AIBU for deleting the FB comment?

[ThisFastEagle]

So my son just bought his first house and I'm beyond proud! He's worked hard for this and it's a huge achievement. I posted a congrats message on FB, tagging only him, and mentioned how this has always been his dream. His fiancée commented on the post saying 'we're excited for our home' and 'we're looking forward to this next chapter'. Thing is, the house is in his name only due to her credit issues. I felt like she was overstepping and taking credit for his achievement. We've had a long distance thing going on initially when he moved for work and she later joined him. I deleted her comment and had a word with my son about it, asking him to maybe clarify my intentions to her. Was I wrong to do so, or was her comment just a bit much?

I didn’t make it sound like I helped him purchase the home I gave my son his credit

Any grandkids are gonna be solely her achievement then I assume? He just gave a tiny sperm 9 months ago yeah?

This isn't going to end well

Yes, not YOUR accomplishment.

Do you have nothing to post about your own accomplishments in life, or do you need to broadcast other people's?

Whilst calling the kettle black?

Is she on the mortgage?

Are you in England and Wales? If so doesn't matter he bought it pre-marriage when they marry it becomes the matrimonial home and up for grabs in a divorce.

Well done to your son for getting on the property ladder but seriously you have shot yourself in the foot on this one.

I’m embarrassed for you. Even more embarrassed for your son.

I didn't say you made it sound like it?

If a woman purchased her own home and said woman’s mother posted on FB congratulating her and her daughter’s male fiance commented saying he was excited about their new home everyone would said wait a second the man is evil for taking credit for the woman’s work

Your son owns the house but it is their home together.

You have made yourself look like the crazy MIL and have potentially fractured the relationship already and this will only push your son away.

And why do you care what the sad world of Facebook thinks about your sons and his griffins financial circumstances. It’s not that deep.

No

Omg 🫣 all she said was they’re excited for their new home! It’s not like she said “ we’ve” worked so hard to accomplish this or something completely untrue?

what you’ve done is really rude! It’s his fiancé not some random fling.

at this point I’d just delete the whole post as you’ve embarrassed yourself and if I were her, our relationship would now be v strained, as I’d think you clearly had something against me.

You obviously don't think you're BU so I don't know why you posted.

It’s my son surely as his mother I’m proud of his accomplishments. Aren’t you proud of your children’s accomplishments

You're being deliberately obtuse, she didn't take credit for anything or diminish his accomplishment.

I think you should be counting your blessings his girlfriend responded in such a warm manner. That should tell you she considers them a team - shame you don't.

This is going to negatively impact on your relationship with your sons future wife. Was it really worth it for a Facebook post.

Wow, this is exactly how to become the type of MIL that's talked about on this forum!

You do know that you can be proud without it being publicly acknowledged on fb? Rude to tag just him when it's obviously their first home (and possibly your gcs first home!)

What a spiteful horrible thing to do you could have just "liked" the girls post and moved on with your day.

If i had seen your post on Facebook and knew your son was engaged to be married i would automatically think it was bought together and you were being nasty to your future daughter in law. Anyone who has seen her comment which you have now deleted will also think you have a problem with her. Why did a post have to make a post to begin with? Why not congratulate your son in person only?

Great way to push your son away, well done.

or they would realise it is indeed his new home too because he would be living there. But I doubt a future MIL would so rude as to delete his comment unless she purposely wanted to upset him and her daughter.

You sound petty and pathetic.

Don't put off any plans you might have for Christmas dinner OP.

Or any other invites you might be expecting.

Presumably they’re a team? Do you know every facet of their budget? How do you their financial agreements and arrangements?

Why do you hate her? And what will your thread title be when the inevitable low contact and no wedding invite happens?

Wow. That was a seriously nasty thing to do.

Not sure why you need to publicly congratulate your son on Facebook anyway, can't you just tell him how proud you are if him?