AIBU for deleting the FB comment?

[ThisFastEagle]

So my son just bought his first house and I'm beyond proud! He's worked hard for this and it's a huge achievement. I posted a congrats message on FB, tagging only him, and mentioned how this has always been his dream. His fiancée commented on the post saying 'we're excited for our home' and 'we're looking forward to this next chapter'. Thing is, the house is in his name only due to her credit issues. I felt like she was overstepping and taking credit for his achievement. We've had a long distance thing going on initially when he moved for work and she later joined him. I deleted her comment and had a word with my son about it, asking him to maybe clarify my intentions to her. Was I wrong to do so, or was her comment just a bit much?

What a bitchy thing to do, I'd think less of you for deleting. They're engaged to be married fgs.

Well if she's moving in with him then it's very much her home for the time she lives there, isn't it?

Chips nicely pissed on.

No need for it.

what about when they marry?

They're going to be living together in their first home. You don't like her, fine, but deleting her happy, inoffensive comment was unnecessary.

I think you were petty and spiteful. If I were your son I'd be pretty upset with you.

Being FB, tbh, I’d have left the comment in situ

The house was my son’s accomplishment. It would be different if she put money down towards the down payment or something but she didn’t. Due to my son saving up, having good credit, etc this accomplishment happened. This wasn’t about his fiancé this was about me celebrating my own son and recognizing him

If she lives there it is her home. OP you have been unkind. This probably won't help your relationship going forward.

You deleted her comment…? Why?

She didn’t claim she bought it - she said she was excited to be living in it with him. Poor woman.

Wow interfering much. None of your business

Also the irony of her taking credit for his achievement, when you're the one posting on Facebook about someone else buying their own house 👀

It's not like you bought it for him.

Hahaha oh my god OP you’ve made yourself sound like a real dickhead 😬😬 sorry!

Oh dear

It is their home (although his property) and their next chapter (as in they will be living there together) so I voted YABU. She is already his fiancée so he doesn't see her as not being part of his life going forward. Also I very much suspect you have now soured the relationship with his fiancée who will one day be your DIL and you have already marked yourself out as THAT MIL.

Apologise directly to her not pass messages via your son.

it will be half hers when they marry, what then, eh?

Nightmare MIL incoming 🙄

Gosh, I'd start being a bit nicer to your son's future wife, if you want a look in on any grandchildren.

My issue isn’t that they consider it their home it’s the fact my post was about my son’s hard work in being able to save up money and have enough credit to get the house on his own. This was a solo accomplishment.

Marriage input balances out over the years. I brought in more money and meant we had a deposit… dh earned more while I went part time with young dc, I now earn more through promotion but dh has supported me hugely emotionally. It’s their first home and no one is reading a fb post and considering who put in the money. You were a dick.

She'll totally be on here one day, telling us all about her awful MIL.

Maybe so but my congratulations was about the purchase of the home which was my son’s doing.and it’s a premarital asset

Very insular way of looking at it. Sorry.

Not a great start to your relationship with your future DIL. I’d be pretty upset if I was her , she will know her fiancés achievements.

I'd maybe set your posts so she can't see them, because you're only opening yourself up for all sorts of problems later down the line if you keep doing things like this, you could end up in a situation where she won't let you see your own grandkids.