Magic Mike Live - Bride really unhappy

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I was given the task of organising my best friend’s hen. I, alongside our other friend, decided on Magic Mike Live. It’s very on theme for a hen and from what I have heard just a very silly dance show which gets people dancing and laughing (not at all seedy).

This will be the end of August. So great weather. We thought we’d go in a little tipsy (after bottomless brunch) and have a laugh as a group of girls (and a couple of gay guys). Finish with a dinner and some dancing. And Bob’s your uncle.

It’s all gone to shit.

Apparently the groom is not happy and thinks it’s a weird choice. He has told the bride he doesn’t want her to go. Everyone’s paid for the non-refundable tickets! There was a bbq last week and it was the main topic of conversation apparently. With all these weird theories as to why it was chosen. It’s not that deep!

My friend often attends bottomless brunch, dances on tables etc. And is no prude.

i genuinely feel ill! It’s being referred to as a strip show! The bride’s step mum and mum will be in attendance.

I really want to walk away from the whole thing.

I spoke to the bride and she is not happy at all

I think it was your huge leap from him not wanting her to see strippers, to that meaning she’ll end up in Australia for 25 years!

are you competing for the “leap of the year” award?

Exactly @ZoggyStirdust

I’m afraid this whole thread stinks of the massive double standard that exists around stripping/strippers/strip shows and men/women.

Firstly, accepting Magic Mike Live is not a strip club strip show, it absolutely does involve men stripping to their underwear in a heavily sexualised way, men lapdancing on audience members, and men simulating the act of sex with selected audience members on stage (separate to the plants that engage in choreographed erotic dancing). So, no matter how anyone tries to construe it, it is a show geared around barely clothed men titillating the women. Comments on this thread about tap dancing, singing - whatever - are disingenuous. This is certainly an element of the show, but make no mistake it’s not a Saturday night variety show on ITV. It’s male stripping with a bit of variety thrown in, like choreographed boy band style dancing, tap dancing, and singing.

Whilst there probably isn’t an equivalent show for straight men, if you directly swapped the roles, women would be outraged that not only it was a show advertised in mainstream media , but it was a premium priced ticketed show at the Hippodrome. It would be sexist, exploitative, etc. It’s no coincidence that advertising for the show on the tube keeps getting vandalised, because most people recognise the double standard.

If wives/girlfriends on this thread would be happy for their blokes to pay a premium to knock back beers in a room of 100 men and watch women strip to their knickers and dance, lapdance on them or their mates, simulate sex with a ‘lucky’ few on stage, and encourage them to touch their chests and bums - then by all means defend it. If you wouldn’t be happy for them to do that, maybe question your double standards. To those that say it’s some how a different atmosphere, men are more sexually aggressive, etc - I think perhaps you are trying to compare to a literal strip club, where punters may engage in far more for a price. This isn’t the same, but make not mistake, not only does touching occur, it’s encouraged. Women absolutely do leer, screech and scream at the sight of the topless men dancing around them and on them.

None of this has anything to do with being uptight or anything like that. It’s to do with agreed boundaries and respect for your other half. It’s not controlling to not want your partner to pay to see members of the opposite sex strip. That statement shouldn’t even need to be spelt out. If you think otherwise you perhaps need to give your head a wobble.

Good post

So it is like a strip show then , like I said and the bride will def be encouraged to grab /touch

I can see why it’s not for her

and yes I def wouldn’t want a man of mine to do similar with opposite sex

There Is no full frontal nudity, there is a singular naked bum, but otherwise a lot of stripped to underwear/topless. The men take women’s hands and encourage them to stroke their abs, tap their bums, squeeze their bums.

So would you be happy for your partner to go to a show with attractive women in bikinis, encouraging touching and leering.
As long as there's no full frontal nudity, that's ok?

No I wouldn’t. I am just clarifying what goes on, not saying it’s right. I think it’s a huge double standard from the women in relationships on here that think it’s ok.

You would have to be very uptight to not see that this is just a bit of fun.

Agreed

Very well said @WonderzY

Or just not agree with paying to see men strip because you wouldn’t want your other half to pay to see women strip to their underwear. But yeah ok if that’s how you define uptight.

It might be fun for some people but you cannot dismiss what it actually is - and what it involves - and somehow claim a man is wrong to be against his future wife going to it.

What I’m struggling with on this thread is women minimising what the show is, and focusing on how they feel - as in it’s fun, a laugh with the girls etc, and then thinking that makes it ok and different to anything a man might do! You can’t ignore what the show actually is! You cannot ignore that you are paying to watch men strip in a sexualised fashion. As I said before, if you are totally fine with your man having a laugh with his lad mates, drinking beers, and watching women do the same - then you my girls have every right to say it’s fine. If not - then what are you even on about.

From what I have seen they don’t strip. It’s only what you would see on a beach or in your local leisure centre.

The misogyny towards women in general is what specifically what makes female stripping different.
The world is not an even playing field between the sexes.
Imagine The Full Monty being recast as unemployed women in middle age. Would it be seen as a humorous yet uplifting tale of making good? Or would the women be judged for their jiggly saggy bits and be seen as tragic for even attempting to be sexy in their 50's.

Anyone who has been to both male AND female strip clubs will have noticed the completely different ambience.

Oh yey! Another person calling people uptight for not enjoying they same things they do 🙄

@WonderzY

well if all things were equal it would indeed be a double standard but they are not equal. The balance of power between the 2 sexes are entirely different. Putting aside the obvious physical differences so that women even when they are in control of a situation are mostly physically inferior so don’t present much of a bodily threat. We do not see gangs of women trafficking men for sexual purposes, we don’t have brothels of men dead behind the eyes and a steady stream of wives and mothers visiting throughout the day when we’ve told our husbands we’re out at Asda. We don’t have grooming gangs of women targeting teenage boys and passing them around and threatening to burn their houses down if they tell anyone. Men don’t cross the road when a woman is walking behind them at night. So by all means don’t go and watch it but don’t try and claim it’s the same when it’d clearly not.

Think you’ve gone off on a bit of a wild tangent there. None of that really relates to the OP or justifies women watching men strip as being morally different to men from a relationship perspective. I think the societal aspects are a big tangent from the post.

Think we’ve established they do strip, and if you search social media that much is obvious. I don’t think blokes in shorts at the beach girate on women or lick spray cream off their chests, do they? Bit of an odd comparison.

I think it's a very difficult things being tasked with arranging a hen do and people will agree with a suggestion based of their own preference. Seeing the films is one thing but having a live show is another. It's not something I'd like nor would I go especially if my husband to be wasn't happy at the idea.
I would ask for a refund or to move the tickets to a different date. That way you can go with your girls at a later time and do something else with the bride to be.

I don’t disagree that they are different, that’s not where the double standard is.

it’s that a woman who doesn’t want her male partner looking at women wearing little and dancing sexily is perfectly right, while a man not wanting his female partner doing the same is controlling and up tight.

😂😂😂

or go round groping semi naked bodies at the beach /pool

or else likely to be arrested or face slapped