Dh & Dd going out early every weekend

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Recently, Dh & Dd have started going out on weekend mornings, to a cafe and playground usually. They are both earlier risers than me and i’m usually still in bed. Whilst I like the occasional quiet time alone at home, i’m finding i’m getting up every weekend alone, they then come back and Dd usually plays with kids on the road for the day, so we aren’t getting any family time together.
Dd says she doesn’t get to see Dh much as he works more, so likes to do things with him, which I understand, but it leaves me having done nothing most weekends and feeling a bit sad

Can’t you get up with them? Or they do that one morning and you all do something together the other day?

Get up early and go with them? Do something with both of them later?

This would be my idea of heaven 🤣
You don’t say how old your daughter is but it won’t be long before she doesn’t want to go to a playground so I think let them enjoy this time together; in the meantime you schedule something for yourself in and plan a family activity for the day of the weekend he doesn’t do this (I am assuming he only takes her one of the weekend days tho!)

Is there a reason you don't want to get up earlier and join them?

Also my idea of heaven

Do something in the afternoon or on the other weekend day? A lie in every weekend sounds lovely!

Get up early every other time with them

I think it’s a thing they want to do just them, it’s really early, about 8, if they waited a bit longer, just for me to have a coffee and get ready, we could all go
As cheesy as it probably sounds, I like going to playgrounds.
When she gets back, she’s quite tired/not keen to go out again and her friends are knocking on the door and she’s so happy playing with them, so that’s sort of the weekend done.
Sometimes it’s both mornings

I’m confused as to why an early morning activity, even if both days, prevents any weekend family time?

But to then not really do much all weekend, just sit In while she has friends over?

I explained above

Often it’s not that early by the time they come back it’s lunchtine, after lunch all the kids play

Get up earlier

Surely the children playing out is only as/when they are available to do so, if you have plans then they don't play out. Make some plans for either afternoon each weekend, problem solved

You sound quite passive in all of this. When my kids were young enough to go to playgrounds, they were young enough to be told what the plan is for the day. The dd/dh outings sound sweet, he prob thinks he is letting you have a bit of a lie in. But limit this to 1 per weekend. On the other day say you get to choose an outing and do that all together. Win win.

Can’t you join them later? And 8 isn’t early with young children

Gat up early on one of the days & go with them. You could have coffee (& breakfast?) out couldn't you?

Definitely sounds like a case of "if you can't beat them, join them" especially if you actually like spending time in playgrounds.

Sounds like you have two choices: get up with them or find something enjoyable to do on your own

Get up earlier? So many people would kill to have a morning alone!

But do you never plan days out at the weekend? Surely if you have plans she doesn't play with her friends that day? Can you not just make plans for later in the day and say she can't play with her friends that afternoon cos you're going out/playing a boardgame or whatever?

I'm confused why it means doing nothing all weekend.

So get up and go with them?

Failing to see why this is such a big issue!

Well I'm sure if you make plans you could all do something. It would be pretty selfish to stop them doing something they enjoy for really no reason.

Just tell your DD no to playing out with friends every weekend afternoon, sometimes you can say we’re having family time or have a plan to do X this afternoon, sorry. It’s either that or get up earlier.

Nah, you'd be wrong to change this. They like to wake up early and it's their weekly special time together.

Just find some other time to have special time with your DD or family time.

If you’re that arsed wake up early, if you had a job to get to or an appointment then you wild set an alarm and do the same. Have a coffee at the breakfast. You’re sounding like you want everyone to pander to your wants and needs.