Apparently I’m attention seeking

[PooStep]

Currently on holiday with DH, MIL, FIL, SIL and her husband.
Before we even got here they had all been going on about this specific breakfast in the specific restaurant that is a local speciality. It was decided we would go there on our first morning and get this item.
So first morning, this item is mentioned again and they’re all excited about getting it. The way they were going on I was assuming this item was all they sold in the morning so I said too I was up for trying it.

We got to the restaurant- sat down and FIL told the waitress we wanted 6 of said item. I then said “actually, I wouldn’t mind having a Quick Look at the menu?”. I saw MIL roll her eyes and I’m pretty sure SIL pulled a face too but can’t be certain. DH then whispered to me “don’t start this now for gods sake” !? Was asking for the menu really so bad? I’d noticed as we walked in that everyone was eating different things so clearly there was more on offer than this one item. I ended up choosing something different, I didn’t realise however that mine would take longer to arrive so I was sat without anything while they all ate theirs. SILs husband did say “shall we wait until Poostep’s arrives?” And MIL said “no I don’t think so, we came in for these didn’t we, I don’t want mine going cold”. So they all ate. Mine arrived 15 minutes later and naturally I was sat eating on my own after they all finished.
later DH asked me if I was going to be seeking attention throughout the holiday. So were they right to be annoyed?

Your dh is a dick!

They are a massive bag of dicks 🤷‍♀️

They sound bonkers to be annoyed.

I wouldn't care that they ate before mine arrived; no point in them letting their food go cold - but they sound weirdly obsessed with this food item if they're offended that you didn't want it too?

Your in-laws don’t like you and or are very odd about this food/restaurant, if not about other things too.

Why didn’t the restaurant serve all of your food at the same time?

I feel there's more to this..... do you have a history of being difficult as why else would your husband say that?
Would it have really hurt to have gone along with everyone else?

Do your family normally behave like this? It sounds bizarre. It was poor of the restaurant not to serve you all at the same time but that's hardly your fault!

Do these people all march along in lockstep, ordering the same food, doing the same thing, thinking the same thoughts? To the extent that someone ordering a different menu item counts as heresy and dangerous? 😀

Why would the OP order a dish she didn’t want, purely for the benefit of ‘going along with everyone else’?

Hmmm. You'd said you also wanted to try the Mystery Breakfast Item so it was probably a bit annoying for the others when you changed your mind and a simple breakfast trip became a bit more complicated.

I think the restaurant was wrong to not bring all the food out together/close together so therefore don't think they were wrong for not waiting for your food to come. But yes, there are completely overreacting just because you wanted something different to them regardless of if you said you would have this said prized item before you got there.

It’s fine to order what you want but it seems like your in laws think you’re generally difficult and don’t seem to like you. Your dh sides with them.

They don’t like you.
Up to you how you handle that.

I have to ask… what was this very special item???

Does your dh normally get cross if you have your own ideas or ‘step out of line’ in other ways?

How could you have known yours would take longer.
It’s perfectly reasonable to consult the menu.

My family would have expected and waited for all the meals to come at once, not start eating when they wanted theirs more quickly. That’s bad manners.

What “attention” does your husband think you got from what happened? It’s not attention seeking to choose a meal, which makes me wonder if this is a stock phrase he trots out all the time?

They all sound ignorant and bad mannered.

What is the rest of the story? It is poor service from a restaurant not bringing the meals together

I just want to know what the MBI (mystery breakfast item) is.

Why did you change your mind at the last minute?

It depends. They could just be unreasonable rude people or you could have form for being awkward, difficult or high maintenance and they let their feelings show this once.

It sounds like, rightly or wrongly, they saw this shared breakfast as an activity for you all to do together and share the experience and you didn’t see it like that, after all it’s only a breakfast item! They’ve taken your failure to join in as something more than it was and you didn’t realise the importance they placed on this breakfast item.

it’s no big deal but I think I’d have gone along with them because why not, it’s only one breakfast and it’s something they were excited to share together.

@MagpiePi and me. I can't imagine any MBI that's worth this fuss 😂

Why couldn't you just have enjoyed their experience OP, I probably would have. And it is better when food arrives together.

It’s hardly complicating matters to order a different item in a cafe, that’s how menus work :)

I’m a bit split on this one.

How can you be unreasonable for ordering what you want from a menu?

But I think this might be about shared experience and maybe they wanted you to know how good it was. You were basically turning down their perceived lovely experience/strong recommendation. Are they normally so easily offended?

But, nope, there’s nothing wrong with turning down a recommendation. Eye rolling I would ignore (it can be so hard not too) but the rest is so rude. Were they even in a hurry to leave the restaurant? If not, why does it even matter yours took longer, you’re on holiday for goodness sake.

The food not arriving together is down to the cafe, not OP.