Am I too much ? Asking DH to do his business in the spare toilet

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This is a funny one. We have 3 and a half bathrooms in our house. 3 upstairs and 1 little bathroom downstairs.

upstairs there are 2 en suites- one off the master bedroom and one off the guest room, plus a family bathroom.

I loathe walking into a bathroom and it being smelly. I just can’t deal with it. It’s gross.

at weekends, DH tends to do his business in the master en suite. But this is where all our stuff is. I hate not being able to go up there or if I really need to, having to breathe in the disgusting smell.

so I’ve asked him, why can’t you just use one of the bathrooms that’s just completely not in use ? Why do you need to use the bathroom that’s most in use by me and also near our bedroom, which also makes the idea of it gross.

I would just never dream of doing it. I try to be discreet and use one of the bathrooms that’s not got all our stuff in.

men just don’t think like this right ? My DH thinks I’m ridiculous but also finds it funny and has complied.

what does everyone think ? Do I sound like I have a stick up my bum ? I just can’t stand it. I’m really funny about it and think all traces should be covered up. DH thinks I’m ridiculous and that it’s a normal thing in life and I’m way too uptight.

I’d just use of the toilets he doesn’t.

What on earth would you do if you only had one??

I agree with him. It’s a bodily function, it’s normal, and smells pass quickly. You make him sound rather like a dog ‘doing his business’.

Yeah but my stuff is in our en suite. I inevitably need to go on there.

As long as he opens a window I guess it doesn't matter as you all have choices.

open the window and use air freshener and don’t go in for a while. It’s the only thing. It’s hard when we go to hotels because I really hate him going in there when I’ve gone and vice versa.

Yes, he should use the other bathrooms. The bathroom closest to the bedroom should be smell free since you have so many other options.

Agree with you, I asked the same. Nothing like sipping my coffee next to someone having a number 2.
En-suites are a scam. 😂

He’s entitled to use what bathroom he wants, as are you. I don’t think your sensitivity to this is his problem to make adjustments for.

It’s a bit odd to poo in the en suite if someone is in bed just through the door, isn’t it? Especially when other toilets are available!

I’m exactly the same as you op, I had to speak to my daughter about this. She has her own ensuite for goodness sake but insist on pooping in the main bathroom which I mainly use.

Isn’t that what marriage is, making adjustments for each other?

I’m sure OP also tried to make him happy.

YABU. I think this is a bit overboard, and everyone considers me highly sensitive...

If you don’t have an ensuite, then she should use her own bathroom yes, not the one you mainly use.

He's not "doing his business", it's a normal bodily function that all humans do. And poo smells. Yes even yours! Not many people have 3 bathrooms either!!
Not sure what makes it "gross" being near you bedroom either, he's not doing it on the bed!

Do your bathrooms not have ventilation - windows or extractor fans?

I'm failing to see why they are so smelly.
I've only got 1 full sized bathroom which has a window and a fan- the window is open on the crack all the time- and a smaller one without a window but with a fan. I've never had a problem with a smell in either of them.

I think you should be the one making the adjustment here - put all your stuff in a wash bag in your room. You can then use whatever bathroom you like.

I know mine smells which is why I go to great lengths to cover it up !! and I’m always considerate of others so they don’t have to deal with it.

If it was a regular bathroom I’d think you were being a bit precious but I don’t think I’d fancy a smelly en suite / bedroom

nah. It’s easier for him go just use another toilet!

Can he improve his diet to be less smelly?

I think you're being a bit silly, but it sounds like he doesn't mind humouring you so I guess everyone's happy.

I feel exactly the same and DH is always considerate about which bathroom he uses. Using the en suite when it bothers you is just unnecessary when there are other options.

Marriage should be about being considerate to each other and supporting and making each others lives easier where you can and this is hardly an onerous request!

Ensuites are disgusting. I wouldn't have one for that reason. Too close to bedroom. Smells still waft in.

The bathroom has to be accessed off the landing or in a hallway with a door completely separate from the bedroom. 🤢 to ensuites.

Just send the poor fucker into the garden and let him do it there. Or even better, someone else's garden. In another town.

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