Husband commented on Bride’s size and her friend overheard

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As above really. Wedding on Saturday - DH’s mate. We don’t really know his now wife too well, I’d never met her and DH had met her maybe once.

Anyway - as she walked down the aisle, DH said (quietly he thought) to me that it’s a good job the aisle was wide.

I gave him a nudge as to say ‘shut it’.

DH was later confronted by one of the bride’s friends who was sat in front of us who told him she heard the comment and thought he was disgusting (words to that effect).

DH is now worried that this friend would have reported back to his mate, and wants to reach out to say sorry.

I think he should shut it and that his mate probably hasn’t been told. DH disagrees…would you agree it’s best not to say anything?

It sounds like this was aimed at you partly then - making sure you know you better keep the weight off. He sounds awful, you should look at your options.

Glad the friend called out your dh very poor behaviour.

I would not say anything to groom and hope they dont know. If he does then I expect friendship will be damaged, no apology will make the couple think any better of dh. He needs to hope friend doesn't say anything to spare the brides feelings.

Unnecessary comment by your DH. Hate it when people think they are whispering when they are not. The bride knows her size, no need for comments. I’d keep schtum.

Well that was a rude comment, but I can't imagine anyone being thoughtless enough to report it to the bride or groom. Does your husband habitually make disparaging remarks about other people's bodies in public?

I was at a wedding once and during the service a visibly tipsy idiot in a tight blue suit turned round and said 'what's her name?' - pointing at the bride.

Utter twat.

She’s a 14/16 and he made a comment about the aisle being wide enough. 14/16 isn’t big. Your husband is a mysoginistic prick and I hope his dick falls off

@FoodAppropriation I thought the exact same thing, very likely that his comment or reaction would have been recorded

So the “joke” was ha ha she’s fat???

grim

Hopefully it hasn’t been reported back as a comment like that will ruin their memories of a special day.

If the comment has got back to them then hopefully the groom drops your husband as a ‘friend’ asap and tells everyone what a piece of shit he actually is.

You seem happy to put up with him though which is sad. Especially if you have kids.

As if it wasn't already a bad enough comment, you then drop in that she's around a size 14. What the fuck is wrong with him

That is absolutely vile. I can’t believe you are with this man OP.

Weddings cost a huge amount of money and work. For a ‘friend’ you’ve invited to say that at the most special moment is vile. You are lucky the friend didn’t slap him.

He now needs to hope and pray that it doesn’t get back to them. You should really consider if you want to be with such a nasty man.

This last line is horrific - don’t drag other people down to your level. Sounds like the bride was a size 14, don’t think many people would’ve been thinking that. Even if she was a size 30, her body isn’t up for comment.

14 isn't fat at all, I would find it very hard to forgive my husband for being so vile. I was a size 22 when I got married, he would have been absolutely disgusted with me. I take it your husband is a perfect adonis?

No judgement from you about size there at all....

So your DH called the bride fat and now he wants to contact her and say 'sorry I said you were fat, hope I didn't ruin your wedding'?
He's a grade A shit.

Hear hear. I can’t imagine being marred to someone who thinks that’s an appropriate thing to say.

It’s clearly not a comment I approve of

Again, very tame language from you. It sounds like you agree with him.

I would be horrified if I was the bride and found out that was said.

Are you not horrified he said it? I would be mortified but you seem so blasé.

Does your DH hope that by reaching out and saying sorry it will make the end of it and everything will be as before? Sort of kiss and make up situation.
He’s done what he’s done and now it’s up to a friend whether to say it and up to the groom what to do next. Your DH should be profoundly sorry if challenged but he can’t expect that by saying sorry the situation will go away - and I suspect that’s what he wants.
Good if I’m mistaken.

It's not just the twat of a husband whose fat shaming , the OP and a poster on this thread appear to think a size 14 is way too big. Shameful

You need to make sure he’s not talking about people’s bodies in front of your children if you have any.
You can see why some children become bullies.

Yes, but short of me saying I’m lining my quackers up in preparation to LTB then I doubt that will satisfy some of you on here.

What a horrible man. Condolences for being married to him, genuinely.

Not that this comment would be okay at any size, but to make a fat comment about a size 14-16 on her wedding day?! What an absolute pig. I am sometimes shocked that men like this actually exist and even more shocked that someone would be on a relationship with such a pig.

Well that's ok if you want to be married to a man who speaks about women like that 🤷‍♀️ don't be surprised if others find him disgusting though. Because he is.

I'd be incredibly upset if my DH said something like this .... it's just horribly unkind. I bet this isn't the first thing he's said along these lines as you don't seem surprised or upset by it OP.