New neighbour sunbathing in the nude

[ZooHannah]

We moved in to our dream home last month, we have a corner plot with only one direct neighbour who is a (I believe) single man and has always been polite and friendly in our initial conversations.

DH looked out of our bedroom window today to see our neighbour sunbathing completely starkers. He came downstairs to tell me and I couldn’t believe it when I went upstairs and saw for myself.

I want to go round to say something however DH has told me I am being ridiculous and he is on his own property so can go what he wants.

AIBU? I appreciate neighbourly relations but I am absolutely repulsed by this.

Well said. To be fair the OP’s husband simply noticed the neighbour from an upstairs window and mentioned it to her. She is the one who “dashed upstairs to look”, then ranted about how awful and unacceptable it is. Her husband told her she was being ridiculous. Then she came on here and asked if she WBU. Despite all of the considered posts replying, she is continuing to double down and has now started insulting posters replying 🤷‍♀️ I’m very glad I’m not her neighbour.

It is not against the law because it caused OP distress. That's not the definition. It has to be proved that it was against the law, by proving the man did it with the intention to cause distress. Merely causing distress is not against the law. Nor is it against the law to be nude on his private property.

I remember my MIL telling me there was a girl sunbathing naked next door, they were in a first floor flat so could clearly see out of the living room window. She thought it was rather fun. And that was many years ago, where did the prudishness come from now? And she wouldn't have thought anything of it, if it had been a man. Or would it be fine if it was a young woman? or also revolting?

''@mondaytosunday

A nude body is a natural thing.''

Yes, but there are social conventions and laws that tell you when it is appropriate not to wear clothes and when it is not.

This is why people don't walk down the street naked...

They actually can walk down the street naked and a few do. One recently I remember a couple going to the pub naked, I wouldn't want to be crushed against them at a crowded bar!

Respectfully, your post verges on hysteria.

What if he lives on a HA? What if he decides to get rid of the fence?

How about: What if he decides to dance around or jump around on a pogo stick?

The kicker to your post is the "I can just imagine..."
Can you? Can you really....
Maybe you're the one we should be concerned about? 🤔

IYSWIM

It’s not like he’s got the body of a Greek god either - my DH must have 10 years on him and is in far better shape.

What's with the body shaming shit?

So you'd have no problem if he had the 'body of a Greek God'?

Do you think only women with 'perfect' bodies should wear bikinis? Or are they ok to look 'less than perfect' in your eyes?

If your kids are old enough and big enough to be looking out of an upstairs window to see him in the altogether, then they are old enough to understand that an adult can be nude on his own property.

If they are not, then it doesn't matter, because they can't see it anyway.
If it bothers you that much, put up a higher fence or a trellis or something.

What we all want to know is, did the collars match the cuffs??? 🤣🤣🤣

I really don’t see the problem. Even if your kids see him, it’s a naked body. Presumably he’s not doing anything sexual. It’s fine.

He's taking unnecessary risks of being seen by other people. Some men get off on that "risk" as a previous poster said. Seeing the shock on someone's face at being "discovered" one for the wank bank.

Other than being erect, I wonder how a penis looks purposeful? 🤔 😂

It’s not a risk if he doesn’t care though.

I don't get the impression from the OP that he's searching out her face at the upstairs window. If he was displaying an erect penis or wanking then I would support her taking action but this isn't the case.

Or he just doesn't care if people see him and doesn't see it as a risk

How's he going to see the shock on their faces from their upstairs window?

Whether he cares or not, he knows the risk is there, that he could be seen. He's not a 3 year old kid, he's fully aware.

But he's not hanging around naked outside a school, is he? He's soaking up some rays in the privacy of his own garden, which is private property and where he can only be seen by someone going to the trouble of going upstairs to a window from which they can see over the boundary to get a peek at his todger.

You can't compare the two scenarios. It would be a massive false equivalence.

Are your children's rooms overlooking his garden? If so move the kids bedroom to the other side of the house so there is no way they can see him (unless they are over 6ft tall and peering over his garden fence, in which case they shouldn't be!)
I am surprised why you felt the need to go upstairs and check what your husband had already seen. I am sure he is very well versed in knowing what male genitalia looks like?! Or, is it just so you could clutch your pearls?
Seriously, it's his garden, he's not having a streakers festival or anything. Just chill out and have a glass of wine!

You can buy periscopes on Amazon! Just saying 😀.

Maybe they're both staring at each other throught their binoculars?

He’s not taking any risks. He’s entitled to go about his business, while naked, in the privacy of his own garden, just as a woman would be.

He's in his own garden and might well think it's sheltered from view!

He's not laying in the park

And even then, it's only a risk if you care about being seen and judged

Can't do the laughing react since it's been removed but....... 🤣🤣🤣

Selling tickets? 🤣😅😂