A 'Wifey' on DH's phone. And its not me.

[Needsomeadvice2234]

Real simple - snooped on DH phone and found a 'Wifey' saved in his contacts - he called this number unanswered a month ago but no history I can see. I called it and rang out then phoned right back. Like an idiot I hung up. Now I'm thinking I should call and find out who the Hell this is....
I'm feeling very sick and scared and just want to bury my head in the sand because I can't believe this...
I have the number. Do I call and find out or ask him first. I'm shaking.

The OP said he doesn’t work.

Ask him to call the number in front of you- if he refuses you know why.

I was going to ask if DH is from north east. We'd say wifey too.

After he explained I opened the message and saw the whole thread. The previous one said something like ‘Battery dead, texting from OhGod’s DH’s phone, getting 12.14 back to London, Jimmy’. Which would be quite a weird way for DH to communicate with his lover, wouldn’t it??

Hardly seems a realistic nickname for someone you're knocking boots with illicitly.

It's really depressing when respondents rush to invalidate an OPs concerns. Here, they're even trying to tell her she doesn't know her husband's regional dialect! Obviously she'd know, and I'm damn sure she'd know if he routinely referred to women as 'wifey'

OP says she has a secure, openly communicative relationship. She hasn't shared why she had the urge to scroll her husband's contact list. It clearly isn't a regular habit, so I'm going with something's made her anxious or insecure.

As I have some respect for other people's feelings, I'm not rushing to tell her she's wrong, stupid or doesn't know how her DH talks. That amounts to telling her to sit down and shut up! Why bother?

Well there are many possible scenarios , one of them would be that he has a different sim or phone and that is why there is only one call from his „normal” phone. I cannot imagine many scenarios where I would not remember why I saved someone as „wifey” on my phone, but I guess it is conceivable to some degree

Yes this - honestly can’t believe so many people are egging OP on with this. If as OP says herself, there are zero other suspicions this is just nothing. There are so many more likely explanations than this being a red flag.

I have just checked my own contacts and there’s at least half a dozen saved contacts I have no clue about, including bizarrely one contact that isn’t a phone number but is listed as “help” and points to a random residential address two miles away? How weird and suspicious does that sound!

Did you google the number yet? Is it possible he's given it a nickname as its something he was doing for you?

My phone is full of random numbers with names that made sense at the time but now I haven't a bloody clue what the reference means at all!

Yes call and find out

That's so true -- phones do weird stuff like that all the time. Mine did this bizarre thing where every time I used the maps function it told me how far I was from my next door neighbour's house! At the bottom of the screen, there it would be: '5.6 km from James Watkins's House'. I assume it must somehow have picked up 'James Watkins's' wifi. My husband thought it was hilarious, especially as 'James Watkins' (obviously not his real name) was a minor (but now quite elderly) celebrity with a bit of a history of being quite the lothario.

There is always the possibility he deletes the call history for this number, but simply forgot to in that occasion

If only to put us lot out of our misery!

This isn’t some old number that the partner has on his phone and forgotten about. He called it a month ago! It’s been saved to his phone. There’s no way he doesn’t know who it is. OP could text saying, it would be nice to meet up, and see what happens, or she could ask husband to contact her. If he’s unwilling, there you go!
She will get no peace of mind until she sorts it.

He’ll wish he had now!

Op I'm sorry you're in the position and hopefully it's nothing but can I suggest when you call it you ask breezily for your husband. The reaction will tell you everything. I did this with an ex and could tell immediately the woman who picked up the phone knew my boyfriend and because she was caught off guard I was able to find out more than if I'd just said who is this.

The point about the dialect is lots of people use wifey casually so the contact could easily have been forwarded from someone else for some random purpose, which is also why he doesn't remember it. I feel like that's a way more likely scenario than saving his affair partner under the term Wifey or Mistress 🙄

Some years ago, my young female cousin for a joke decided to change her name on my phone, to Mr Dreamy.
To my horror whilst at dm house she called and dm saw and she scolded me for saving anyone name as Mr Dreamy. What if my ex saw!?!? Type of guilt. I told her I didn't know who it was and asked her to answer. My cousin did get a good telling off from dm. I have never cheated.

Is there by chance a young teenager playing a prank?

But OP would be aware of his use of dialect.

Otherwise he's potentially been keeping a second terrible secret: being Scots/Northern.

(The "terrible" is a joke BTW).

Argh misread your post @bedtimeblue - I'm an idiot, soz.

Wifey is a code name for Lifey.
He is working for the jailed John Rebus.
Don't ask too many questions.

I ABSOLUTELY would ask him to call the number on speaker, and listen to how SHE responds.

I've been here😭

I have a DP, he also is now listed under a nickname she gave him, and he finds it hilarious.

🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤣🤣🤣

Idk what their relationship is like or care.
I knew it was her as she called hum multiple times during work hours and I recognised her number.

I’d just call and listen to see who answers at first. Maybe get someone else to call and pretend to be from O2 or something. Then I’d try to get hold of his phone bill with a list of numbers online. You might need his phone for this though. TBH at this point I’d probably be looking through emails, texts, calls photos and WhatsApp’s. Cuz he’s lying.