DH said he's leaving because I'm having another drink

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I have just hosted all my in laws 8 adults and more children, including my own 4 under 5! Full roast dinner, made it, cooked it, cleaned it, cleaned entire house before and looked after everyone. No one else did anything really other than DH carving the meat. I have filled everyone's drinks ho5 and cold. Fed dn a snack by hand. Bf one of my dc and now after they have left I have opened another bottle of wine and said this one is mine. DH has said if I drink it he is leaving. Aibu to tell him to crack on as I have had enough!

Is there more to this than first appears?

Unless you have a drink problem, I don't really see what his issue is.

What’s the back story?

Seems like quite a lot to me but also the OP should have spoken up at any stage and asked people to help.

Well that rather depends on what your relationship with alcohol is like really? Also how much you have already had and when the baby next needs breastfeeding.

alcohol aside why did your DH and his family let you act as chef and waitress all day?

There must be a back story to this.

If you do everything all the time and want a drink after a busy day, he sounds like a twat.

If you’re an alcoholic and he has to put up with you drunk every day then he’s probably sick of your shit.

You can’t drink a whole bottle of wine while looking after and breastfeeding a baby/toddler!
If you meant this glass of wine is mine then that’s completely reasonable.

Why did you martyr yourself rather than just asking for help from the houseful of people?

Should you drink a bottle of wine if you're bf?

It does sound like he could have helped more. Or did he look after the kids whist you cooked and cleaned?
Maybe he is worried about the amount of wine and breastfeeding

Is there more to this OP? What's your history with alcohol? If you're having your first glass today after all that work then OK but sounds like there's more...

Assuming you are not an alcoholic, he really needs to leave, micro managing your partner is not ok.

How much have you already had to drink? I get that’s your choice but if you’ve already drunk a bit and are preparing to knock back an entire bottle of wine to yourself he’s maybe worried.

You have posted this before. And it transpired you indeed have a problem with alcohol.

The whole bottle of wine is yours?!

Unfortunate username for a comment like this lol

But also whole bottle of wine whilst breastfeeding - is this the crux of the story we are meant to be honing in on?

Are you a bad drunk perhaps op?

YANBU but why is saying he’s leaving?

4 children under 5 and an alcohol problem. It seems like you could really use some support. I’m shocked your in-laws would take advantage of you in this way.

Think about the impact of your drinking on your family.

you're being disingenuous by failing to highlight the backstory and trying to get agreement on here that it's your DH is being unreasonable/controlling whatever.

i feel really sorry for him if you do have a drink problem that you're refusing to address.

Your OP reads like THAT episode of The Bear.

The OP needs to fill in the backstory. She's probably made numerous commitments to address her drinking and he's finally had enough.

OP nobody here can tell you if your drinking is or isn’t normal based on this post alone.

Being high functioning as an alcoholic doesn’t mean it’s ok, if that’s why you have said how much you have done today before drinking.

Do you have a drinking problem?