New neighbour sunbathing in the nude

[ZooHannah]

We moved in to our dream home last month, we have a corner plot with only one direct neighbour who is a (I believe) single man and has always been polite and friendly in our initial conversations.

DH looked out of our bedroom window today to see our neighbour sunbathing completely starkers. He came downstairs to tell me and I couldn’t believe it when I went upstairs and saw for myself.

I want to go round to say something however DH has told me I am being ridiculous and he is on his own property so can go what he wants.

AIBU? I appreciate neighbourly relations but I am absolutely repulsed by this.

I don't know any adults that sunbath naked in their garden but it must be more popular than I thought.

Hang on, your son walked around with his penis out in front of you and neighbours? Please tell me he wasn’t a small child, PLEASE that’s so disturbing

As has been said many times up thread isn't is NOT flashing or indecent exposure unless he intended to cause alarm or offence

And a man simply sunbathing is not doing anything to cause alarm or offence just because his cock is out

I think op behaviour could be likened to a ‘peeping Tom’

stop looking!

If it were a woman no one would have batted an eyelid at the thought.

And you know he’s not trying to do this, how exactly? Nobody knows! It’s exhibitionism whether it’s on private property or not. As has been stated several times. That’s the law, like it or not.

The law does NOT prevent you being naked in your own garden!

It's not exhibitionism to prefer being naked

Laying sunbathing is a passive act. If he was wanging it around, calling people to look at it etc then yes it would be a problem. But he's not

It’s not exhibitionist he doesn’t even know people are watching.

if he were to throw rocks at their windows to get them to look or is there just windmilling in his garden that is different.

when you see naked people on TV would you also say it’s exhibitionism?

He must know his garden is overlooked, and in that case sunbathing nude is exhibitionist.

My garden is overlooked and I wouldn’t sunbathe nude.

But the poor man can only be seen by OP's children if they go into her bedroom to peer through the window. But DC could be toddlers or adults for all we know, as OP hasn't said.
It's as much indecent exposure/flashing as OP is a voyeur!

Why MUST he know?

He has a fence. OP had to go and look out of an upstairs window.

Perhaps he thinks the area he uses isn't overlooked? I know there are areas in my garden I am fairly certain I am not overlooked and areas where I am certain if someone was staring I would be

Its only exhibitionism if he wants to be looked at. He may simply just not care

No, because women are not sex offenders at anywhere near the rate that men are, and because a thong is not nudity, but nudity is.

I’ve slept on it and still feel extremely uncomfortable about this.

A friend has suggested it’s a man trying to assert his dominance - a single bloke with bravado. That’s not the impression we’ve had from conversations but it would explain how brazen he’s being.

It’s not like he’s got the body of a Greek god either - my DH must have 10 years on him and is in far better shape.

If he is nude in public he might be an exhibitionist, and exhibitionism is a sex offence, that's how.

But he's in his PRIVATE GARDEN!

So a man sunbathing in private is exerting dominance?

And it's ok to body shame men now?

My neighbour sun bathes topless and has the smallest pair of bikini pants ever.
Do i care not one bit.
She`s in her own home garden and not causing any problems.
Same as going to the beach in hot weather some women might as well walk naked.
None of it bothers me i think well why not good for them.

Im a big girl and i have a much larger bikini lol but i want to show a little cheek off as well and i do.
Skinny fat whatever just enjoy life.

You could argue anyone who has a problem with nudity needs to see a psychiatrist about their hand ups. but I do realise in the UK today we have a vast range of views on this - loads of little girls of 6 go to the nearest primary school to my house even with head covering as even showing a leg never mind their hair is something that is appalling to their parents and the primary school allows the head covering even before puberty.
My own compromise is keeping on my knickers when sun bathing. I am not particularly over looked due to trees but anyone did peek over and hates it they could also put up a barrier or screen so they did not have to see what you pay to see in art galleries.

Your friend is talking rubbish. And now you’re criticising his body? Is he only allowed to sunbathe nude if he’s in great shape?

Have you read a single reply on this thread?

Have any of you really not considered that he might just like lying naked in his garden and feeling the sun on his skin?

Or have you just whipped yourselves up into a frenzy about it?

OP you are missing more than few tea cups of a full set. What a hysterical, ridiculous and nasty post! It is hot and he is enjoying sunning him self in the privacy of his own garden. The only pervy one is you looking into his garden.

OP, you say he’s brazen and then body shame him. Has he done anything other than sit/lie in the sun ? Strutted his stuff ? Waved his willy in your direction ? Called to you or your children ?

If not, why are you uncomfortable ?

Stark b@llo*k naked? Nope nope nope! At least wear a pair of shorts to hide the wanger. Risky behaviour in my opinion. No need for that at all.

But it's not PRIVATE because his garden is overlooked. This could be classed as against the law, as OP has been caused distress.