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To have not shared the chips?

210 replies

TommyAndGinaAreHalfWayThere · 22/05/2025 16:26

We went to see a band last night and I drove as I don’t drink. On the way back we stopped off to get a takeaway. Just kebab and chips. As soon as we got back in car with takeaway DP opens the chips and starts scoffing them. I kept saying “can you at least wait until we get home?? We’re 5 minutes away!” And he said “I’m only having a few”.

By time we got home only half bag of chips remained (probably even less) so I put them all on my plate and just put a kebab on his.

He inevitably reacted with shock and horror asking where his chips were so I said “in your stomach”. He insisted he’d only had a couple, more than half of the bag was gone. He “demanded” that I share the chips, I refused. He went in a mood.

He does this all the time, can’t possibly wait 5 minutes until we get home, has to start eating immediately whilst I’m driving. Normally I share what’s left but after repeatedly asking him to stop, I refused this time. He said I was being petty. I said he’d rude to start tucking into a shared meal before I can join in. Who is right?

He does the same with popcorn at the cinema, huge handfuls so now I buy separate. Even then he has the cheek to start digging into mine when his is empty.

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Therealjudgejudy · 22/05/2025 16:28

Greed is so unattractive

MildredTheOctopus · 22/05/2025 16:28

You did share the chips. He had his half in the car, you had your half when you got home.

Anewemail · 22/05/2025 16:28

If you two do stick together because neither can be arsed to finish it… stop sharing food

Lurkingandlearning · 22/05/2025 16:29

You are right. He is greedy and selfish. Very unattractive traits

TommyAndGinaAreHalfWayThere · 22/05/2025 16:32

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Im still stewing over it because its just the latest example of him being greedy and selfish with food. It makes me furious.

He once came to my house and asked if he could make himself a sausage sandwhich. I said yes. He used the entire pack of sausages with no thought at all about anyone else.

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NoNameMum · 22/05/2025 16:34

Stop buying shared meals. Buy a meal each.

B1anche · 22/05/2025 16:35

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Oh for goodness sake.

Monstersfromtheid · 22/05/2025 16:35

I bloody hate people unwrapping food and scoffing it in the car. It makes the car stink for days, it shows a total lack of self restraint and respect for the driver.
Good for you OP. And if you don't have kids, think hard if you want this behaviour in your life for the rest of your life.

Partypops10 · 22/05/2025 16:36

I’m with you on this one! He’s a greedy so and so! Next time just get your own chips and don’t share.

scorpiogirly · 22/05/2025 16:37

Next time, insist he buys an extra portion or he doesn't touch the food until you get home.

faerietales · 22/05/2025 16:38

YANBU to get annoyed, but it's easily solved - just get your own meals in future.

Missey85 · 22/05/2025 16:39

Your partner is a pig 🙁

Anewemail · 22/05/2025 16:39

B1anche · 22/05/2025 16:35

Oh for goodness sake.

Read the op

he always does this
He “inevitably overreacted
he “demanded” the op shared

and now here we are… obviously still simmering with resentment about it.

you think this is going to be an otherwise healthy and loving relationship?

we have different benchmarks I suppose

Anewemail · 22/05/2025 16:40

oh and @B1anche its just the latest example of him being greedy and selfish with food. It makes me furious.

Anewemail · 22/05/2025 16:40

TommyAndGinaAreHalfWayThere · 22/05/2025 16:32

Im still stewing over it because its just the latest example of him being greedy and selfish with food. It makes me furious.

He once came to my house and asked if he could make himself a sausage sandwhich. I said yes. He used the entire pack of sausages with no thought at all about anyone else.

And yet you cracked on and appear to have moved in together

Monstersfromtheid · 22/05/2025 16:41

I've just remembered what this reminds me of. There was a thread a couple of years ago from a woman whose "d" h would eat any food left in the fridge or anywhere. Leftovers intended for another meal, entire precooked meals, the kids' snacks and treats, anything and everything. She begged, pleaded, threatened, tried to reason with him. He would either laugh, ignore her, or get nasty.

FeralWoman · 22/05/2025 16:41

YANBU.

Put the food in the boot of the car for the drive home. He can’t eat it if he can’t reach it.

ThejoyofNC · 22/05/2025 16:42

I can't stand greedy people.

Honestly if it wasn't for the littering aspect I would have been tempted to launch the full bag out of the car window.

TommyAndGinaAreHalfWayThere · 22/05/2025 16:45

Anewemail · 22/05/2025 16:40

And yet you cracked on and appear to have moved in together

Where on earth did I say we’d moved in together?!

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babystarsandmoon · 22/05/2025 16:46

If he was that hungry he should have ordered his own portion.

TheBig50 · 22/05/2025 16:47

Thoughtless and greedy.

Reminded my of my then teenage son who would eat everything bar 1, so that he could say - I didn't eat all of it!

Grown man... No. No way.
It's the thoughtlessness more than anything.

SparklyGlitterballs · 22/05/2025 16:48

He's greedy and selfish. Not to mention that by unwrapping the chips in the car, your share would have been getting cold. If he's always like this then don't expect him to change OP.

Redpeach · 22/05/2025 16:50

If you know he does this, just order separate portions

TomatoSandwiches · 22/05/2025 16:51

He sounds disgustingly selfish and selfish important. I find consistenly greedy people revolting.