WWYD? My best friend has posted pictures of my kids AGAIN without my consent

[Chaibaby]

Help me process this please.....
My best friend has her own business and does a lot of promotion and marketing on social media platforms.

A few months ago she used an image of my child on these (without my consent), promoting her business with the usual #hashtags, and trying to attract new customers, actively asking people to come and check out her page.
Her security settings are not private, so this goes EVERYWHERE and to EVERYONE, on multiple social media platforms.
I didn't know she was planning this, and when I saw it, immediately asked her to take it down, explaining I wasn't comfortable with it, and concerned that any Tom Dick or Harry will be looking at my child. I felt it wasn't appropriate and completely unrelated to her work. It was unashamedily self promotion. I also explained tht I didn't like the idea of her using my children and 'marketing fodder' for her to promote herself and get more likes, dangling images of a cute child to get attention doesn't sit right. She apologised, and removed the image. We moved on.

Now it has happened again, only now there are more tags (including high profile celebrities). With the purpose I assume to gain more traction out there, and increase footfall to her FB, Insta etc. She introduced my child in the post by name and shared and other details (favourite toys etc)
Again, once I saw this, I immediately asked for her to remove this.
She apologised and said she didn't mean to offend me. Again I have had to be quite graphic about the safeguarding issue here, and what can happen to these images when the wrong person gets them, the dangers of posting childrens details online.

I'm so upset this has happened again, and feel utterly horrible at having to call this out. I've been in floods of tears about it.
AIBU expecting someone to know this basic online ettiquete?
She has now cancelled a trip we had planned together later in the year, being cold add distant. I've asked to if we can talk about this, and been shut down. And I'm left feeling like the world's worst person, and looks like I've lost my best friend. Actually crying as I write this...
I've been left feeling so angry about this, bloodly social media - I feel like her ego is more important than my child's protection. But she just doens't get it.
What do I do? Any advise is greatly recieved.

YANBU to say she can't post your kids on social media, it's out of order and disrespectful once you've said no. But safeguarding? Floods of tears? You're definitely overreacting on that count.

This isn’t a best friendship Op

or at least not in my books

she disrespects you.

and her response is petulant

if this is your “best” friend, you have my heartfelt sympathies

And I'm left feeling like the world's worst person, and looks like I've lost my best friend. Actually crying as I write this...

oh come on OP. Buck up. This is a petulant person acting unpleasantly. Really nothing to be wailing about

Help you “process it”?

seriously

She's no friend. YANBU

However, I think it's a bit of a leap to say it's a safeguarding issue. Not to detract from your point - you have every right to say no to your child's image being used on her social media pages.

I think I would be grateful that this so call friend was backing away. She doesn't sound like much of a friend to me.

I would be inclined to publicly state that she remove the images as you have previously requested.
Shame her on her own page. 🤨

Your kids your rules but my God what an overreaction on your part. What do you do? Walk away from the friendship I guess.

You’re in the right about the social media. But it sounds like you have reacted quite emotionally.

Not sure about the safeguarding and floods of tears 🙄 Dramatic much!

But it's your choice if you don't want your child on social media and your friend should respect your wishes.

Not sure about the 'floods of tears' and crying whilst you type.

But YANBU.

I don't believe anyone should be posting photos of kids on social media, including their parents.

Don't let her take any more photos and if you are posting them yourself online, make sure she doesn't have access to them.

You walk away. She’s no friend

She has now cancelled a trip we had planned together later in the year, being cold add distant

You should have done this @Chaibaby , not her. She is absolutely in the wrong and you need to be an adult about this and shut down this so-called friendship.
If she does not respect your wishes, especially when it comes to your children’s privacy not only once but the twice then that is a two strikes and she is out situation for me. She is no friend.

Why does she think she has the right to be cold and distant when she's the one to blame? That would really put me off her and I wouldn't go chasing after her, either.

She is absolutely in the wrong here. She has disrespected your rules, and of course it’s a safeguarding risk! I would be very upset too.

Is she worth crying over if she has repeatedly trampled over your boundaries with regards to your child?

I bet if you spend a couple of minutes thinking it over you’ll be able to identify other instances of her ignoring your boundaries or putting her needs over yours.

Setting aside the safeguarding aspect, she is exploiting your child for financial gain. Child models receive financial compensation just as adults do. Her business should have a marketing budget.

I’m guessing that you are crying because you are upset that your friend has treated you so poorly, I’m not sure why previous posters are suggesting you are overreacting- I’d be furious.

WWID?

More like what have I done.

I told him that I had repeatedly asked for him to not do this and his 'jokey' comments and then doing it again against my wishes were unacceptable and constituted harassment.

I said that any such further incidents would result in me going legal.

He then behaved in an aggressive manner and tried to do various things amongst our friends. My friends tried to keep the peace but accepted why I was so upset and respected that.

He was the one who decided to be pathetic about it in the end and eventually fell out with everyone else over his general behaviour.

I haven't felt any desire to apologise or rekindle the friendship. He wanted me to come back to him with a grovelling apology, which less than impressed the others as I'd done nothing wrong and honestly I wasn't remotely interested.

Ditch. This is not your friend.

I get that you are concerned, but unless you're going to drip feed that you and your kids are in witness protection/escaping abuse your reaction is WAY over the top. People see your kids all the time assuming they leave the house, presumably without floods of tears on your part. They could even take photos of them.

Why was this person even near enough to your children to be taking photos of them?!

OP, did she take the photos herself or did you put them online and she used them for her business?

Oh come on, that’s not the same thing at all.

How would you feel if someone used your image in an advertising campaign without your permission?

Honestly I’d be telling her to fucking grow up!

He was supposed to be a good friend.

He'd taken photos in a third party setting without permission.

I went ape shit because we do actually opt out of having photos taken in that situation.

A friend would ask first to post the photos to promote.
A friend would definitely not do it a 2nd time after being asked to remove it the first time as you were upset over it.

She is not your friend.

But after he carried on
repeatedly