AIBU for deleting the FB comment?

[ThisFastEagle]

So my son just bought his first house and I'm beyond proud! He's worked hard for this and it's a huge achievement. I posted a congrats message on FB, tagging only him, and mentioned how this has always been his dream. His fiancée commented on the post saying 'we're excited for our home' and 'we're looking forward to this next chapter'. Thing is, the house is in his name only due to her credit issues. I felt like she was overstepping and taking credit for his achievement. We've had a long distance thing going on initially when he moved for work and she later joined him. I deleted her comment and had a word with my son about it, asking him to maybe clarify my intentions to her. Was I wrong to do so, or was her comment just a bit much?

You’re totally braggy and over the top and infantilising your son by posting and tagging him on FB.

You’re totally nasty and unkind to take the view that future DILs comment was inappropriate. She may not be on the mortgage, but she still may contribute financially.

You’re totally childish to delete tfe comment.

I suggest you use FB when you’re able to act like a grown up!

It’s people like you that give MILs a bad name.

YABU for showing off on social media to begin with. I know my parents are proud of some of the things I’ve done but I’d cringe a lot if they used it for rep on the internet.

Since it was up anyway, YABVVVVU for deleting the comment.

Nope.

Tread carefully - this is how adult dc end up going no contact with their parents!
He's happy and excited and in love and you just pissed all over it - his fiancee moving in, takes nothing away from your son's achievement. If I was her I'd be keeping you very much at arms length - this is going to have far reaching repercussions for you when they are married and have children.

If they have kids and you post an excited message about it, expect her side of the family to shut your excitement down because he just jizzed 9 months earlier and the rest is her solo accomplishment.
I don't get what she's done wrong here. You posted in excitement about the house - her home - and she replied in excitement. She didn't say anything rude about you or disparaging about him, just that they were understandably excited about it.

What did your son say when you had a word with him?

Oh dear. How not to endear yourself to your sons girlfriend.

Wow. You're incredibly petty.

You do realise that when they marry, she will have rights to the house, don't you?

What about if they have kids? Will the person who did all the work during conception get a special mention on Facebook?!

As if you deleted her comment 😂😂😂

Wow 😂 you sound a nightmare!
Hope you’re looking forward to them going low contact and seeing them twice a year 😂

Yes and they know that.

I don't have to broadcast them on a website, and be spiteful to their girlfriends for them to know how proud I am of their accomplishments.

She never said anything about it being a joint accomplishment. All she said was 'we're excited for our home' and 'we're looking forward to this next chapter'
Nothing wrong with that

I think you could have told your son of your pride and congratulated him privately. On a public FB post it would have been kind and generous to congratulate the two of them on their new home and wish them for their future. You will have upset her, which will in turn have upset your son.

You could have posted so proud of little Johnny buying his new house and lovely for him and fiancée to have such a great first home together. Looking forward to their next chapter together including the upcoming wedding!

But instead not only did you not include her you actively erased her.

So, so, so wrong. You will soon be one of those poor me MNers complaining that your DIL is awful, taking your DS away, not letting you be part of GC lives and you have no idea why.

I don’t think there was any need to delete it. No wonder people distance from their family and in-laws.

You sons girlfriend knew exactly what you were getting at and in return comments as a fuck you. I think this has started a mini war between you and you'll be the MIL from hell. Be warned. This won't end well and your son will take the GF side.

you should have sucked it up and not retaliated. You've made yourself look like a bit of a dick by doing this.

I deleted her comment and had a word with my son about it, asking him to maybe clarify my intentions to her.

What did your son say? And what are your intentions?

You sound like an absolute nightmare MIL. So bitchy and unecessary to delete the comment. What must the poor girl have thought?
She isn’t trying to take away his achievements, she’s not trying to imply it is her achievement too, she is just agreeing that it is all very exciting.

I hope she comes on here and does a post about you 🤣

Your son may well have bought the house, but he’ll need his partner to be able to afford to keep it in this economy. Think on…

Urgh what a nasty thing to do. She may not own the house but it will be her home. She will live here with her partner. Your son, if you don’t wise up with your attitude you may not have that relationship much longer.

Being proud of your child’s accomplishment especially one as huge as purchasing their own home doesn’t end based on their age. He will always be my son and as his mother I have a right to always be proud of him

Yikes. You’ve really shot yourself in the foot here.
That was pretty nasty to delete her comment and then pass on your disapproval via your son.

You should think about the long game - she is his future wife and youll likely be dealing with her for many years to come.

Not wise.

Right. Well if she gives you grand children in future and your son posts that 'we're excited to become parents' and 'we're looking forward to this next chapter' I trust you will delete his comments in disgust as having babies will be a "Solo accomplishment" by your DIL. I bet you won't though.

Presumably you were hoping to make your son feel good with your post, it's a shame that you spoilt it by being nasty to the woman he loves.

What was I getting at? By tagging my own child for his own accomplishments?