Magic Mike Live - Bride really unhappy

[Vickersz]

I was given the task of organising my best friend’s hen. I, alongside our other friend, decided on Magic Mike Live. It’s very on theme for a hen and from what I have heard just a very silly dance show which gets people dancing and laughing (not at all seedy).

This will be the end of August. So great weather. We thought we’d go in a little tipsy (after bottomless brunch) and have a laugh as a group of girls (and a couple of gay guys). Finish with a dinner and some dancing. And Bob’s your uncle.

It’s all gone to shit.

Apparently the groom is not happy and thinks it’s a weird choice. He has told the bride he doesn’t want her to go. Everyone’s paid for the non-refundable tickets! There was a bbq last week and it was the main topic of conversation apparently. With all these weird theories as to why it was chosen. It’s not that deep!

My friend often attends bottomless brunch, dances on tables etc. And is no prude.

i genuinely feel ill! It’s being referred to as a strip show! The bride’s step mum and mum will be in attendance.

I really want to walk away from the whole thing.

I spoke to the bride and she is not happy at all

@DontBeADick11 I have no issue with my DH going to a strip club for a stag. I’m secure enough in the relationship to know he wouldn’t do anything untoward

Good for you, but many people actually care about the women in those places. They are hotbeds of women trafficked whose passports are being held to give them no choice. Others have mental health and substance abuse issues and are vulnerable to being pressured and trapped into this type of work. But it’s great you have no issues with it. Basically, if you are responsible for creating a market for this stuff, then you are responsible for those women, nothing to do with being insecure and not trusting partners. It’s more about trusting partners to do the right thing in a societal sense assisting their protection of women in the greater sense. Not to mention the whole objectification angle, but again, if you are happy with that, all good.

Nope.
I don’t have an issue with strip clubs because I’m insecure.
I don’t agree with them because I’m against men paying vulnerable women for sexual services.

For some people it is. That's why it was important to sound out the bride on possible activities before booking. Totally frustrating that no one, including her mum, piped up in the group chat.

This.

Lots of people have different ideas of what they want for a hen/ stag. It's why you have a quick sound out to get a general steer from the bride or groom before booking. Are they the type who wants a spa day? Do they want cocktails? Paint ball? Pub and a curry? Clubbing? Etc.

My DH had a pub crawl by canal boat for his stag for example. I went to a race track, and had a boozy afternoon tea afterwards. Some people invite their mum and future MIL. Some people not. Doing something as a total surprise is not the best idea.

I think the problem here is that everyone was up for it at first and now that the groom isn't happy, the bride is using that as a reason to back out and saying that other hen do attendees are unhappy with it as a way to justify her pulling out.

I've seen 2 magic mike films, the men are conventionally attractive but it's a bit too oiled and slick ...they all love themselves a bit too much! The show would not be my idea of a good hen do, I'd go for it if I had to but add my ILs to the mix ...no thanks! 😂 You aren't boring if you don't like it.

What a fuss over nothing.

It sounds as though her future hubby has kicked off about it so she's trying to please him by getting it cancelled. I went to something similar for a friend's hen party a few years ago and while it was fun for me and the rest of the party, the mother of the bride was absolutely cringing seeing her daughter being dry humped on stage by naked men! 😅

Genuine question. Why do people need to see bums and near private areas of other men and women days before they are getting married? Is it a must for getting married and they bring anything good?

So the bride. Brides mum. And mil ? All ok with it.

paid for their tickets

and now groom isn’t happy

didn't the bride your friend tell him what her plans for hen do were before buying tickets

fwiw now at over 50 that sounds like my Idea of hell and tacky

but

i went to a stripper show for my hen do when I was 30 ish so get the younger/bride/you/your friends want to do it

mine was looking. No touching. And they (the show) make that clear tho obv wouldst touch anyway

And dragged on stage as had hen band on me as did think 3 others. We all had a male in front of us flapping his Willy near ish us

sounds like the groom worries about what his bride may do.

He sounds calm and sweet.

She isn’t a prude - your words - and he prob concerned she may do something he wouidnt like

I’ve never got the last fling - if you are marrying someone it’s forever (ideally) but things happen

Which is why you have 2 in that scenerio

friends strippers

inlaws /family a meal

From what I have seen of the show it looks great fun. The dancing is brilliant and show looks amazing (think I spotted a familiar face in the cast)

To be perfectly honest I have seen more flesh and backsides in Plays on the West End stage

Never seen the Magic Mike films but really want to go for a fun evening out as the show looks amazing.

Yes sounds the way to go

what would the bride like @Vickersz

over the years I’ve done

pub crawl
spa day
afternoon tea /bottomless bubbly
go carting
strip shows
musical
burlesque show
wine tasting
chocolate making

If i was in this situation, id tell him its not about him. Given the tickets are non refundable and im guessing not cheap, id stick to the original plan. Tell him to fuck off.

Seriously worrying behaviour from the groom.

Sounds like everyone was well up for it and now the groom is in a sulk. How embarrassing!!

But this was something the Bride would have done and enjoyed the evening if her controlling fiancé hadn’t laid down the law.

Anyone who is getting married and has their fiance freaking out and banning them from going to a dance show where they would see more flesh on a beach in the south of France than on the stage. I would say to save their money and time and split up now.

This marriage won’t last and she will forever regret spending the next few years being someone she isn’t.

Divorce is long expensive and harsh and you only get one life so why waste it on someone who wants you to be someone you aren’t

The groom sounds like a dull kill joy!

This isn’t a strip show. It’s a dance show.

Never been to a strip club but don’t imagine it involves tap dancing

Strip show May be the wrong wording

but naked men and Willy’s

does that sound about right ?

I would hate it. I hate that sort of thing. BUT if my DH dared say what I am and am not allowed to do, I'd go just to spite him and seriously rethink spending my life with such a controlling man. How dare he dictate what this woman does on her hen. There are also many women out there who lay down rules for their boyfriends and to me it's the same thing it's controlling behaviour and a big red flag.

Some friends suggested Magic Mike Love for my bday one year. DH didn't have a problem with it but I don't enjoy stuff like that so I declined. The same friends then suggested it for another member of our group's birthday. I didn't think she would like it either so I insisted they ask her first. Even though she liked the movies, she also wasn't comfortable with it being live.

@Dontlletmedownbruce I would see it the same as if a woman had the boundary of her partner going to strip club. Can’t stop them going but could mean end of relationship, and you would hope they respect that boundary. Not controlling but respect

There are no willies, nobody gets actually naked. At most it's men topless, or occasionally in their pants. It's no more than you see down at your local swimming pool.

That sounds like the basis of a good and long lasting marriage 🙄

@sweetpickle2 but the average man at the swimming pool/beach doesn't give you a lap dance or come up close and personal to you.

If it was just an average dance show, they wouldn't need to get down to their pants

I'm not suggesting it's the same experience, just clarifying for people who think that the men get naked or you see actual penis- you don't. In terms of flesh seen, it's as much as you'd see at the local pool.