New neighbour sunbathing in the nude

[ZooHannah]

We moved in to our dream home last month, we have a corner plot with only one direct neighbour who is a (I believe) single man and has always been polite and friendly in our initial conversations.

DH looked out of our bedroom window today to see our neighbour sunbathing completely starkers. He came downstairs to tell me and I couldn’t believe it when I went upstairs and saw for myself.

I want to go round to say something however DH has told me I am being ridiculous and he is on his own property so can go what he wants.

AIBU? I appreciate neighbourly relations but I am absolutely repulsed by this.

Ah yes but has nobody considered he might not be comfortable knowing that OP can oogle at his bollocks either.
It might be polite to give him a little 'heads up' if you know what I mean.

This! 😂😂

FFS 🙄 if he was thinking like that, he’d have an errection. Your post is irrational

Yabu and were being VERY unreasonable to rush upstairs to look then claim to be repulsed!

So he's out in his garden for say, 3 hours. Would it be erect for the whole 3 hours? Think. 🙄

😂😂😂😂

I am sorry but what is the issue?
is this your child window or yours? If that is a child bedroom then put sticker to hiD the view :)
If it is yours, surely it doesn’t matter and don’t look?

I think people have got a lot more prudish in recent years.

I'm 69, and nobody would have thought anything of a neighbour sunbathing naked in their garden when I was in my teens/20s. We'd go skinny dipping at any suitably private opportunity (the outdoor pool at the Selsdon Park hotel was a great spot for a swim in the early hours of the morning, it was always deserted and very easy to get into without going anywhere near the building itself). People getting their kit off at festivals was commonplace, too.

So you’re only allowed to sunbathe if you’ve got a great body?!
Ffs leave him alone. He’s in his PRIVATE garden and you are the one being repulsive here going upstairs and being a ‘peeping Tom’ looking at him and then criticising his body on the internet.
He is doing nothing wrong. He’s in his own garden. He’s not trying to assert his dominance over you when he’s lay on a lounger reading a book!

I wouldn’t have an issue with this. Man in own garden, can only be seen if neighbour looks out of the window. I would probably tell my kids off if they were deliberately having a good stare.

Oh ffs, he’s just relaxing in his own PRIVATE garden.
and how do you know other men don’t do it.maybe all the other men innocently sunbathing in the nude just aren’t unlucky enough to live next to a neighbour like OP who chooses to dash upstairs and deliberately perv out of her upstairs window in order to gawp at this poor man and invade his privacy.
I would not be happy with a neighbour watching me sunbathe in the garden or watch my kids playing in the garden. Who actually deliberately looks out into the garden onto their neighbours anyway? It’s so rude.
The OP is the one massively in the wrong here.

I’m not sure how it would harm your children even if they did happen to look out of the one windiw that has a view of it. They must know men have willies? It’s not as though he’s leering over your fence wanking at you, he’s just quietly sunbathing in his own garden. As he may have been doing happily for years before you moved in.

doubtful. He’s in his own private garden and isn’t exposing himself with malicious intent. intent is a big part of indecent exposure legislation and the only intent he seems to have here is an even tan! Just stop looking at him and tell your kids the human body is natural.

I'd be bothered if I had kids and he was lying there with nothing on .. he could at least wear shorts...

He can do what he likes in his own space, he’s not in public. If you don’t like it, don’t look!

How old are the kids? Surely they will know from a young age that men and women have genitalia? Children need to be taught not to be ashamed of their bodies. I would also be uncomfortable knowing the family opposite were peeping Toms.

He doesn't live on a bloody farm in the middle of nowhere. In which case I would say crack on, swing it around to your heart's content.
From what I can gather he lives within a cluster of housing. So yes he does need to cover it up outside. What if some kid kicks a ball over his fence? "Excuse me Mr can I get my football?" They'll get an eyeful and he's getting on the register.

I’m just imagining if the neighbour was a woman, and she posted here about her new neighbours who were rushing upstairs to the window with a view in order to watch her while she was sunbathing in her garden...

Yes I imagine a lot of different response. Mainly feminist comments 👀

Your partner tells you there’s a naked man sunbathing, you go and look out the window at the naked man, you’re then outraged you saw a naked man 🤦‍♀️

Then their parents tell them its rude to peer over peoples fences and the appropriate actions are to 1/ not kick the ball over someones fence and 2/ go round, knock on the door and ask nicely for your ball back.

No one is being added to a sex offenders register for being naked in their own garden sunbathing, when someone chooses to peer over the fence at them!

He's not swinging it around

And if a kid climbs/ looks into the garden he's not going on a register ffs don't exaggerate

This. Have we become such a prudish nation that we fear our children will go blind at the accidental sight of a naked person? Does naked body now automatically equal threat?

On 'the register' ? What register and for what ?