I share 3 kids 7,8,9 with my ex of 2 years. He has booked summer plans to take them all in his van through France for 3 weeks, ending at a waterpark.
Am I being really precious, or is this insanely inadvisable with 3 small kids?
We're not unfamiliar to van life. We lived in one together for 2 years in Europe, pre kids. The van is the 'family' camper, the kids know it well, it's all equipped and goes well when it starts.
But the risks are insane. Huge risk of drowning with 1:3 ratio staying weeks at a waterpark. Tiredness, cranky hot kids, fights, cooking, missing mum, no respite or somewhere comfy to sit and stare at cartoons in a language you don't even understand.
It's not a civil breakup. I have an NMO against him and the kids are only just getting round to being comfortable staying the night at his.
I just feel like this screams 'manchild biting off more than he can chew and risking his kids happiness/safety/lives in the process'
I'm aware that I could do Specific Issue Order but honestly, it would feel a little petty. He does not listen to reason and this is going to be my lot for the next 10 years. So I'm trying to see how this could possibly be an ok idea. Also because I'm trying to balance Positive Outlook with the kids, vs not completely gaslighting them when they raise their own concerns (so far mostly around timescale).
Do we think this could be ok? Am I being precious? Or do I need to try and stop this?
YABU: They're not babies, let them have their adventure
YANBU: This idea is indeed batshit and must be stopped at all costs