To have not shared the chips?

[TommyAndGinaAreHalfWayThere]

We went to see a band last night and I drove as I don’t drink. On the way back we stopped off to get a takeaway. Just kebab and chips. As soon as we got back in car with takeaway DP opens the chips and starts scoffing them. I kept saying “can you at least wait until we get home?? We’re 5 minutes away!” And he said “I’m only having a few”.

By time we got home only half bag of chips remained (probably even less) so I put them all on my plate and just put a kebab on his.

He inevitably reacted with shock and horror asking where his chips were so I said “in your stomach”. He insisted he’d only had a couple, more than half of the bag was gone. He “demanded” that I share the chips, I refused. He went in a mood.

He does this all the time, can’t possibly wait 5 minutes until we get home, has to start eating immediately whilst I’m driving. Normally I share what’s left but after repeatedly asking him to stop, I refused this time. He said I was being petty. I said he’d rude to start tucking into a shared meal before I can join in. Who is right?

He does the same with popcorn at the cinema, huge handfuls so now I buy separate. Even then he has the cheek to start digging into mine when his is empty.

Jeez, is there some back story here? Otherwise that's a bit of a leap.

This would give me the ick badly 🤢 a grown man can't control himself around food and shoves it all in. He sounds really selfish and extremely greedy.

LT greedy B

Why doesn't HE drive?

Out of interest, who paid?

It's not about the chips

Good question. And who paid for the petrol?

Yes a pig is a pig 🙂 why would the sex matter?

I don’t get it - why has only one meal been bought for two people?

Newsflash. Your world isn't the world.

I know plenty of "only children" who don't know anything about sharing and can be pretty selfish. Does that cancel out your experience?

Because they thought it would be enough?

Presumably the chips are a large portion, like chippy ones.

We only ever get one portion of chips for the 3 of us to share.

You did share the chips, he just chose to eat his whilst in the car.
From the sound of it he's greedy, has no impulse control or patience. He sounds like a man-child. Ick!
If you decide to share any food in the future then put it straight in the boot, that way he can't sit there scoffing it like a selfish pig!

To be fair, we don't know how big the portions are. My local kebab place does a kebab that could easily feed 4.
And if it was on the way home from somewhere presumably it wasn't a meal as such. Just one person was drunk and hungry so they shared something.

I don't believe that every only child you know is bad with sharing, and ever child with siblings is perfect in that respect. That just isn't a thing.

He does this all the time, can’t possibly wait 5 minutes until we get home, has to start eating immediately whilst I’m driving

I completely feel your pain. Mine does this, always has. Also, if out for a pub dinner, he'll start nicking my chips as soon as his are gone, or if he hasn't ordered chips, straight away. "Just a couple" he'll say.

I once purposely did not eat one chip from my plate so I could tell him he'd eaten them all. He didn't believe me.

This! Why or earth do you want to share chips with a man who has a greed history?

I genuinely dont get why people stay with and marry greedy, selfish men.

I once purposely did not eat one chip from my plate so I could tell him he'd eaten them all. He didn't believe me

I have resolved this by always ordering an extra bowl of chips, regardless.

I get this! I enjoy an Indian or Chinese takeaway but there are things I dislike.....anything too spicy, anything with coconut in are the main ones. My late DH didn't like any shellfish. On our own we would just choose what we liked and share stuff we both liked but ordering in a crowd to share was a nightmare.

New rule takeaway food goes in the boot on way home

It isn't about buying extra portions, it's about one person thinking they're entitled to eat more. Greediness is a dealbreaker for me, it's the me me me attitute.

Op has said he's like this with all food so no, it's doesn't matter if he is fit and healthy, it's pure greed and selfishness to take your half and then expect portions of other people's food or to take all of something from anyone's fridge or cupboard without checking its ok.

My brother was like this from toddler age and as the eldest I always had to give in to him for my part of something, he's like it now as a grown man, greedy and selfish with food and uncaring about fairness, it's a vile trait imo.

You need to have a no eating in the car rule.

But if you have a partner you know is ‘greedy’ then this makes no sense.

He’s obviously unreasonable to try to eat more than his share but if this is a ‘thing’ then you buy your own portions surely?