To have not shared the chips?

[TommyAndGinaAreHalfWayThere]

We went to see a band last night and I drove as I don’t drink. On the way back we stopped off to get a takeaway. Just kebab and chips. As soon as we got back in car with takeaway DP opens the chips and starts scoffing them. I kept saying “can you at least wait until we get home?? We’re 5 minutes away!” And he said “I’m only having a few”.

By time we got home only half bag of chips remained (probably even less) so I put them all on my plate and just put a kebab on his.

He inevitably reacted with shock and horror asking where his chips were so I said “in your stomach”. He insisted he’d only had a couple, more than half of the bag was gone. He “demanded” that I share the chips, I refused. He went in a mood.

He does this all the time, can’t possibly wait 5 minutes until we get home, has to start eating immediately whilst I’m driving. Normally I share what’s left but after repeatedly asking him to stop, I refused this time. He said I was being petty. I said he’d rude to start tucking into a shared meal before I can join in. Who is right?

He does the same with popcorn at the cinema, huge handfuls so now I buy separate. Even then he has the cheek to start digging into mine when his is empty.

Agreed. It’s not that difficult to buy extra portions so you’re not sharing food. Just like the popcorn can be bought in smaller separate portions because he clearly has issues with sharing and having large mouthfuls, you’ll have to do the same for anything else you eat together. If he still wants to eat your portion of food after that, then it’s clearly more than an issue of not being able to share…

OP, did he explain why he needed to use an entire pack of sausages for a sausage sandwich? You seem to have bigger issues than just him being greedy and you need to have an honest and open conversation.

😂😂😂

But the OP literally says he just helps himself to her box of popcorn...

He finishes his box, then starts on hers.

Why should she have to shovel her food down as quickly as possible??

@ThejoyofNC A large portion of chips might seem plenty between two adults, but clearly the issue in this case is that one portion simply isn’t enough. Especially if he ate his half and was still hungry, he might need his own portion of chips. It’s not very clearly how large the portion was, but it’s not too difficult to order one large and one medium/small portion of chips depending on their appetite, being ok with eating it later so there doesn’t have to be the matter of not wanting to have a large portion, but the other person does etc.

@ButteredRadishes When did I say that she needs to shovel food down? I was just suggesting that she gets two portions of chips just as she’d get two boxes of popcorn. I literally wrote: If he still wants to eat your portion of food after that, then it’s clearly more than an issue of not being able to share…

The fact that he has form for digging into her popcorn when his is empty, and there’s still a portion of chips being ordered knowing full well he’s prone to eating a lot more than his fair share especially since he ate his half and was still incredulous that he only had kebabs on his plate; it clearly shows that this issue is is beyond just not being able share.

Sorry, I misinterpreted this "issues with sharing and having large mouthfuls, you’ll have to do the same for anything else you eat together.". To think you're suggesting that op should also have large mouthfuls.

She shouldn't have to buy even more chips.... portions of chips form these places are normally so large that 2 people can share them..

Doesn't matter if the portion is 10 chips or 10,000..he should be able to share them fairly and not be a greedy selfish fat pig.

The point of separate portions is that everyone orders what they’re going to eat and it avoids conflict. If he wants to be a greedy bastard and eat loads- let him be- tell him to order as much as he wants and that’s his and you order what you’re going to eat and that’s yours. No sharing of food. It’s also possible in a lot of places to order small/medium/large. I can sometimes be greedy but I never steal someone else’s food - I order however much I want to eat at the time.

Yes ,but OP has said that when he's finished his individual portion, he'll start in hers... So how his two separate portions going to help?

Probably true to be honest. I just couldn’t tolerate. I’d have to make sure before we ordered that he needed to order however much he wanted to eat and my food was off limits unless I offered it to him.