A 'Wifey' on DH's phone. And its not me.

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Real simple - snooped on DH phone and found a 'Wifey' saved in his contacts - he called this number unanswered a month ago but no history I can see. I called it and rang out then phoned right back. Like an idiot I hung up. Now I'm thinking I should call and find out who the Hell this is....
I'm feeling very sick and scared and just want to bury my head in the sand because I can't believe this...
I have the number. Do I call and find out or ask him first. I'm shaking.

Apparently he has no idea who it is...call log says he called this number with no reply beginning of the month but doesnt remember. Doubt I'll ever get to the truth. Nothing in his behaviour suggests he's cheating but it gave me a horrible shock. My insecurities I will have to work on I know that. Did fess up to looking at his phone and he just gave me a massive hug.

Is it your WIFI password?

Yep, you massively overreacted. I have no idea why you would jump to such an extreme conclusion based on one unanswered call under the name wifey.

My guess is the name was an autocorrect

Wifey does not just mean woman.

You cannot just believe he has no idea who he has saved in his phone as “wifey”. He 1000% knows who this is and has now lied so you absolutely have to find out on your own.

some men do not care enough to hide shit. Or they’re just stupid but it’s pretty common for men to save women by obvious names in their phone. If he’s not from one of the places where apparently it’s common to call platonic friends “wifey” then he HAS to know he it is

Nah, I'm not buying it. The big hug smacks of guilt and distraction. I'd find it weird.

It is a beautiful boy named Wilfred.

Tbh I find this more suspicious than the original evidence!! A massive hug? Why. Because he felt guilty or wanted to distract you / quieten you? Didn’t know how to respond? So weird.

And the not knowing… please excuse me but how does a number get saved in your phone under wifey without your knowledge? That’s never happened to
me, not once. The number had even been called. And called straight back? This is not someone unknown. He’s lying.

This is what I'm so afraid of. Why call this number beginning of the month? I have written the number down. I'm going send a message tomorrow. What I'm going to say I have no idea.

It absolutely does just mean woman in Geordie/Northumbrian/Scots.

It's roots are Anglo Saxon and it's very common usage up here.

I wonder, given it was your birthday, if he had planned a surprise of some sort and the name was simply a placeholder so he didn't lose it.

That’s a very generous take.

I think you should wait before messaging now because he and whoever wifey is will be on high alert now if it is anything dodgy.

Unless you’ve got a friend who you trust that dh doesn’t know their number to try it.

The whole doesn’t answer then ringing straight back yes could be innocent but has been known to be a thing to signify being free to now talk and to not actually answer the first ring.

I've ended up with some strange contacts in my phone when people shared a contact with me and I didn't edit it from whatever they had it named as in their own phone before saving.

I feel like you'd have noticed if your husband was the level of imbecile that saves his sidepiece as wifey in a phone you have access to. If you have access to the phone's billing you can look at the call history but I probably wouldn't bother.

BTW "He hugged you, now you KNOW he's cheating" is peak MN.

Ordinarily I'd assume he just had a work wife. But his bizarre reaction is disturbing. Does it say how long the call was that he had with whoever this person is?

Has he cheated before? Is he a member of online dating or porn type sites? It's such a shame you have to ask him all this stuff. Review your bank and credit card statements (sadly he may have some that you don't know about - does all his pay go into one back account? Or does he divert some of it??). If you see any odd bank account statement names then google them - sadly some rather grotty sites/charges get "hidden" behind seemingly innocuous names.

Frankly you're going to have to sit down with him and tell him that his initial explanation just doesn't make any sense. Only you know whether you trust him or not. If you are going to continue to worry then it rather indicates that there is a trust issue anyway. Been there myself and my gut instinct was correct (and the actual situation was far worse...) I hope this isn't the case for you, but sadly there are a lot of red flags.

I don’t buy it that he doesn’t know. Of course he knows who that is as he called that number a month ago. Call that number again and speak with the person.

Oooh. Please tell us what happens.

Maybe it's like genius level reverse reverse psychology but unless he has an IQ of 10 I doubt he'd save his affair partner under "wifey". I mean such stupid people do exist though. But not that many hopefully.

Tbf I have a lot of random numbers saved in my phone from first autocomplete word suggested because of my stupid phone call filter settings, or forwarded contacts. My contact list has some quite random stuff in

I would be suspicious if a number was saved as wifey in my husband's phone. Was the whatsapp profile pic a female? If so, alarm bells would be ringing. I would call and have an honest convo asking how she knows my husband

Have you still got the number somewhere? Get him to ring it on loud speaker with you there! This is horrible for you but you need to get to the bottom of it so you can move on xx

Naaaah.
You know what is going on.
100% do not text so other person can prepare a response.
Call with a dumb excuse like "planning a surprise birthday party so contacting his friends" and see how she responds.

I was called by DW of my line manager just bcs she saw new number on his phone and like two 2min calls during work hours.
So you would be well within not over reacting theritory imo

Just thought of something which has happened on my phone! Ive got someone saved as their name and then a load of random heart emojis because her husband forwarded her number to me, this could also be an explanation! Xx

You've never been to Glasgow have you?