To ask when your looks started to fade?

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Feeling a bit depressed, I split up with my ex a year ago (I’m 35 now) and worrying that he had all my best years and I will never find anybody because I am old.

Attract a fit one by being fit yourself.

Under 45 is still young.

So if you are 35, someone aged 40-43.

I'm 40, and never had much in the way of looks to start with! But I did find that when I implemented a proper "grown up" skin care regimen, and took more care with my hair, I started to look "good for my age".
I've noticed my friends of similar ages starting to look "old" though. Mostly down to dull, tired skin and grey hairs! I dye my hair still though, the same dark blonde I had when I was in my teens. Not quite ready to embrace the greys yet!

She doesn’t have to go older.

At 35, you're hardly moribund. 🙄

35!! Ridiculous to worry about your looks fading at this age. Goodness.

Also try not to focus so much on what you look like. Your future partners can't sit and stare at your beauty all day long. you're going to need more substance.

Worry about it aged 65. Or older. Or perhaps not even then. We evolve as we age.

Menopause.

46, pushing 47. If you asked 1995 me… she’d say I’m a total babe.

45

About 42/43ish

Beat you both! I'm 63 and still gorgeous!

Met DH at 44 and I can honestly say every year has been better than the last. I know I no longer look 21, (thank god!) but I'm very happy with who I am.

I'm astonished at all the people who say 40-45. That is insanely young! There is no reason to give up on your appearance at that age (or any age, of course) I'm 42 and I'm only getting started.

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Never. My youth probably visually faded in my 30s. But I’ve had 3 children and my body is beautiful for growing that life.

side note. Unless you have terrible personal hygiene and bad teeth or are grossly overweight to the point it affects your ability to engage in life you are beautiful. Any man who wants a real relationship will be happy with your body as you are. If he wants a stick thin big bum and voided barbie he’s not worth your time.

not that I have time to date but I’ve dipped my toe after having kids and being single in my 30s. Never had a problem with people not being interested. Even with c section shelf and saggy boobs with a few extra pounds. the problem was they just want sex not a relationship so my advice is hold out having sex for a good few dates because dating these days leads to getting used if you put out too soon. Hold out and sift off some of the scum would be my advice.

My looks faded around the time I had my second round with cancer. Went completely when I had cancer for the third time.

But that was ok, I survived. And I never did judge myself by how I looked.

I've always had so many attributes more important than how I looked. And those attributes survived cancer three times, as has my beautiful but scarred body.

I think the same. I feel better mid 40s than I ever have!

Glad you are here 💐
was it chemo that you feel aged you? My sister had cancer and I didn’t notice her aging but she never had chemo, had other treatments though.

I’m 49 and definitely look better than I did at 35! I was over weight and took little care in my appearance. I did have a baby then though! I’ve lost loads of weight, dyed my hair, take more care with clothes and makeup.

I feel much more attractive now (aged 50) than ever before.

I'm more glowing, physically fitter (stopped drink, drugs and alcohol) and happier.

I’m 49 and have never looked or felt better. There’s a certain confidence that comes with age that’s very sexy. Plus I can now afford the right “tweak-ments”. Your best years are still to come. You have a lot to look forward to!

The only reason you'd need to worry about losing your looks with regards to finding a partner is if you're relying solely on them to find you one.

And if you are, that's not going to be a very healthy relationship.

@disturbed

My husband died when I was 36. I started dating again when I was 38 and got more attention from men than I ever had before – men of all ages and looks, too, including very attractive 20-somethings. I’m 41 now and very happily engaged.

Thanks for your post, I'm glad too 😄😄.

No, it wasn't the chemo, it was the operation itself. It was a tad brutal, though I understand they can now perform it using keyhole surgery.

It took me a good six months before I could come off the heavy duty painkillers, and another six before I got anything resembling resilience back.

But here I am, nearly 15 years later with nothing but a fairly remarkable scar and some occasional back ache. I was one of the very lucky ones. Most people with lung cancer don't get away as lightly as I did.

Being grateful (if a little Pollyanna) is one of the attributes I wouldn't sell for a beautiful face.

Nearly 50 and also still gorgeous.