who also split with her long term ex DH at 35 and has a small child, firstly let me assure you that men will be interested, if that’s what you want. Being 35 and over is not a death knell for dating, and most of the men I dated were younger. It was a lot of fun!

Secondly I do subscribe to the adage “you’re not ugly, just poor” 😂look at the Kardashians.. obviously that’s an extreme example, but as a woman it’s quite simple to make the most of yourself by being generally healthy, drinking plenty of water, having a good skin care routine and knowing what clothes suit you. If you’re confident it shines through.

Lastly, and most importantly, your best years are NOW. You are young, trust me. You also have the benefit of wisdom and a BS meter you didn’t have in your 20s. They were not your best years, though they may have been fun. You have a long stretch of a fabulous life ahead of you with the benefit of experience and knowledge you didn’t have before. I look back at the girl I was and I feel sorry for her, chasing after men (boys) who were literal losers, defining her self worth by an arbitrary male gaze, thinking that it was better to be in a relationship with anyone than be single.

It feels bleak now but you have such an exciting journey ahead of you.

I'm 38 and feel similar to a previous poster. In my early 30s I had 2 under 2 was morbidly obese and forever tired. I've finally, this last year got it together and I feel good. Still tired, but I'm taking care of myself from the inside out. So vitamins, better diet, smaller portion sizes, daily exercise, a strict skincare routine. I'm playing about with makeup and clothes again. I look better than I have done in years and whilst I've got some way to go weight wise I feel a lot better too.

Be kind to yourself.

Yes I’ve noticed my periods of looking older have been dependent on stress levels and lack of sleep, and then reversed once I’m out of it. Babies and grief for example

A lot of people are conflating ‘losing looks’ with ‘looking older’. They’re not the same at all.
Looking 55 when you’re 55 is fine: it doesn’t mean you don’t look good. Older ≠ uglier.

As I posted previously I’m happy with how I look, even though I’m 56. I look pretty much the same as decades ago, but yes, a bit older.

My MIL was gorgeous and glamorous with an outgoing personality. She always had men (sometimes younger) chasing her!