Husband commented on Bride’s size and her friend overheard

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As above really. Wedding on Saturday - DH’s mate. We don’t really know his now wife too well, I’d never met her and DH had met her maybe once.

Anyway - as she walked down the aisle, DH said (quietly he thought) to me that it’s a good job the aisle was wide.

I gave him a nudge as to say ‘shut it’.

DH was later confronted by one of the bride’s friends who was sat in front of us who told him she heard the comment and thought he was disgusting (words to that effect).

DH is now worried that this friend would have reported back to his mate, and wants to reach out to say sorry.

I think he should shut it and that his mate probably hasn’t been told. DH disagrees…would you agree it’s best not to say anything?

I've voted YABU for being married to such a nasty little man.

I wouldn't say anything unless it is clear his friend has found out. Why upset him? Bit your DH is a classless idiot. Fancy saying that on someone's wedding day.

Perhaps your husband will learn from this to 'shut it'. Christ on a Crutch, to fat shame somebody walking down the aisle on their wedding day. What a fucking prince.

If his mate does hear what his so called 'mate' said about his wife on their wedding day, it will be the consequences of his actions. And his embarrassment would be nothing near the hurt his words caused the both of them.

I don’t think the brides friend would want to spoil the brides day by saying anything.
Good on her for pulling your husband up though

I’m afraid you are married to an arsehole.

Actually, I wouldn’t be on here asking for thoughts or telling him what to do either way. His disgraceful actions to figure out.

Surely the question of whether or not he should apologise is the least of your worries? What a nasty thing to say, and what a horrible person he is.

I really hope the groom and bride don't hear because that could be devastating to them that one of their 'friends' would say that after being invited to celebrate with them.

If the bride is very big, it might've taken a lot for her to find the right dress and feel special and this kind of comment could be really upsetting. Her friend sounds decent so I don't think she would have passed it on and risked it getting back to the bride.

Your husband sounds awful.

Your husband is a prick and your worried people will find out his a prick?

If I heard that someone had said that about me on my wedding day of all days, I’d have been devastated. Is your DH normally so nasty?

I think people need to be careful not to blame you for your husband's dickhead behaviour. There is no condemnation of your DH in your post though, sadly.

I agree he shouldn't say anything but I do hope the bride's friend tells the B&G and they cancel DH from their lives. He is an utter cunt. Do you see that?

Your husband is an absolute pig.

The bride has a very good friend there.

He probably should tell his mate what he said and apologise so they know the kind of arsehole they are friends with and can act accordingly.

Well thank goodness your Prince amongst men was there to save the day and point out to everyone in earshot that the bride is overweight!!

Hopefully she heard it too, and it will now spur her on to become the thinnest, bestest version of herself! Her new husband will be forever indebted to your wonderful DH and his words of wisdom and they shall remember this day, not as merely their trivial wedding anniversary, but the day that your brilliant DH spoke wisely and they shall bring him gifts forever more!!

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Your DH is massive twat and don't you dare let him off load his guilt on to his friend, let the fucker squirm!

Hopefully the friend will not say anything to the bride, there would be absolutely no reason to, and the bride, and groom will never know.

He should keep his mouth shut unless it’s raised. Your DH is trying to stop the guilt and not thinking of how others would feel if they found out. He will have to live with it won’t he ? Perhaps it will stop him saying nasty things.

Brides friend unlikely to tell tales on his mean behaviour. Maybe you encourage him to learn something from this episode, like some thoughts are best left unsaid and you never know who might be listening. Not a lot anyone can do to stop him having unkind thoughts though...

I can't believe that you're more invested in whether your DH has upset his mate by being overheard making a shitty comment about his wife walking up the aisle, than the fact that your DH is clearly a basic wanker.

You can rest assured she's told everyone else but the bride and groom though, so his dickhead status will be confirmed. How you deal with that is up to you. Don't put your focus on saving his relationship with his mate.

Is he usually so nasty?

Good for her friend, but I can’t imagine she would tell her friend or the groom what he said. What would that achieve?

I doubt the friend will say anything to either bride or groom, she probably won't want to make them feel bad. Is it possible the bride heard though? If she was walking past she'd be potentially as close to your shitty husband as the person in front of him.

Prick. Happily he's taken and not out in the wild for some other poor woman

I would say nothing at all!

Your husband is an absolute idiot. Events like weddings are heavily recorded, and every comment you make is likely to end up on at least someone's phone or video..

As a rule, don't say anything at a wedding you don't want other people to hear!

He likely said what a lot of guest thoughts, but you don't say that!

Ugh 😣 don’t bring it up to the husband, if he isn’t aware it will just upset or anger him. I was at a wedding where some men were saying it was a good job the husband was a plasterer to help put the bride’s makeup on, laughing like children about it 😤

I’d be more concerned about how embarrassed I felt that so many people (she would’ve told all her friends what he said) know that your husband’s such a douchebag. It sounds like a joke my 87-year-old grandad who never got the memo that fat shaming isn’t funny anymore would say

It’s clearly not a comment I approve of and I would be horrified if I was the bride and found out that was said. DH also knows that I’ve been a similar size before (14/16) and worked hard to slim down which is also why it was so offensive.