Should I give my honest to God opinion or just keep quiet?

[Payets]

So my sister and I are very close. It’s the kind of relationship where I could say “you can’t out in that you look hideous”. There would be no fallout as it’s recognised it’s coming from a good place.

Anyway, she’s getting married and we are just very different. I’m more detail oriented and type A. Where is a little slap dash and low effort.

I would say I have good taste and friends often ask me to go furniture or clothes shopping with them.

Sister showed me her wedding invites and they were truly awful. I shared alternatives. Said they were a little dated. Offered my services re ribbon tying and wax seal applying. But sister was like “who gives a shit”. I can tell she is getting annoyed.

No word of a lie she had used a border not too dissimilar to the one I had attached. Her wedding is very much not cheap either!

Do I change the habit of a lifetime and allow her to make shit choices??

Im very aware it’s her wedding so will for say “and the end of the day it’s up to you, it’s your wedding”.

If she’s getting annoyed then leave her to it

Its her wedding

I couldn’t care about this at all (and I’m more a type A!) - it’s her wedding, her choice. Stay out of it!

It’s absolutely nothing to do with you essentially. She can have whatever she wants and you may cause a lot of upset if you say anything.

She's made her choice and has already told you she doesn't want your idea of "classy"

Just drop it.

That's not a terrible border...

It’s pretty gross of you tbh. Crass and controlling.

Let her express herself for her own wedding.

Not your circus...

What do you mean?

I always think and always will do that if it's your wedding you should do what you want

Aren't wedding invites just about different tastes? And everyone has different tastes

I only give my input when directly asked. So far I have been honest. But in a tactful, proactive manner. We are sisters and best friends and have always been brutally honest with one another.

It’s not coming from a place of me wanting to take control

You said she is getting annoyed, so stop. It's her wedding and she obviously likes them. You don't need to like them, it's not your wedding.

Is her fiancée nice to her, they appear to love her? I thought you were worried she was marrying a terrible mistake.
let her plan her own wedding and only chip in if asked

And yet...

You called them dated, offered to help with something that would be wildly different to she wants (going from something kind of tropical to classic wax seals...) and won't drop it because YOU don't feel it's appropriate even though SHE is ok with it?

Doesn't sound tactful and does sound controlling

Her wedding, she does as she wants. Just support her

????

I have dropped it

That wasn't what this thread suggested

Wax seal 😂

It really doesn't matter OP. In five years no one will remember the flower borders, the centre pieces or the colour of the cake.

They're invitations - no one remembers them. Some people just send email invasions these days, definitely not worth it, just let it go

Oh my days I have seen some wedding horrors, this is not the worst. Let her do her thing. Not your circus and not your problem.

I had to endure a vile plastic ring and a dreadful poem inserted into it once. The bride chose them and swiftly had several affairs, all too sordid for words. I hope your sister has a much, much happier marriage x

Hilarious.

A lot of people use it as a way to attach names in place of place settings 🤷

Ribbon tying and wax seals sounds like a very different style of invitation, and a lot of work. If wedding planning is stressing your sister then suggesting additional tasks probably isn't helpful.
Does your sister have colours chosen for bridesmaids' dresses/flowers/groom's tie/chair bows because that might give inspiration for her invitations? Although, nobody is going to remember or care what they looked like, just that the font is legible and they contain all necessary information.

But that's a VERY different tone to the tropical/bright vibes the border suggests...

Do I change the habit of a lifetime and allow her to make shit choices??

I hope this is meant tongue in cheek because you’re definitely coming across badly. Her life choices aren’t about what you think are shit and you don’t “let” people make choices in life, they don’t need permission. In my experience people saying they’re being brutally honest usually just means being unnecessarily rude and giving unsolicited advice then dressing it up like a favour because you’re “so honest”. This whole thread is weird.

Hehe. Reminds me of Taskmaster.

I would see it as pretentious on an invite, but we all have different tastes don't we. You think hers is shit, but luckily it's not your choice. Leave her be.

Sister isn’t having a tropical theme. She just googled floral border I bet.