9YOD Pubescent GC of neighbour running around with bra top & 'Booty shorts'

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I'm sorry for any errors, but am victim of abuse a child as wad DH, so probably a bit more sensitive to these things than others. For context: .We live in a gated community for over 60's. We love to share our neighbour's GC.

'Eve' has walked our dog for many years. She's taken her for a walk around the estate for about 4 years 'Eve' is now aged 9 over-weight. She's obviously a ' clever girl & doing well at school; But she's rather developed for her age.

This afternoon he appears wearing a bra top & 'bootie' shorts. which I thought tonally inappropriate for a child of her age. I told her that she should to go back to he G parent's house & get changed into something into a tee shirt rather than the bra top. She came back wearing on over-sized tee shirt which I felt more appropriate for someone of her age.

I then went to help a neighbour with her husband who has dementia & left DH to deal with 'Eve' .

GP have have since knocked on our door asking why we made their GC cover up. which was (they feel) was unacceptable. DH said we would never allow our Grand-daughters to go visiting neighbours half naked. He pointed out that, despite her young years, that 'Eve' is becoming a young woman now & they need to protect her.

Opinions please.

@Foxesandsquirrels there is nothing to suggest this little girl is in any way at risk. Or is in need of social services or for someone to police her choice of fashion.

I would let them decide that themselves. You don't know how much OP is omitting for privacy, and it's important OP covers herself too. If your MASH wouldn't be interested in a young child regularly being left on their doorstep unsupervised, than you need to make a complaint about your MASH.
MASH is not just for emergencies. I think people forget the scope of social care.

@Foxesandsquirrels there is nothing to suggest this child is at risk. The only risk is to her self esteem being policed and judged by relatives neighbours.

Please read the OPs last update. If you don't think there's risk, that's your opinion which you're allowed to have.

@Foxesandsquirrels don’t you think it’s curious OP’s ‘update’ with all the gory detail only came about when she and her creepy husband had been called out for being extremely inappropriate about a 9 year old child.
This thread was started not out of concern for the child’s home environment, it was started to get validation for body shaming and sexualising a 9 year old girl.

MASH might be interested in why OP left a child alone with her husband who proceeded to talk about a 9 year old’s body and referred to her as a young woman. OP is very far from a lovely person.

“Regretfully, if we wear the 'wrong' clothes it's our fault that we get raped, assaulted“

No it’s not @Idratherreadabookthanks . This kind of thinking is part of the problem, not the solution.

It’s horrible what happened to you and it wasn’t your fault. You probably weren’t wearing booty shorts, but he did it anyway because they don’t care about the clothes. Changing clothing doesn’t do anything to protect a child from a predator, all it does is cause shame and insecurity. Predators love insecure kids. We should not feed that insecurity.n

Regretfully, if we wear the 'wrong' clothes it's our fault that we get raped, assaulted.

This is a horrific thing to say in all circumstances but particularly when you are discussing a 9 year old CHILD and your husband’s inability to view her as a little girl and insistence on calling her a “young woman”.

The red flag here is you and your DH.

Stop leaving a poor child alone with this man, her parents, her grandparents haven’t consented to this.

I'm actually flabbergasted. You told a neighbour's child to get changed because you didn't approve of their outfit, and you can't see how that's a massive overstep of boundaries?

Poor kid! It must have been really hurtful for her!

I think she is a young kid dressing for hot weather. Even if it isn't the choice you'd make for your own dc, you had absolutely no right to comment. Would you have been less judgemental if she wasn't overweight? Why does it matter?

Honestly, this is the internet, you have no clue who OP is and whether they're lovely or not and tbh I really don't care if they are or aren't. I don't know who is lying online. I can only respond to what's in front of me and based on what OP has written, in my opinion, MASH should at the very least be contacted for advice. There is no such thing as wasting their time, MASH can decide what's for them to deal with, not random people online.

i have to agree. Are the bootie shorts the bum scruncher thingies but shorter?

No it isn't. Those are items of clothing that have been designed to highlight the secondary sexual attributes of adult women. Which is why you get pop stars and such wearing them.

Those connotations aren't lost because they are being worn by a prepubescent child, that's why pimps will to dress up very young girls to overly sexualize them.

Heavier girls do typically begin to develop a little younger as well, so the whole effect it to highlight that the child is going into puberty. Not to mention that her parents possibly have poor boundaries.

They are very similar to hotpants, but post-spandex era.

It doesn't matter what other people think of her outfit. Her family must have purchased it. She didn't get it without their knowledge.

Op and Husband have zero right to comment on what she is wearing.

Yes, I thought that. One hell of a drip feed.
OP and the DH are both giving off creepy, uncomfortable vibes.