Magic Mike Live - Bride really unhappy

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I was given the task of organising my best friend’s hen. I, alongside our other friend, decided on Magic Mike Live. It’s very on theme for a hen and from what I have heard just a very silly dance show which gets people dancing and laughing (not at all seedy).

This will be the end of August. So great weather. We thought we’d go in a little tipsy (after bottomless brunch) and have a laugh as a group of girls (and a couple of gay guys). Finish with a dinner and some dancing. And Bob’s your uncle.

It’s all gone to shit.

Apparently the groom is not happy and thinks it’s a weird choice. He has told the bride he doesn’t want her to go. Everyone’s paid for the non-refundable tickets! There was a bbq last week and it was the main topic of conversation apparently. With all these weird theories as to why it was chosen. It’s not that deep!

My friend often attends bottomless brunch, dances on tables etc. And is no prude.

i genuinely feel ill! It’s being referred to as a strip show! The bride’s step mum and mum will be in attendance.

I really want to walk away from the whole thing.

I spoke to the bride and she is not happy at all

I think people who use derogatory terms like frigid aren’t quite as sexually open as they like to pretend……if you’re comfortable with your sexuality nobody else’s choices are ‘frigid’ or ‘slutty’ or anything in between.

No think OP was referring to Magic Mike Live ferret racing from Uttoxeter

Brilliant post!

Hand it controlling groom! Maybe open brides eyes up to what he’s like.

I’m not anti strip clubs and have been to a few before, but if you honestly can’t see the difference between a live stage show and a place where people go into private rooms and take their clothes off, then I’m concerned for you…

The groom clearly has nothing better to do than moan and control his bride to be’s hen do! If they had certain requirements they should have been clear when they asked someone else to organise this event. Everyone else booked tickets without saying a word of caution - so it’s absolutely not just on you is it! I’d just say to the bride sorry you’re not happy I tried my best and I accept I got it wrong as I didn’t realise - I will endeavour to sell the tickets and I’ll let you or someone else organise something else that is acceptable to you and your husband to be.
I’m sure you will be able to sell the tickets you might just have to accept you might not sell them for what you’ve paid and accept the hit. Call the venue maybe in the first instance ??

This. I'd hate it.

This show is not comparable to a strip club. That’s utterly ridiculous. It’s more like a stag do going to the theatre to see Gypsy Rose Lee or even burlesque. In fact, burlesque is much more risqué.

Also, it isn’t the bride that’s unhappy. It’s the groom.

OP, let the dust settle. If it’s still a firm “no” at the end of the month, put the tickets up for a sale with a 20% discount.

Then try and find a cheaper activity to replace it. Maybe you could watch Magic Mike on DVD as you mentioned the bride likes the films. 😉 or you could do an escape room type thing at your accommodation. You can buy the stuff to do it yourself for quite cheap.

I’m sorry this man has ruined your plans. It sounds like his mum and the bride’s mum are quite afraid to upset him so are throwing you under the bus. They happily bought the tickets thinking it was harmless and something the bride would like but aren’t speaking up.

Good luck OP. At least you’re not marrying this controlling and reactionary man 😃

Do you like the films?

Yeah, and I think it's pretty telling that of 19 people who know the bride, none said "are you sure about this?".

It’s REALLY not like that at all.

Mhmm

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I think you’re getting a hard time on here OP.

Magic Mike is a very stereotypical hen party thing to do. I do wonder how old a lot of the people saying it’s inappropriate are.

Id also say the last few hen parties I’ve attended the bride has had no idea what the plan is so I also don’t think it’s unreasonable to have booked tickets without consulting the bride. To me that is the standard thing to do now days, maid of honour and bridesmaids organise a surprise hen do. Seems to be the done thing atm.

I think you're getting a hard time OP! I agree that Magic Mike is very "on theme" for a hen do! Especially if your friend has watched all the films, and is a bit of a party girl, which is what I hear you describing.

If it's caused this much trouble I'd explain to the venue, and see what they can do to help. They might be able to swap the tickets, or at least postpone so that you can have a separate night out, unrelated to the hen, that the bride doesn't need to go on. That would be a nice thing to do, to avoid drama.

Depending on whether the venue refunds the tickets or whatever, you might have less to spend on the do itself. It sounds like you were trying to book a surprise for the hen, and arrange it for her, which was kind, and something I know happens a lot. But you can't have it both ways. If the bride is going to start causing a fuss (whether because of the groom or not, as it's irrelevant as far as practicalities are concerned), I'd let her arrange her own. You don't have to fall out over it. I think it would be low drama to just say "Really sorry I've booked something you're not keen on. I'm worried about doing something else that will cause a problem, so I'm going to leave you to plan the hen, but will be happy to do whatever you decide on, up to £xx cost". And leave the ball in her court. Ultimately, you don't have to be doing any of this, and nothing is worth feeling sick with worry, as you've described x

Of course it's a perfect hen's night activity.

Yes it is. For someone who wants to go to it. Anything is a perfect hen night activity if the hen wants to do it.

If the hen doesn't, it is not a perfect hen night activity.

I didn't want it for mine but I'd have gone along with it if someone wanted it for theirs. Because someone's hen night is about them.

Girl, you need to explore your sexual desire not inhibit it 🤣

But I’m sure the groom “never went to a strip club” on his stag. 👀

It sounds absolutely dire. But it isn't really your fault as you thought the bride would like it. It will just have to go ahead and maybe the groom could arrange an afternoon tea somewhere naice.

I went to see Magic Mike last year. It was awful. Started with an "audience member" (obviously plant) being pulled on stage, told she was dry and going to be made wet. Then a fireman "jizzed in her face" with his hosepipe. His words. Absolutely not my thing, my friend and I left so to be fair don't know if it improved. But just horrendous in my opinion.

Yeah but was she happy to go until her groom kicked up a fuss?

What?!?!?
No way would i be breaking my back trying to offload 20 tickets on resale sights.

Bride and groom can do it and as I said upthread I'd hand the planning to the groom since your taste is so awful and ask him to research and plan everything and let you know once all done.

It's a fucking thankless shag to plan a hen do I did it once and never again.
All my sympathy OP.

Well I’m cringing here.
Never heard of Magic Mike.
However a guy came to fix our boiler a few months ago and his name was Mike.
As our boiler is quite old I was relieved when he repaired it and said
’I bet your customers call you Magic Mike.’
He smiled and agreed.
Now I’m wondering what he thought I meant and I have to find a new boiler repair man or switch to all electric!

My main concern here, is why the groom is speaking for his bride to be! Magic Mike is a tame bit of fun and unless you’re a prude or deeply religious it’s hardly groundbreaking or really offensive! If you’d said ‘the bride doesn’t want to go’ fair enough! But this reeks of an insecure and controlling groom! This is why i despise hen dos and baby showers. You’ve gone out of your way to try and plan something fun and now you’re dealing with this bullshit. Get the groom to arrange the hen do!

That first bit is a parody - they all freeze on stage and then it changes tack and says that stuff is not what we do. It’s deliberate.

Yes absolutely this! You don’t deserve to be sick with worry over this x
this is great advice OP

Poor you. Bride should have specified if there was something she didn't want as this is a completely standard outing for a hen do. Mil and mother approved it!! Groom is being controlling and bride is being unfair on you.

Regardless of whether bride is changing herself to fit in with groom or being weird she doesn’t want to go. You don’t need to apologise if she wanted control of her hen she should have organised it herself! But you need to speak to her and find out what she wants to do. It’s up to her now does she want to arrange something else? I wouldn’t be arranging a second do. With regards to magic Mike you all have tickets your options are you still go sans bride or people try to sell their tickets. If bride is adamant not going I’d say to everyone up to you if you want to sell your ticket or we can have a group night out and do something else with bride on a different day. (Unless you want to sell your ticket in which case you do you and everyone else sorts themselves out.)