Lost weight but husband hasn’t tried

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Tell me if I’m being awful. I have lost a stone recently but my husband is significantly much more overweight and it really annoys me to see him still eating crisps, sweets etc and not caring. It’s been really hard going and I feel like I need some support and encouragement. I’m making healthy meals but he just snacks afterwards. He laid on the sofa with his belly out and it physically repulsed me. Feels like he’s being deliberately unpleasant and unsupportive. Or should I just think it’s up to him if he wants to carry on being obese?

Agreed

Thank you. Whatever you all say, eating a family size bag of crisps topless next to wife who’s trying so hard to lose weight and cook good meals is NOT attractive. Perhaps those who think this is ok spend evenings doing the same? Otherwise why defend it? He’s about 4 stone overweight and diabetic and won’t do anything about it, it’s just so frustrating. However much you love someone, we all surely want them to be healthy and would be upset if they refused to help themselves? Watching clips from My 600 lb life shows the reality of huge weight gain and we all wonder who’s feeding them when they have to hoist them out of bed! I am Not going to let us get in that situation

Perhaps those who think this is ok spend evenings doing the same? Otherwise why defend it?

Why shouldn't they if that's what they want to do in their own homes?

You're moaning about people judging you, while you're judging overweight people who don't feel the need to cover up in the privacy of their own houses.

You do you and forget about others.

Best of luck with it all and fingers crossed that you husband will get into the same mindset as you eventually

You are not being unreasonable,if he is diabetic then he's setting himself up for more problems,type 2 can be reversed,.
Good on you for considering your health and keep doing what your doing. He's stuck in his own misery and won't face reality .His loss. If he wants to eat like this then he can go and buy it,you stop buying it.
Yes you should be on this journey together,. Keep going,you may leave him behind,you do t want an enabler or stuck looking after someone with co morbidity 's.Im shocked by the comments ,you go for it and don't let him drag you back.

Firstly, well done on losing a stone! That's amazing! And the fact you've done it by just changing your diet is even more awesome!

If the sight of your DH on the sofa eating a share bag of crisps and his belly hanging out repulses you then that's quite normal. I think that would repulse most people!

Your DH is being inconsiderate. It's SO important to look after your health, especially if you want to be around to enjoy life.

My MIL was so stubborn when it came to food and would laugh at the doctors who told her to diet. Ultimately it was her T2 diabetes and diet that caused her to pass away, and her weight stopped her doing so many things with her grandchildren.

I'd have a word with your DH. Tell him you're working really hard to lose weight, and that having him sit eating crap in front of you when you've just cooked a healthy meal is rude and inconsiderate. I'd suggest to him that he eats more of the healthy food instead of junk.

Who does the food shop? Can you just not buy crisps and junk?

We are both in our 40's (46) and yes, my husband does things that annoys me, it's normal.....but not to a degree where I've found him unattractive or repulsive.....do you still have a loving relationship outside of this? I know you said you have no intention of splitting up, but if that sides gone you've still got a long time together

gosh - so only 5% ae women? is that becasue they take better care of themselves?