To ask when your looks started to fade?

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Feeling a bit depressed, I split up with my ex a year ago (I’m 35 now) and worrying that he had all my best years and I will never find anybody because I am old.

Gosh you’re a baby! Quite a few of my friends looked much more attractive at 40 than 30 years old. I think it was a mixture of experience, confidence and looking after themselves better. Maybe having a bit more money for some too.

You can still feel strong 💪🏼and look fresh and well no matter what your age.
You are young- you are bound to feel
down given what’s happened. It will be ok x

Your mum is beautiful. Kindness always shines through x

Never had much in looks… but managed three husbands!
I remember being told in the 1980s by a boyfriend, I wasn’t classically beautiful but I was incredibly sexy…

DH says I am both…. Ha ha bless his cotton socks!

Love this ♥️

Have always been happy with the way I look and still happy in my 60s. Face doesn't look a lot different to when I was 15.

YABU

I’m 35 and I peaked at 28. I was honestly stunning then but I had no fucking idea because I was going out with someone who I liked much more than he liked me and it crushed my confidence. Now my confidence is through the roof but I objectively don’t look as good as I did back then. I’m fine with it though, I had my time (even if I didn’t know it!).

They haven't. I'm 42 and I'm in better shape than I was at 30. I'm slightly slimmer, in that I'm muscular rather than skinny-fat as I was ten years ago, and much fitter and stronger. My skin is great, because I take good care of it. Ditto my hair. have figured out my sense of style and have a great wardrobe. I don't know where the myth comes from that women have an early expiry date whereas men get to be 'silver foxes' but it is some BS. I'm not as anti man as a lot of people on this site are, but that is one clear example of misogyny which really grinds my gears. Bad enough when it comes from men, but super annoying when it comes from women, so YABU.

I’m 59. My looks have changed not faded. As will yours. Everything looks better with a smile and embrace your older face.

Well fucking said.

I’m 57 and I’m absolutely bloody lovely. 😂

Utterly ridiculous. This lie may have initially been sold to us by men, but I find it depressing how many women are happy to go along with it. For a site that is hyper critical of any and every way that men behave, there sure are a lot of people whose critical facilities DISAPPEAR when it comes to this issue, and swallow every patriarchal lie sold us.

I was about 48/49. That sheen on my cheeks has gone. I look dull, pale and blotchy now. My neck has also collapsed! But...meh 🤷‍♀️

However we had a school reunion recently and people told me I hadn't changed, so I'll take that.

Op drink plenty of water, and use sunscreen. You're not old yet.

33 is not younger than 35 in any appreciable way. I would understand a bit more if she were 22, but 33? C'mon now!

Late 30s 😫

Judging by the attention I used to get, everything was gone by 45... I don't care about being not attractive but many things can get you a long way if you have a pretty face.

Yes I’m being ridiculous

You are understandably upset at the ending of such a long relationship. You probably don't quite recognize yourself altogether, and you are using your appearance as a handy peg on which to hang all your insecurity and unhappiness. That is entirely understandable but also futile. I am not usually one to suggest therapy, as it isn't always helpful, but it might be worthwhile to have a little.

Unless you're working hard to counteract the aging process with beauty treatments, healthy lifestyle and possibly surgery then it's an irreversible decline so make the most of what you've got at the different stages of your life and looks. Age is given away by all sorts of details - hands being especially difficult to disguise. The texture of your skin, the firmness of the jawline, the crinkles in your elbow..... blah, blah.
I could mourn the passing of the youthful me but I need to concentrate on what I can do with the latest version of me. Money helps but attitude is key. People don't like being told they look good " for their age" but it's actually a great compliment!

I'm 45 and don't look much different to when I was 35, a few more lines on my forehead but that's about it. I look after my skin and keep fit, so I'm not going down without a fight 🤣

Age 4 , I was cute, slim and blonde up until that point, its been downhill ever since.
I have just spent the day working whilst not realising that I had only removed half my faces facial hair, furry one side, smooth the other, like a before and after, menopausal brain fog = easily distracted

54 and still got it

57 and an absolute goddess.

Around 45 I think.