Husband commented on Bride’s size and her friend overheard

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As above really. Wedding on Saturday - DH’s mate. We don’t really know his now wife too well, I’d never met her and DH had met her maybe once.

Anyway - as she walked down the aisle, DH said (quietly he thought) to me that it’s a good job the aisle was wide.

I gave him a nudge as to say ‘shut it’.

DH was later confronted by one of the bride’s friends who was sat in front of us who told him she heard the comment and thought he was disgusting (words to that effect).

DH is now worried that this friend would have reported back to his mate, and wants to reach out to say sorry.

I think he should shut it and that his mate probably hasn’t been told. DH disagrees…would you agree it’s best not to say anything?

It’s offensive because it’s rude to comment on people’s weight, regardless of your own history.

So this woman is below average size then. Regardless it’s a horrible comment and not remotely funny. I’d imagine your husband must be of lower intelligence to think that he was being amusing by making such a remark.

I hope your husband's comment does come back on him. How dare he insult the bride, on her big day that he was invited to. You should be ripping him a new one. I'm appalled at his behavior but that's the standard of men these days.

was her wedding dress big? If it does come to light could he pass it off saying he meant the dress was big?
it wasn’t a nice thing to say but we’ve all been critical at some point even the ones on here saying how awful your dh is, this will be a lesson to him to keep quiet until it’s just the 2 of you and no others around.

It would be very nasty of her to repeat the comment to anyone. That would be quite humiliating for the bride.

OP is another woman trying to find a soft landing for the pricks in her life. Why not just let him face the consequences of his crude behaviour and learn a lesson or not?

What an absolute arsehole for saying that about a bride at her wedding.

I hope it does get back to his mate, with friends like that who needs enemies?

Is this completely new behaviour from him then? He's normally a decent human being?

Do you generally come home from social engagements, stick the kettle on, take off your shoes and start slagging off the bodies of the people you've seen?

When was 14 /16 a big size? Must have missed the memo on that, this is the average size for a woman in the U.K and many are higher sizes still.
It the media that drives the 8 /10 mantra.
As a matter of interest OP is your h the ideal weight and size for a man his size?

He absolutely shouldn't say anything.

If the bride's friend is a good friend, she'll say nothing at all to the couple involved and they never need to hear about it.

Instead of thinking about himself and his guilt he needs to think about how devastated the bride and groom would be to hear about this.

Gosh how awful of him. I think he should leave well alone. Hopefully the bride is happily oblivious that her new husband has such a twat as a friend.

And if her husband does know, hopefully he'll ditch your DH as a friend.
If he doesn't know, hopefully your husband has learned not to be such a twat and will try to be a better friend.

I am guessing that your husband isn't the world's most handsome man.

What an awful man to think it is okay to say such a thing about a living human who has been kind enough to ask you to share her wedding day when neither of you apparently know her very well.

I suppose you feel under alot of pressure to stay slim after working so hard to 'slim down' from a relatively normal size. It's clear your husband does not respect women at all.

But aren’t you shaken to the core that you share a bed and a life with someone (1) whose unedited thought processes are this crass and cruel and (2) who thinks it’s fine to actually voice them? At a wedding when a woman is walking up the aisle to get married his immediate thought is ‘She’s fat’ and ‘I will now turn that into a fat joke at the bride’s expense, and say it out loud while surrounded by the bride’s family and friends, because that’s a completely normal thing to do’?

Bride's friend should wind her neck in. She risks "ruining" her friend's wedding day ( or the memory of it) if she pursues this.
Hope your DH has kearned not to be a knob.

Is the average 18 now?

What a prince !! I’d advise him to keep it shut unless his mate brings it up or otherwise lets him know he knows. Then the only way to go is a grovelling apology for an ill thought through and spur of the moment very bad ‘joke’.

and some people sneer saying that size 6 is "too skinny", and that having muscles is "too manly" 🙄

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That’s horrible;you don’t know why the bride is a larger woman;people don’t know the personal battles people go through.She deserved to feel special on her wedding day.

The woman who confronted your husband was right to do so;your husband not really a friend to the groom is he when he said something so degrading about his bride.

Your husband’s a knob;I detest people who judge others by their weight.

He’ll have to sit and squirm. Idiot tax.

It was a bad joke but hardly the end of the world. I’d keep it shut and learn from it.

Oh so now he's worried because he's been caught out being nasty?

Yes, but short of me saying I’m lining my quackers up in preparation to LTB then I doubt that will satisfy some of you on here.

You say that as though it's beyond the realms of comprehension. Doesn't this give you the slightest glimpse into his mysogentisic little mind? It might 'only' be a joke but it's pretty revealing?

Hope you never gain a few pounds OP, otherwise his dick will lead him to nearest available size 8 and you can guarantee it be 'your fault'.

On MN, yes.. and anything under is unhealthy or too skinny... I wouldn't go there, it will turn into a bun fight within 30 seconds 😂

Yes, but short of me saying I’m lining my quackers up in preparation to LTB then I doubt that will satisfy some of you on here.

Honestly how the fuck you can like, respect and be attracted to someone who would say something like that during during a wedding ceremony is beyond me. I can't imagine sharing my whole life with that low a calibre of a man.

I would give him the bollocking of his life and tell him he’s a vile pig, I hope the groom does find out and he deserved everything that’s coming to him.
the fact that the bride is the same size as you used to be should tell you everything you need to know about what he thinks of you and how much he respects you. Some men are fucking gross and I honestly couldn’t be with someone like this. The bar is honestly in hell.