Am I too much ? Asking DH to do his business in the spare toilet

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This is a funny one. We have 3 and a half bathrooms in our house. 3 upstairs and 1 little bathroom downstairs.

upstairs there are 2 en suites- one off the master bedroom and one off the guest room, plus a family bathroom.

I loathe walking into a bathroom and it being smelly. I just can’t deal with it. It’s gross.

at weekends, DH tends to do his business in the master en suite. But this is where all our stuff is. I hate not being able to go up there or if I really need to, having to breathe in the disgusting smell.

so I’ve asked him, why can’t you just use one of the bathrooms that’s just completely not in use ? Why do you need to use the bathroom that’s most in use by me and also near our bedroom, which also makes the idea of it gross.

I would just never dream of doing it. I try to be discreet and use one of the bathrooms that’s not got all our stuff in.

men just don’t think like this right ? My DH thinks I’m ridiculous but also finds it funny and has complied.

what does everyone think ? Do I sound like I have a stick up my bum ? I just can’t stand it. I’m really funny about it and think all traces should be covered up. DH thinks I’m ridiculous and that it’s a normal thing in life and I’m way too uptight.

How are manners relevant? He’s using a toilet to, one sec whilst I check, yep that’s right…go to the toilet. If he was doing it in the bed then OP would have a point.

So much preciousness on this thread. It’s a bodily function. You have quite a choice of where to go. Stop embarrassing him.

Not the point I know, but this is why I don’t understand why en suites are so popular.

On topic - I agree with you, OP and it’s not too much to ask.

Yes, this makes me feel OP is actually rather controlling or has OCD. Poor DH.

This is why I hate en suites. I dont want my bedroom smelling of poo.

If you find it such an issue, cant you move your stuff to another bathroom and use that? Yes you shouldn't have to etc but it seems the obvious response to something that is bothering you.

We only have one bathroom and its downstairs so the window cant be left permanently open. My husband regularly forgets to open the window. I sometimes wonder what my 4 year old eats when Im not looking because... just yuk.

Three and a half bathrooms, get it right!

I agree with you op. My husband and I are in agreement and the ensuite is out of bounds for number 2s. It's just common courtesy

Why cover it up? It's not going to come as a shock to your DH that you function in the same way everyone else does.

Anyone else a fan of The League of Gentlemen (Royston Vasey not Marvel) and can't stop thinking about the couple with the toads who had the nephew come to stay. 'The downstairs lavatory, into which we do not pass solids'.

Totally with you. I do not need to be smelling someone else poo when I it’s not necessary. I don’t care if it natural or not.
En suites are for wees only. He should absolutely be using the bathroom that is least used. That what we do.

Ffs humans are becoming more and more ridiculous. Does your shit smell of roses OP? Do you also use the spare bathroom?

Or just live in an old house where the bathroom is a later addition and its the only place it would go?

To live in the area we wanted, we had to compromise on the house and that included a downstairs bathroom. 80% of the houses we looked at had a bathroom directly off the kitchen. Only 20% (including the one we bought) had 2 doors between them. In our case, the doors are only a tumble drier width apart.

When I saw the title of this thread I thought you were talking about him doing business, such as stuff on his laptop, talking on the phone and shuffling paperwork whilst sitting on the lavatory :-).

Personally I don't like someone doing a poo downstairs. I suggest he uses the guest bathroom if there is no guest in it, or the family bathroon if nobody else is currently using it. The guest one seems the best option.

He should use any bathroom but if it smells he should open the window and shut the door. It won’t take long for the smell to go. Tbf if I’m in our bedroom dh will use a different bathroom.

Yanbu

I agree where possible you should use the most discreet toilet. I'm probably influenced by growing up with a couple of family members who would absolutely stink out a toilet and you couldn't go in there for about 1/2 hour. We currently have just one toilet -- but fortunately neither of us has trouble with lingering smell.

Why are you so coy about your husband having a bowel movement? He's a human being and that's how our bodies work. It's not something shameful, to be hidden, not to be talked about. As long as there's air freshener and a window to open, there shouldn't be a problem. Stop making him feel guilty for a normal bodily function.

If you were one of my patients, I'd be asking you every day if you'd moved your bowels, the amount and type of stool passed. Faeces smell, it's waste matter, nobody's shit smells like freshly cut roses.

‘Do his business’? Is he a dog?

This is why en suites are gross!

First thing I thought of when I read this...

Buy some VIPoo

We have a similar set up. We have an unwritten rule that the poop chute is definitely the main bathroom. Definitely not in favour of using the one that's close to the bed.

DS has the other en-suite and its his to use as he chooses, he's the one that's got to sleep next to any of his stray smells

Get an electrician to fit an extractor fan

honestly do you think yours smells of roses ?

I actually though the OP is lucky to have a dh who is quite layback and just smiled at her antics tbh.

Easier for you?
Yes you’re being uptight and really weird.
Move your stuff to the other en suite and you use that as your bathroom. Problem solved.