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AIBU?

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To never invite them again.

291 replies

PatrickDog · 10/05/2025 19:21

We have just come today from a holiday with my parents, me, DS and his girlfriend.

Just to add DS and his girlfriend asked to come and everyone had their own space, they had their own room and were able to do whatever they wanted and when so not tied to us.

Neither DS nor his girlfriend paid to come bar their spends as my parents wanted to do something nice. Previously to this I have spent limited time with the girlfriend and thought she seemed nice. She stays over a couple of times a week but I just leave them to it.

On holiday DS girlfriend complained about absolutely everything!

We stayed at a resort. On site the entertainment ended at 10.30pm and last orders was 11pm. DS girlfriend complained every single night how she couldn't believe it. We were very near a major nightlife place they could have got a taxi for less than a fiver and stayed out late.

Some of the on site attractions only opened in the afternoon. She complained. Again there was lots just off site.

DS and his girlfriend went to a paid for attraction of their choosing. Girlfriend complained the entire way round that certain small sections weren't open. The main things were. She also moaned that they had been rushed out to the attraction they had chose (at 2pm, it shut at 5!)

On the last full day she had a complete strop about DS wanting to go to the pool for the first time and screamed at DS who then skulked about miserable.

On the flight and journey home DS was out of character really rude to one of my parents who is now (rightly) absolutely livid as they paid for something special for DS girlfriend to moan all week and DS to shout and be rude to them.

Between them they ruined my parents holiday and in turn mine because now I'm getting it in the neck from both sides because DS is angry at being called out for his behaviour and my parents are massively pissed by the behaviour of both.

Neither of them thanked my parents for their free holiday.

I'm pretty upset tbh.

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AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 10/05/2025 19:22

Of course you shouldn’t invite them again. And they should be told why.

suburberphobe · 10/05/2025 19:24

God, she sounds insufferable. What an utter self-obsessed bitch.

Hope he dumps her soon.

Delatron · 10/05/2025 19:24

Yeah it sounds awful. I feel for your parents (and you!). They should be made to apologise and no don’t do a family holiday like this again. This is why we don’t!

SALaw · 10/05/2025 19:24

You named the post “AIBU to never invite them again?”. I mean, that’s surely a given?! It’s surely about what you do about the holiday you just had and about the fact that your son behaved appallingly, both in not shutting the girlfriend’s behaviour down on a holiday paid for by his grandparents and then about shouting at them.

Holesintheground · 10/05/2025 19:25

Well, guess that's their last free holiday then!

I'd say to your parents that you agree so say anything else they want to get off their chests to DS. They don't need to convince you!

To DS, I'd say you don't want to hear any more about it. I would be polite to the girlfriend when she was around but I wouldn't be making a big or special effort again.

DisforDarkChocolate · 10/05/2025 19:26

Did no one call our her bratty behaviour at the time?

She'd also be spending a lot less time at my house now.

LivingLaVidaBabyShower · 10/05/2025 19:27

Obviously never invite them again

I would be giving my son a sit down and a firm word.

Horrible and disappointing behaviour

strawlight · 10/05/2025 19:29

How old are they?

I’d be sitting them down and reading them the riot again in a very calm but firm way. They both need to apologise to everyone especially your parents.

YearlySubscriptionRenewal · 10/05/2025 19:33

DS is your son - or I am getting spectacularly confused.

Just tell him his behaviour was unacceptable. Don't go into details about his girlfriend specifically, but tell him that you are so disappointed about the constant moaning.

I would have had a word from the first day to be honest, not wait until you're back. Even as an adult, he's still your kid, you can talk to him surely.

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 10/05/2025 19:34

Agree with above and knock the overnight stays at yours on the head. She sounds awful and your DS is enabling her.

PatrickDog · 10/05/2025 19:34

I called her out multiple times. I initially started off explaining nicely that it was out of season and things on site wouldn't be open as late as a result as the main season staff hadn't arrived yet. Later on more annoyed.

I wouldn't mind if she goes on a lot of holidays and is used to better but her parents never take her (I bloody know why now!)
It was our first holiday since 2017 ourselves so I'm Livid.

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PatrickDog · 10/05/2025 19:35

strawlight · 10/05/2025 19:29

How old are they?

I’d be sitting them down and reading them the riot again in a very calm but firm way. They both need to apologise to everyone especially your parents.

21 and 23 which makes it even worse. Both adults!

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PatrickDog · 10/05/2025 19:35

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 10/05/2025 19:34

Agree with above and knock the overnight stays at yours on the head. She sounds awful and your DS is enabling her.

I don't want her in my house at all.

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TheAutumnCrow · 10/05/2025 19:36

I can’t wrap my head around this. My DS and his gf (early 20s) are downstairs in my house making dinner, and they really wouldn’t behave like this. And if for some bizarre reason they edged toward it, I’d snap at them while it was happening.

Definitely tell them to shut the fuck up now, and to have a think about saying sorry and thank you to the grandparents.

And I agree with pp that you should tell your parents you agree with them and to direct any further ire toward your son. (Are they pissed off you didn’t manage your son & gf at the time?)

Annascaul · 10/05/2025 19:37

Are they both adults? If so, they had a bloody cheek glomming onto your holiday in the first place, without feeling the need to part with a penny.
I don’t know why you didn’t treat them like the childish brats they were acting like, whatever their actual ages.

Annascaul · 10/05/2025 19:38

PatrickDog · 10/05/2025 19:35

21 and 23 which makes it even worse. Both adults!

Oh! Shameful.

IveGotAnUnusuallyLargePelvisISwear · 10/05/2025 19:38

Honestly, I’d read my child the riot act if they dared behaved that way. And like you OP I wouldn’t want that insufferable madam in my home ever again.

He needs to give his grandparents a heartfelt apology and to thank them properly for the holiday that they paid for.

Evaka · 10/05/2025 19:40

Fair play for calling her out OP. What an utter brat. Hope your son is having second thoughts, she won't be good for him as a partner.

Totallytoti · 10/05/2025 19:41

I’d be so embarrassed to have raised a child like this. Why didn’t you pull him up right then and there. And as for that horrible girlfriend why didn’t you tell her to be grateful and have some respect for everyone. They both sound a disgrace.

Ponderingwindow · 10/05/2025 19:41

Do you think your son was happy to the the holiday? You may not have anything to worry about.

NoBiscuitsLeftInMyTin · 10/05/2025 19:42

Totallytoti · 10/05/2025 19:41

I’d be so embarrassed to have raised a child like this. Why didn’t you pull him up right then and there. And as for that horrible girlfriend why didn’t you tell her to be grateful and have some respect for everyone. They both sound a disgrace.

I suspect that DS is severely under the thumb from from his GF and hopefully this is the wake up call he needs. Ungrateful bitch.

FiendsandFairies · 10/05/2025 19:42

Cripes! What a cow!

NineteenSeventyNine · 10/05/2025 19:42

Have you had a firm chat with DS about her (and his) behaviour? And has he apologised to your parents?

Totallytoti · 10/05/2025 19:43

In my day if parents or grandparents were around and we visited a bf/gf place there wasn’t anything we wouldn’t do to show our gratitude or respect. It’s disgusting how children and young adults behave today. But then again my dp’s would have given you a smack for this behaviour and now it’s al wishy washy gentle parenting. Don’t allow her in your home and tell her why. If your ds doesn’t like it then he can go bugger off with her. Disgraceful pair

BMW6 · 10/05/2025 19:44

Time he moved out I think. Certainly I would tell him that she is not to set foot in your house again. Their behaviour was outrageous and both owe your parents a massive apology.