To have not shared the chips?

[TommyAndGinaAreHalfWayThere]

We went to see a band last night and I drove as I don’t drink. On the way back we stopped off to get a takeaway. Just kebab and chips. As soon as we got back in car with takeaway DP opens the chips and starts scoffing them. I kept saying “can you at least wait until we get home?? We’re 5 minutes away!” And he said “I’m only having a few”.

By time we got home only half bag of chips remained (probably even less) so I put them all on my plate and just put a kebab on his.

He inevitably reacted with shock and horror asking where his chips were so I said “in your stomach”. He insisted he’d only had a couple, more than half of the bag was gone. He “demanded” that I share the chips, I refused. He went in a mood.

He does this all the time, can’t possibly wait 5 minutes until we get home, has to start eating immediately whilst I’m driving. Normally I share what’s left but after repeatedly asking him to stop, I refused this time. He said I was being petty. I said he’d rude to start tucking into a shared meal before I can join in. Who is right?

He does the same with popcorn at the cinema, huge handfuls so now I buy separate. Even then he has the cheek to start digging into mine when his is empty.

No sure why you thought they were badgering me, they asked a valid question. Not sure why their post was deleted either.

I have a feeling the guy on the thread I'm thinking of also ended up being abusive. The food thing was just one way of showing how little he thought of his partner and kids.

Just buy your own portions. I’d only ever share food with the kids.

Because it felt like bullying. You had already been very upfront about having issues with food that you’ve worked on - it felt like someone trying to create a problem that wasn’t there. Plus as your daughter is 17 and has somehow survived thus far without taking food off your plate, I’m guessing it’s not an issue.

I was trying to stick up for someone I thought was getting a hard time. I’ll know not to bother next time.

Really, you'd buy two portions if chips, even if one portion was plenty for two people?

That, and why is that easier than a greedy bastard just being less greedy?

He knew he'd had half, he wanted half of what was left and sulked when he didn't get his way.

It's about a lot more than just chips.

Sorry, it just seemed weird that two separate people asked me what felt like perfectly reasonable questions, and promptly get their posts nuked by MNHQ.

Honestly just wondered what on earth I was missing.

I find it really irritating when people’s default response to issues like this is “just buy more food!”

Well…not everyone wants every spare penny of their income to go on food especially if it’s just to accommodate one persons greed!

Yeah it may only be an extra bag of chips but it’s on top of the other stuff they’ve bought and everyone knows takeaway food (well, all food) is way more expensive than it used to be.

Some people want to spend some of their income on stuff like clothes, make up, gigs, holidays, gym classes, football match tickets, whatever - they don’t wanna spend it all on food!

He sounds a greedy pig,quite frankly I would buy my own meal next time! No sharing.

Reminds me of my ex
We got Chinese and he was dishing it up into bowls, I’d nipped upstairs to get changed
I came downstairs and he’d already started eating (bit rude in my opinion not to wait but there we are) and kept repeating
“I can finish all this off in the morning”
Firstly, let me eat some before you announce you’re going to finish it the next day, and don’t keep repeating it to make sure I get the msg you feel it’s all for you! Greedy bastard he was
And he wondered why I wouldn’t move in with him
Plus he used to put his dirty socks on the kitchen worktop but that’s another thread 🤢

It sounds like you and your partner need a frank conversation around these things. You need to tell him how it makes you feel and put firm boundaries in place.

You need to ask about his concept of sharing amd fairness and let him know that his unthoughtfulness around food is making you feel resentful towards him. If you want to build a strong relationship then honesty is the best policy. Stewing and growing resentful is like poison to a relationship.

Very unattractive trait. He needs dumped.

Next time get meals wrapped separately and put yours in the boot till you get home.

Either put the takeaway in the boot in future so he can't eat it or ideally just give him the boot.

You really shouldn't have to do this to stop your partner taking your share...and given he digs into her popcorn at the cinema when he finishes his, he'd probably take them off her plate.

In future refuse to drive and you go into the takeaway and hang on to the food!

Greed isn't attractive but neither is stinginess - buy a bag of chips each next time.

@Rememberwhatthedoorknobsaid ,if they did that, he'd probably eat his then expect her to share hers.

I wouldn't get worked up about it and would think less calories for me! Every cloud and all that! Yes, it's technically unfair and greed is disgusting, so if you wanted to and were able to eat half then he shouldn't have denied you the opportunity to do so.

He's a child, you're not his mother. Leave him.

I wouldn't get worked up about it and would think less calories for me! Every cloud and all that!

What makes you think the OP wants to eat fewer calories? She ordered a kebab and chips!

It sounds like he's got an eating disorder!!! 😋

I couldn't be with someone who is so greedy, selfish and inconsiderate.

If he does he's not hiding it very well!

So you wouldn't get worked up about it, but also he shouldn't have eaten them and it's disgusting...

Talk about picking a side...