To have not shared the chips?

[TommyAndGinaAreHalfWayThere]

We went to see a band last night and I drove as I don’t drink. On the way back we stopped off to get a takeaway. Just kebab and chips. As soon as we got back in car with takeaway DP opens the chips and starts scoffing them. I kept saying “can you at least wait until we get home?? We’re 5 minutes away!” And he said “I’m only having a few”.

By time we got home only half bag of chips remained (probably even less) so I put them all on my plate and just put a kebab on his.

He inevitably reacted with shock and horror asking where his chips were so I said “in your stomach”. He insisted he’d only had a couple, more than half of the bag was gone. He “demanded” that I share the chips, I refused. He went in a mood.

He does this all the time, can’t possibly wait 5 minutes until we get home, has to start eating immediately whilst I’m driving. Normally I share what’s left but after repeatedly asking him to stop, I refused this time. He said I was being petty. I said he’d rude to start tucking into a shared meal before I can join in. Who is right?

He does the same with popcorn at the cinema, huge handfuls so now I buy separate. Even then he has the cheek to start digging into mine when his is empty.

unclench, it's just chips. We have absolutely no idea if he's genuinely greedy, and unattractively overweight or normally active and very fit looking!

OP, keep buying separate portions, or one extra.

I do with kids too, they think it taste better in the car than later in their plate.

Greedy, selfish, thoughtless, inconsiderate….all good reasons for binning him. Food can’t be the only area where he shows these traits.

As an only child myself, despite our reputation(!) I happily share pretty much everything with friends and loved ones. I’m described as incredibly generous. However, I am ONLY willing share when I CHOOSE to offer and/or freely agree. If someone just tries to take (or nags/pressurises me) things do not go well. The partner of my closest friend once took a bit of food (when I hadn’t finished eating grr) off my plate without asking. He got the death stare and was told that if he ever tried that again, my fork was going straight through his hand. I meant it and he could tell. Might have been the way I grasped my fork with a stabbing motion. 😂He got the message and never made that mistake again.

Its a myth that only children don't like sharing. In my experience it's the opposite. You grow up without ever needing to compete for anything, so you don't see food and other stuff as something you either need to hoard for yourself or consume quickly before anyone else grabs it.

Look the only person who can have a few (not half) extra chips is the one dishing them up in the kitchen. Even if they’re too hot.
Eating them in the car is not acceptable.

Well there you have it, he's an inconsiderate, selfish individual.

Do you need to ask anything more?

Very true @5128gap as I enjoy sharing with people I like / care about. As long as I feel appreciated and not taken for granted. But maybe that’s because I’m also a stroppy cow. 😉 I’ve already been thinking that if I was the OP, I would have kicked the muppet out of the car and driven me and the food home, and he could bloody well wait for his until after he’d walked home.

He's annoying and selfish.

His names not joey is it.. Joey doesn't share food, (Friends for those who don't know lol)

Might be better if you buy extra or seperate meals in future but not sharing is not a great quality tbh.

If he is only selfish with food then I would find a way to manage the situation. For example I'd start buying a bag of chips for the car. Everyone has massively different relationships, experiences and expectations with food and it sometimes clashes. I come from a family of absolute pigs and my dad would definitely have tucked into the chips in the car but my mum would have bought enough for the car and everyone at home.

If he is selfish in other areas then I'd have a think about whether you want this for your future.

Buy separate chips like you do with popcorn? It doesn't sound like something worth stressing and arguing about.

He's a gutsy pig OP.

Get an extra portion of chips if one isn't enough. This is literally a problem that can be solved for two quid!

Lesson learned to next time get a portion each. Sharing a portion of chips with a full grown drunk man was asking for trouble - most people, big or small, are starving at the end of a night out when they have drink in them.

You need to order two portions of chips next time. I will never understand the desire to share food, I don't find it romantic. One Kebab and one portion of chips isn't much to feed two adults.

No. Next time. Make him frigging drive and either eat the lot in the car and leave a scrap. Or wait till you get home and point out how if he wants a take away he'll have to drive from now on.

I dont think its a myth at all 🤣

He sounds like a greedy pig.
How unattractive.

A large portion of chips is plenty between two adults, especially when they're having kebabs as well. And I'm not even a Mumsnet eater.

What a classic of the Patriarchy in Action:

• Woman drives man home so he can drink and relax
• Man helps himself to half the food without waiting for driving woman, as requested
• Woman serves herself the remaining half
• Man demands half of them
• Women refuses
• Man criticises her for being petty
• Man punishes her with moodiness for her failure to meet his demands
• Woman wonders if she’s been unreasonable.

An illustration of why most of the land and wealth on Earth is owned by men.

One Kebab and one portion of chips isn't much to feed two adults.

It probably depends on what else had been eaten in the day.

Sounds plenty to me if it's just a "snack" ater a night out.

Yuck. He sounds like a lot of my family members. For example if we have a gathering and get a takeaway there's a general "we order x number of dishes and share them" situation. But my DC is fairly fussy and there's only 1 or 2 things he likes from the Chinese. So I order that. The rest of my family decide they are entitled to have some of his dish on the basis "he can have some of anything else" except he can't. He doesn't eat it. So he now has a 10th of the amount of food of anyone else. Yet we're expected to all pay the same towards it.

And before any one suggests we order 2 portions of what he likes, I've suggested that. Apparently it's a waste of money to have 2 of the same thing. It's one of the many reasons I am LC with my family.

Greed isn't an attractive trait, although like a PP I grew up in a family where other members took more than their fair share so I learnt to do the same. As an adult I'm obsessed with everyone having equal amounts and I hate being that way but it's so ingrained in me.

How many different usernames do you post under? I know it's always you, the poster who is so needlessly confrontational, aggressive, and averse to using proper sentences and capitalisation. I wish to goodness that you would either give it a rest or, even better, that Mumsnet would get their sh*t together and ban you.

Stop sharing your food with him. Get a portion each, even being your own bags.
I don't think it's unreasonable for him to want to eat, why should he wait because you say so? But he can't eat your dinner!

For example if we have a gathering and get a takeaway there's a general "we order x number of dishes and share them" situation.

That only works if everyone wants to share doesn't it?

If you were buying one meal for your son & one to share that's not the same meal twice is it?