Magic Mike Live - Bride really unhappy

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I was given the task of organising my best friend’s hen. I, alongside our other friend, decided on Magic Mike Live. It’s very on theme for a hen and from what I have heard just a very silly dance show which gets people dancing and laughing (not at all seedy).

This will be the end of August. So great weather. We thought we’d go in a little tipsy (after bottomless brunch) and have a laugh as a group of girls (and a couple of gay guys). Finish with a dinner and some dancing. And Bob’s your uncle.

It’s all gone to shit.

Apparently the groom is not happy and thinks it’s a weird choice. He has told the bride he doesn’t want her to go. Everyone’s paid for the non-refundable tickets! There was a bbq last week and it was the main topic of conversation apparently. With all these weird theories as to why it was chosen. It’s not that deep!

My friend often attends bottomless brunch, dances on tables etc. And is no prude.

i genuinely feel ill! It’s being referred to as a strip show! The bride’s step mum and mum will be in attendance.

I really want to walk away from the whole thing.

I spoke to the bride and she is not happy at all

This marriage I forecast won’t last

Been around too many failed marriages, most of which if the people involved had listened to friends who had seen it all before, they would have saved themselves a lot of heart ache, time and a lot of cash

But apart from a very brief flash of a bum (As I have said seen more on stage in Plays) There isn’t anything more to see compared with going to the beach or your local leisure centre.

This is a production with trained dancers not a strip joint.

Ah. I didn’t reliese that

sounds tame then imo

@Blondeshavemorefun there is audience participation though, getting people up on stage to have some young man get up close and personal. So not like being at the beach.

But it doesn’t sound like it’s the BRIDE who has an issue. It’s come from the groom and the bride not wanting to upset him.

I find it very telling that not ONE person of her nearest and dearest thought she wouldn’t like it. So it is very clearly a him problem.

Whether or not any of us agree with Magic Mike as a concept, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that the Brides friends and family chose an activity that she would most likely have enjoyed and the groom is stomping on it. I’d be concerned for her if I were her family. To clarify, Magic Mike is a very tame professional stage performance not a strip club. I wouldn’t agree with women or men going to a strip club.

Unless you and I go to very different swimming pools I imagine it's quite unlikely you would get a lapdance at the local leisure centre

Why can't the groom have an opinion on it?

Because he’s a man so it’s controlling

a woman objecting to her partner going into a strip club (where unless you have a dance all you see are women on poles, not naked, so pretty comparable tbh) is absolutely fine asserting her boundaries

Anyway, I hope the OP was able to smooth things over with the bride and all remained well between them.

Did you read what I wrote? I’m not saying the experience is the same, just the amount of flesh on show.

exactly this!

If a woman has issues about her partner going to see a strip show, then the man absolutely has the right to feel the same way.

I went on a hen do once and one of the activities was life drawing. One of the girls didn't partake in that activity because her husband wasn't happy about a naked man, saying that he wouldnt be around a naked woman in respect for her so it goes both ways.

I would just tell the bride to be it’s tame you are far away it’s fine but you understand if she doesn’t want to come and the rest of you go

she can sort her own hen out

I can’t believe how up tight so many people are on this thread!

Its sounds like a fun night. Obviously not something people would do every weekend but something that will get people in a good mood and up for a giggle. An experience to remember and some funny stories.

It does sound like the husband to be is controlling. My husband would think it was crap but he’d never try to stop me going.

It’s not the same as strip clubs at all. Men are very sexually motivated visually, whereas women don’t tend to get turned on by a set of abs. It’s literally a joke and a good time.

How much were the tickets?

I feel for your friend. Imagine how embarrassed she must be feeling, that her partner has told her she can’t do something which she obviously would likely enjoy normally, given her own mum said it sounds good. We live in 2025 - she should be telling him where to go.

It’s completely different. Men leer at women in strip clubs and many opt for private dances (hmm).

This is a show based on male strippers but they don’t strip fully. You probably see more down at the beach on a hot day!

It’s a joke. The brides hardly going to have sex with the stripper in front of a crowd of hundreds. She’d be laughing, pretend the dancer is hot (let’s face it, most women don’t get turned on by a dancing shirtless man - we need more than looks), take a few funny videos if it’s allowed and then move onto dinner and more drinks. It’s not the same at all.

@TravelMoose theres a big difference between not liking it but accepting it, to telling someone they can’t go.

He doesn’t own her. She isn’t cheating. For her future sake, she should absolutely go anyway. Bending to a controlling man is not a good idea.

If he shared how uncomfortable he is. Maybe she doesn't want to go. I've been on the other end and wasn't given an opportunity to share my thoughts.

It's her partner, not yours and I think what they are doing is healthy communication, not controlling.

@SunnySideDeepDown are you saying no women will be leering at the men? If that is the case why do they strip to their pants? If it is all about the dancing they could stay fully clothed

Is it even possible for a woman to leer? I think it's something only men can do.

The accusations of being uptight because this kind of entertainment doesn't appeal to everyone are getting boring @SunnySideDeepDown

Would you sneer at someone who dislikes seeing stand up comedy or ballet or bongo bingo or going to music festivals?

We don't all like the same kind of entertainment.

It's a pretty pathetic and degrading kind of a "joke".

Agree with this completely.

But it doesn’t sound like it’s the BRIDE who has an issue. It’s come from the groom and the bride not wanting to upset him.

Interestingly though, the OP said in her opening post Apparently the groom is not happy and thinks it’s a weird choice. He has told the bride he doesn’t want her to go. but hasn't then said

"The bride loves the idea" or "The bride was really up for it" or anything similar. OP has made several posts but nothing that in any way suggests the bride thinks this is a good idea, which I think would have been mentioned if it were the case. For all we know, the bride herself might be using the fact her fiance isn't keen as an excuse because she isn't keen.

Of course it is! Women are not mythical creatures who don’t do anything like that!

Another ‘uptight’ comment 🙄
They’re getting boring now.

It obviously needs repeating - not being interested in a male strip show doesn’t make you uptight.
Lots of people have no interest in seeing half naked men dancing and certainly don’t have any interest in having a lap dance from one of them, even if it is just a ‘joke’. Quite frankly, it’s my idea of a nightmare.

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