Apparently I’m attention seeking

[PooStep]

Currently on holiday with DH, MIL, FIL, SIL and her husband.
Before we even got here they had all been going on about this specific breakfast in the specific restaurant that is a local speciality. It was decided we would go there on our first morning and get this item.
So first morning, this item is mentioned again and they’re all excited about getting it. The way they were going on I was assuming this item was all they sold in the morning so I said too I was up for trying it.

We got to the restaurant- sat down and FIL told the waitress we wanted 6 of said item. I then said “actually, I wouldn’t mind having a Quick Look at the menu?”. I saw MIL roll her eyes and I’m pretty sure SIL pulled a face too but can’t be certain. DH then whispered to me “don’t start this now for gods sake” !? Was asking for the menu really so bad? I’d noticed as we walked in that everyone was eating different things so clearly there was more on offer than this one item. I ended up choosing something different, I didn’t realise however that mine would take longer to arrive so I was sat without anything while they all ate theirs. SILs husband did say “shall we wait until Poostep’s arrives?” And MIL said “no I don’t think so, we came in for these didn’t we, I don’t want mine going cold”. So they all ate. Mine arrived 15 minutes later and naturally I was sat eating on my own after they all finished.
later DH asked me if I was going to be seeking attention throughout the holiday. So were they right to be annoyed?

It just does.

If you are all together and everyone but one is sharing an experience (after they said they would, but changed their mind), then it can dampen down the group as a whole.

OP hadn't previously shared the experience, and actively chose not to.

I don't really get all this 'shared experience' thing about the food - going to the restaurant together is surely the shared experience. Why do you need to eat the exact same thing? If everyone wanted to go to a pizza restaurant to try a specific pizza but one person ended up ordering pasta would that really be the whole night ruined??
I mean, I love my food more than most but even I couldn't begin to imagine wanting everyone to eat identically to me to have a 'shared experience'

Too hard to call this one. If the place is famous for its cinnamon buns and you ordered a full English (for example), maybe they have a point. It does seem like there’s a bit of a back story that they find you difficult and you double down, but without the full details, we will never know!

I'm sorry but if the fact that 1/6 people chose to eat something different would "dampen" your experience then you need to get a grip. If OP was allergic/intolerant would she still be attention seeking?

Exactly. It depends on the detail I think. If mystery item is pretty much ready to hand out to customers I can see why it would be annoying for someone to order something which needs to be cooked/prepared at the time.

This.

I’d hazard a guess that since your DH felt the need to comment and your MIL and SIL were clearly not happy, you probably have form for being difficult.

I want churros now.

I wouldn’t wait 15 minutes while your order came

There definitely feels like more to this.

I don’t think I have form for being difficult at all, my only crime is liking to try different things. Another example was walking along and seeing a stall selling these pineapple mocktail things. SIL and her husband said they looked amazing and they wanted to try them. MIL and FIL said they did too and asked DH and I if we wanted one. DH said we did but I said I’d have a Quick Look to see what else they do. FIL then snapped “you sort yours out then, I’ll go and get all the others”. DH again said “can’t you just get what everyone else is having??” Why does it matter??! So they all walked off with their pineapple drinks whilst I chose something for myself. They made a point of walking off and leaving me behind so I had to catch up. I said to DH it wouldn’t have killed him to wait so again he accused me of attention seeking

Since when does having a different preference suggest the alternative idea is shit?! Surely people aren’t this fragile and egotistical? It wouldn’t even occur to me not to make my own choices in such situations, and I certainly wouldn’t be “going with the flow” if it was things I didn’t want to do. Isn’t the point of a holiday that everyone enjoys themselves? Sometimes that will mean people making different choices around food or activities. Literally only a toddler would sulk if the group weren’t all traipsing around like a hive mind.

I wouldn’t wait 15 mins while my food went cold.
that said - I wouldn’t be going on holiday with them again/

Yes you were attention seeking.

You're doing it now.

Would it have killed you to eat the fucking churros and eat something else another day?

OP only agreed because she was under the impression it was all they served. You can't control what other people eat in order to please yourself.

That was meant to be in reply to @BeyondMyWits

Weird and controlling of all of them. Do they enjoy poking and then sneering when someone loses their cool a bit?

Fuck me, am I in a parallel universe this morning...some of these responses are totally batshit!

OP the only thing you did wrong was marrying that dickhead and going on holiday with them

You really need to stop living up your own ass if you genuinely think this. Other people’s choices are not a reflection on your own. Isn’t the “experience” just being there together? Why does it matter if someone has a different food preference?

Yes ok this is a very similar scenario so maybe I was wrong on this occasion

Who lost their cool?

You're not a child but being treated like one by your husband. Is he like this at home?

Were you at San Ginès? I think in practice they don’t really serve anything other than churros, though other things exist on the (tiny) menu. But I doubt that the OP would have seen lots of people eating other things at breakfast time at a specialist churrèria…?

So it's a common theme.. as a family, they find it easier and more fun to try things together. They aren't willing to accommodate you.

You like to tey different things and as a matter of principle will choose something different.

So both you and your in laws are pretty inflexible.

Madness. They really seem to want everyone walking in lockstep don't they?! I can't relate at all.

If someone said “there’s this amazing curry place, I’m desperate to try their biryani” the only thing I’d think was that THEY wanted to eat the biryani. Not that they assumed I’d eat it too

Except that’s not what happened here. OP confirmed with the fam that she wanted to try the dish. Nothing more was said until they got to the restaurant and FiL placed the order and only at this point did OP decide nah, don’t want that dish after all, let me see the menu.

It is highly unlikely that a restaurant would only serve a single item on its breakfast menu so that’s the part of her story I’m not buying.

It all seems very small-fry as an issue so I’m thinking either OP has the rudest in-laws (and husband) going OR she has form for being a bit awkward. Either way, ‘attention-seeking’ is the wrong descriptor.